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தேடுகின்றேன் நான்

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தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

உண்மை பேசும் முக நூல் நட்புக்களை,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

உயிராய் இருக்கும் நண்பர்களை,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

உறவு சொல்லும் நண்பர்களை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

 நான் செய்யும் தவறுகளை சுட்டிக் காட்டும் நண்பர்களை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

திருமணம் முடிந்தும் தோழிகளைத் தேடும் பெண்களை,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

வாங்கிய கடனை திரும்ப கேட்பதற்கு முன் திருப்பிக் கொடுக்கும் உறவுகளை,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

எனது இந்தியாவில் தொண்டன் அல்ல அரசியல் தலைவன் தீக்குளிப்பதை,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

போலியில்லாத உறவுகளை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

அன்பை போலியாக்கிடா மனிதரை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

 நேசத்தை நாசமாக்கா மனிதரை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

மதம் பேசாத மனிதனை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

மனிதம் பேசிடும் மானிடனை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

காதலில்லா, காமமில்லா மனிதனை நண்பனை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

கைபிடி அளவே இதயம் அதில் காயமில்லா மனிதனை

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

தன்னுடன் பணி செய்யும் சக மனிதனின் வெற்றியில் பூரிப்படையும் நேசத்தை

தேடி த் தேடி அலைந்தாலும்,

தோற்றுப் போகிறேன், துவண்டு போகிறேன்

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

சோர்ந்து போகாதே என் கண்மனி எனும் என் தாயின் நேசத்தை உன்னிடமும்,

தேடுகின்றேன் நான்,

இவர்களுக்குள் இருக்கும் வித்தியாசத்தை கடக்க என்ன செய்ய வேண்டுமென

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Eswar-Allah-Tere-Naam

ஈஸ்வர் அல்லா தேரே நாம் – காந்தியால் எழுதப்பட்ட வரிகள், சுதந்திர போராட்டத்திற்கு காந்தியால் ராம பஜனாக பாடபட்ட பாடல், இதில் இஸ்லாமியர்கள் அல்லா எங்கணம் வந்தார் எதற்காக எழுதப் பட்டது என்று தெரியாது.

இஸ்லாமியர்களால் ராமனுடன் ஓப்புமைக்கு இயலாத அல்லாவை இனையாக சொன்னது ஏற்றுக் கொள்ளப்பட்டதாஎன்றும் எனக்கு தெரியாது.

நான் காந்தியைப் பின்பற்றுபவளும் இல்லை, ஆனாலும் இந்த ஈஸ்வர அல்லா தேரே நாம் என்று சொல்லும் போது ஒரு ஆனந்தம் வருவது என்னமோ உண்மை.

Allah-Eswar

காரண காரியங்கள் இல்லாமல் ஒரு அனுவும் அசையாது என்று இறை மீது நம்பிக்கை உண்டு. நான் மதங்களை கடந்து மனிதர்களை நேசிப்பவள், மதங்களின் வழியாக மனிதர்களை பார்ப்பவள் இல்லை, மனிதர்களின் வழியாக மதத்தினைப் பார்க்கிறேன்….. அதனால் தானோ என் மனம் அமைதியின்றி தவிக்கிறது….

நான் மனிதன் என்பதனால் வருந்தவில்லை, நீ இஸ்லாமியர் என்பதால் கலங்குகிறேன்…. இஸ்லாம் சொல்லும் எதிலும் நீ இல்லாமல் இருந்து அந்த மார்க்கத்தையும், மனிதர்களையும் எங்கு கொண்டு செல்வாயோ? 

“மது குடிக்கலாம் ஆனால் போதை வரக்கூடாது!“ என்பது மாதிரி! மதுவின் தேவையே போதைதானே? அது போல தான் இன்று மதம் என்பதும் மனிதனுக்குள் போதையாகியது…..

மதம் என்பதும் ஒரு போதையாகிப் போனது விந்தையே….

ராமனும் ரஹீமும் ஒன்றாக இல்லாமல் இருக்கலாம், ஆனால் அவர்கள் குருதியின் நிறம் சென்னிறமே… அவர்கள் இருவரின் பிறப்பும் இருவரின் சங்க்மத்தில் உருவானது தானே? உயிர் இருக்கும் வரை மட்டுமே ராமன், ரஹீம், இறந்த அடுத்த நொடியில் இருவரும் பிணமாக மட்டுமே கருதப்படுகிறார்கள்.

மூச்சிற்கு முன்னூறு முறை ராமா, அல்லா, யேசுவே என்று சொல்லி அத்துனை கெடுதலகளையும் செய்வேன், இறைவன் என்னை மன்னிப்பான், ஒரு தாயைவிட 70000 மடங்கு அன்பு கொண்டவன் என்று அடி மனதில் நினைத்து, நான் எந்தவொரு தகாத செயலைச் செய்தாலும் எனக்கு மன்னிப்பு கிடைக்கும் என்று இருமாப்பில் இருக்கும் மானிடனே, மூடனாவாய் அந்த இறைவன் முன்பு. நல்லதை செய் நல்லதே நடக்கும், நல்லதை நினை, நல்லவையே பிறக்கும், எண்ணம் சிதறாமல் இருந்தால் உன் வாழ்க்கை சிதறாது. சிந்தையில் இறைவனின் எண்ணங்களை வை, அடுத்தவர் சிதையில் இல்லை…..

மதங்கள் என்பது மனிதனின் வாழ்க்கையை நெறி முறைப் படுத்தவே, இப்படி அடித்துக் கொண்டு சாஹவா? உன் மதம் உனக்கு பெரியதா, அதனை புனிதமாக பின்பற்றி அதன் புனிதத்தை எனக்கும் சொல்லிடு…

Be true to yourself

Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

Hey Dear All,

I am not blogging this as a part of learning some religion or to follow some religion. I am sharing this because if you want to follow your own religion follow it from the heart. If something mentioned here is wrong, please take it as an opportunity to correct my wisdom on the given contents from any religions.

Don’t ever pretend or take the do-able content from your religion and don’t do or show off something  to give an impression to others that you are clear and clean by heart as the other feels that you are following your religion from heart.

Friendship is something which is very green and pleasant to everyone. Here and there some will come and do little harm, insult, but the best of all relationship is friendship, because it doesn’t have blood relationship. It is very usual for people to have friendships with others whom they interact with . Friendships can be formed through growing up in the same neighborhood, meeting at school, college, university, social gatherings , working environment, gym, pub, restaurant and via a number of other activities.

Friendship is something common among people, however there are different conceptions of it. Some common conceptions include the following: friends will always stick by your side, you can always rely on a friend, you can speak freely to your friend and tell them your problems, friends like you for who you are, etc. When people have personal problems such as disputes with their family members or if they need advice they usually turn to their friends.

Do you know why god has not gifted the art of reading others mind, because he wants us to have the privilege of trusting, understanding and have faith in others.

When you start telling lies to your friend, do you know how it hurts the other person? Even before telling lies, I told you I will be saying a part of my life story to you as a lie. I will not be true in one scenario. I didn’t tell any lies to you. That is called as Sincerity. I tried to give trust by all means but you failed to keep up the trust in any means.

When you hurt someone, I believe you should face her in a remorseful way to show that you never meant to hurt her. If I was in her shoes I would want to know everything that goes around me, and if I discover that my friend exposed something and I found that out from someone else I would really get aggravated and I would feel that my friend isn’t worth trusting. “ONCE A LIAR IS ALWAYS A LIAR”

Don’t lie to your friend: 
One thing it is HARAM, second she is trusting you so don’t betray that trust if you let her know now you have a better chance of being trusted again than you would if you keep lying.

FOLLOW WHAT EVER YOUR HEART TELLS YOU, DON’T DO SOMETHING THAT YOU MIGHT END UP IN REGRETTING.

I do regret because of trusting you in-spite of knowing that you are lying to me. Over again and again I trusted you. All my pain is because of the trust what I had in you and I have to suffer for trusting you to this level. Yes I deserve punishment from god. You made me not to trust anyone in my life.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

In Today’s fast world most common problem in human is cheating others easily or to make fun of someone true feelings. If you are not serious for anything then don’t such things. Cheating/Betrayal is very painful for everyone. After hell of pain and agony, I am saying the below to the fellow people.

I am neither a follower of Islam nor Christianity and I am true to my religion. Even we don’t need to follow any religion, but we should not do harm to anyone by any means. Harm – unknowingly we do hurt others, but knowingly hurting others and giving them pain is sin in all the religions. There is no compulsion in any religion. Right has become distinct from wrong. So whoever rejects evil and puts faith in God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks.

I believe that God is hearing, knowing, and loving us. We don’t need to depend on others, but very few will make us to depend on them in the name of love for fun and they will ruin others life. This is to make someone understand that what their religion says about lying.

During a course of chat conversation, she said, I didn’t lie anything to you to harm you. I agree with her, may be her assumption is right, but there is a trust created in me. It is getting killed by your false statement which you were not aware of it or what?

After reading the below also, if you feel that you are not a liar, I am ready to change my assumption of saying tahat you are liar/cheater for your sake, I will say to the world she is not a liar, she talks only truth, when I will say that, I will not be true to myself. But I am ready to accept that you are not a liar or a cheater.

Lying

cheat-us-islamLying is among the sins of the heart. It is to utter false information while knowing that what one is saying is not the truth. It is sinful (haram) whether done seriously or jokingly.

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:

La yasluhul-kadhibu fi jiddiw wala fi hazl.  Which means: “Lying is not good, whether in seriousness or joking.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, also said:   Iyyaka wal-kadhib, fa’innal-kadhiba yahdi ilal-fujur. Wa innal-fujura yahdi ilan-nar. Wala yazalul-^abdu yakdhibu wa yataharral-khadhiba hatta yuktaba ^indallahi kadhdhaba.

Which means: “Do not ever lie, because lying leads to very hateful sins, and those in turn lead to Hellfire. One keeps on lying and seeks to do that until one is recorded as a liar in some books of Allah.” (Narrated by Ibn Majah.)

After reading the above tell me, to whom you were sincere?? I don’t need to explain on this because when we tell lies, it means that you are killing the trust what the other person has on you. It need not harm them, but it is not going to help them or make them happy. When someone tells you, you look beautiful even though it is not from heart, that is not a lie, it makes someone happier for that moment. Telling someone a lie which is not going to harm them, or not going to have an impact on them, but still it is a kind of betrayal because the other person has so much trust on you that you will not tell any lies to her.

Trust, faith are something’s which you can’t get from someone without love. When someone trust you, you have to try to keep up the trust and not to misuse the trust. I showed my trust and faith because of the love what I had for you. Even though you have lived all your life only with lies, I have given more trust and trust and poured the faith, but failed to get even one percent of truth from you.

There are many things that are among the sins of the tongue and fall under the class of lying. They include: swearing by Allah to a lie, false testimony, and falsely attributing something to Allah and His Prophet.

When you promised something to me in the name of god, I was not able to feel it as a truth, because you are born to tell only lies. By swearing-in the name of god, you made me to feel that it need not a truth and made me to feel that even in the name of god she will tell lies. That is the trust what you have given to me. I swear, I got an impression, she will do any harm in the name of god also and she will say it is not harm.

Swearing by Allah to a Lie:

It is one of the major sins. It is for one to swear by Allah to something that is opposite to the truth. An example is if one says, “By Allah, I did such and such” while knowing that one did not do that action. Similarly, if one says, “By Allah I did not do such and such” when one has done it. This is to be considered using God’s name in vain, which indicates falling short of glorifying Allah properly.

I do believe that you will not lie in the name of god but when you say 10000 lies, even a truth in the name of god becomes a false statement.

False testimony: This is one of the enormous sins. An example is for one to testify in front of a judge that someone stole something while one knows that it did not happen. “False testimony is like claiming that Allah has partners.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

Because of all your lies, now I feel even a true testimony from you whether it will be a truth or false statement? How do you expect me to trust you?

Severing the Obligatory Ties of Kinship

Severing the ties of kinship is among the sins of the body, and it is a major sin. This is done by breaking the hearts of the relatives by refusing to be good-hearted when they financially need money, or by leaving out visiting them without an excuse. If one usually helps one’s relatives, then one lost the money, or one found a more urgent need for it, then one would not be sinful for not offering it to one’s relatives. Avoiding people because they did something wrong to you or they tried to correct your mistakes or they treated you badly.

I don’t need to say about this, when one of your colleague was giving a party and the way you avoided it shows what kind of Muslim you are? When you can do this kind of arrogant attitude with a fellow Muslim lady, I can expect that you will do any kind of harm to me as I am from a different religion. When I heard it, I felt so bad because the way I had the trust in you, I thought you will not do these kind of silly things. How could you do this? whatever you discussed with me were words from your mouth not from heart.

Promotions are decided by the people who are ahead of us and if we don’t get it, it doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve it, god wanted someone else to get benefit out of it. You were saying that what is there I will get it when it is destined to me.. Now even if you get it doesn’t going to make anyone happy because the way you reacted to others happiness, will impact yours as well. I know you will not mind it because only humans will have

“Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqah (charity) followed by injury. And Allaah is Rich (Free of all wants) and He is Most-Forbearing.” [Quran 2:263]

I know how much I have forgiven you and tried to hold you not with hands, but with love and care, but you spoiled not only my trust but also killed my each and every cell with your ill attitude and behavior. I really don’t know how your parents will take when they hear about you from others, but I was brutally killed and I don’t feel like I have to live or to love anyone. You made me a dead body. I have life, but living like a dead body in grief because of the love for you.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood – God is with me, that’s why he made me to realize all your colors and made me to feel that this is a punishment for loving, trusting, caring, and showing the real affection to a person who don’t deserve it.

 Imām `Alī ibn Husayn (a.s.),

used to say to his son:“Keep away from little and big lies whether you are serious or kidding! Whoever tells lies in childhood, will do so in adulthood.”  Do you not know that the Messenger of Allāh (s.w.t) has said:
‘A servant may keep on speaking truthfully until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very truthful one, and a servant may keep on telling lies until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very lying one.’

[Reference: Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 69, p. 234]

To Speak the TRUTH, you don’t need to follow any RELIGION, just you need to follow your HEART. I quoted the above from your religion because you wrapped yourself saying that you are following your RELIGION and as per your Religion – how you need to be and what you are? You are not true even to god 😦 . 

Whatever I have given here are just to say that this is what you have to do, there is lot many more to come in your life and don’t give them the same pain. I am saying all these as  vent out all my pain, caused by you, without doing any harm to you. Even this is to guide you, to make you right in your way. If god can help you to correct your way, I will be thankful to him. I know I can’t do it, but god has to talk to you in a way so as you can change yourself. Of course he will touch you, if you don’t listen to him, he will shake you, if you don’t listen, then he will take the root so as you will know what you are doing is right or wrong.

Even after reading all this family values, if you say that you have a family value, oh god, what kind of value it is , please make me to understand it…..

Avoid at Work

Avoid at Work Place

Charity begins only at home and not at working environment. Nothing comes at charity in the work place.

I know I am very rigid and I have my own set of rules and I follow it sincerely whether those around me are good or bad. I have the tendency to help the people outside their work

I have a strong aversion to say I love you in the working environment, because it really gives an adverse effect. The only place where I have said I love you and I lost all my respect, dignity, honor, self-esteem, pride and above all my self-confidence is through that stupid lady.

I never had any over confidence. I am very sincere, I will tell my clients/customers that I don’t know, If I don’t know something and I never felt ashamed to say that I don’t know. It is better to say no than to say yes and feeling guilty at the end.

“I love you.” No, not at someone in the working environment.  When it is in my working environment I love you is for my work only and everywhere I mean it–and every time I used to feel it.

My Objective at work place  is “”I know for what I have come for, and I will do it with my head and heart open towards my goal of achieving my work or completing my task,” I will not give any rooms for sentiments or any kind of friendship in the working environment.

I don’t even remember the names of the guys with whom I was associated in the last 18 years. I remember very few names and all of them would have maintained a friendship with me after getting an exit from that environment. I know for sure there are many of my colleagues will remember me and they all will say that I am not a friendly person. But out of office environment, check my circle which is very big and am unable to meet out all of them due to time constraint.

I know for sure that the “I love you” at working environment will spoil our values. But I never expected that I love you out of office also will spoil everything and it can collapse us to this extent. I have some people around me from the same place as my asset, but the one because of whom I said I love you, I lost all my professional ethics and good values earned in the last 20 years. God bless her and show the pain of losing these values in professional environment through others.

I love my work and I don’t love the people for whom it is being delivered. I love to see the smiles of the people when I deliver the project/task successfully. I know I have some people as my friends after coming out of that organization. How happy I was with my personal discipline and morals? What happened to me? Why did she enter my life to make it as hell?

I lost everything because of one person who doesn’t know anything about working environment. I am a professional with white-collar and she is a proletarian. I am a professional who has gone to implement a solution for them and she is a person who is going to use it as an end user.

She works in an uncultured, uncivilized environment where there is no ethics, no equality, no serenity, no conduct and no rules.  How can I expect her to be something or how can I expect some high qualities in her? How long she can act that she has some high qualities? It was my foolishness to believe all her acting as real.

What kind of knowledge she can have and what is my level of knowledge, what is the need for me to see her face, feel for her? Why did I allow the personal relationship to grow in that environment?

Lessons learnt should not be forgotten and I am sharing my lessons with all those who know me and who want to know me. The reason for sharing this also is just to let the world know that what will happen if you skip from your own principles. I have not created something on my own, but being a good observer, I observed certain principles of others and mixed everything and I used to follow it.

Avoid @ workplace

Avoid friendship with colleagues, just maintain hi and hello.

Discussing about personal life, personal life is not private life to discuss with colleagues. Of course sharing about mother’s illness is not a personal of life, whatever is required for the other person to know about my personal only will be shared with them.

My belief and behavior are entirely two different entity and I cant mix up the belief of my friendship with my behavior. I don’t need to show my behavior with my friends in believing them. But I need to maintain my discipline and dignity at working environment.

Talking about Monetary benefits (Salary, other allowances or anything related to CTC).

When you talk about the monetary benefits, definitely there will be gap between two different people and which will result in jealous and it will create discord between 3 parties (me, colleague and employer) whereas the employer is not related in the conversation at all. I am contented and I accepted the package and I work for what they are supposed to pay me. No one in the world will feel that I am getting what I deserve. When we share the CTC with others, either it will have an impact in me or with the other colleague. It will create a rift by all means.

Talking about religion, Talking about politics, talking bad about the company.

At working environment, my work is the religion as well as god to me and I have my own rules to follow whether it is good or bad, my religion is best for me. Whatever I do as work, it is my prayers and offering to god and what I get as salary is what god gives me for my prayers. When I work with a company, I will ensure that I don’t talk bad about my company. Of course here and there we used to work with stupid superiors, but what to do, keep quite and let the stupid screw the happiness. Smile at him and say you are happy so as he will get more anger.

Dressing unprofessionally

Code of conduct comes from your dressing sense. Check yourself out in the mirror every morning and love the person that y0u are.

Don’t boast yourself too much on dress but this is another fact that the people who take care of themselves and properly dress have higher confidence.

People will pick up on your lack of confidence if you show that you are feeling unattractive and not confident enough. Dress smartly by concentrating on your outfits and it should show your dignity to resemble your character. Never say that you are sick when you are not sick

Just for the purpose of availing leave, don’t say that you are sick. I used to tell my superiors that I am going on half day leave with a note saying that I am going to watch this movie. If you say don’t go, I can sit in office but my mind will be in the movie, so please allow me to go and I will do my work tomorrow more efficiently. If you stop me, it will hurt my ego and spoil my work for the next two weeks.

Most of my superiors were not so stupid to stop me and they know how sincere I am as well as how Adamant I am.

Most of the traits came from my parents and I do have to say that my parents were very sincere in their work and I have grown by seeing them.

Never say No to your responsibilities and never blame others for your mistakes.

It is not only no to say to your responsibilities and also don’t say to yes to do others responsibilities. Also don’t blame others for doing a mistake or allowing others to do the mistake.

It is easy to help others, but when something goes wrong the other person will not be interested to take the blame of your mistakes, even though it is their responsibility. It is better to avoid at first instance than repenting after doing a mistake.

Don’t do anything by which you will lose your credibility and confidence.

It is easy to show your hard face and lose the credibility and confidence, but very tough to gain the name and fame from the same people. It is easy to break the walls, but not to break the words. Be careful when you speak about someone and Don’t hesitate to speak the Truth.

Be honest and straight forward

I know that “Straight Trees are cut first” and a person should not be too honest. But it is in my blood. Both my parents are very straight forward and honest people. I can’t be a liar or a betrayer because of my DNA factor.

Even when attending the meetings I used to tell my superiors, make sure that they don’t ask me anything, I can’t tell lies and I will say only truth.

Avoid Gossip and dating with colleagues

The most important factor which I used to follow from my college days is consider all your classmates as like a friends. Don’t get involved in dating was my motto, when I entered my first day college.

Same thing I follow in my working environment, I don’t consider any of them as my friends because it doesn’t allow you to do your work sincerely as well as the friendship spoils their work as well.

It is better not to compromise on work and on the delivery and satisfaction. It is not only to provide satisfaction but also to get the satisfaction of our work along with the colleagues.

If you love your job, then we should not date with colleagues, not only dating even friendship should be avoided. When work relationship doesn’t work or if something goes wrong at the work place, the relationship what we maintain becomes awkward, even the relationship becomes awkward. You lose both the personal and professional ethics what you have built over a period of time, because of some small personal misunderstanding in the professional environment, which will result in resignations, transfer, quitting from the services, sometimes it leads to suicides.

Last but not the least, don’t search job from working environment, and don’t attend interviews during working hours.

Whatever I lost because one person, I know I will regain it shortly, but whatever lost is lost and it really tough