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Ramadan Fasting by Non Muslim

Ramadan Fasting by Non-Muslim

The reason for me to quote some of the Prophet’s sayings is because of my few friends. They told me, you are not supposed to fast during Ramadan as like a Muslim, and it is not going to be rewarded or accepted by God. I am happy if god accepts my fasting, and I am more happy god rejects my fasting also. I will keep my faith and trust in god and I will continue my fast during Ramadan, if I am in UAE. I don’t fast for the rewards, I fast because of my beliefs. I fast because of my trust in god, I fast because it is a commitment between me and god.

I know those who tried to stop me really care about me and they don’t want me to do some sin in the name of fasting. Above than the Sin, they also care about my health conditions. I can quit fasting for their love, care and concern for me, if he would have said that my dear, stop your fasting and am asking this in the name of my love, care and affection. But he said, that it is not accepted by god which I can’t accept it. If it would not have been accepted by god, god would have asked me not to fast or by any chance it would have got stopped. As I was trying to keep the remaining days of fast of last year, I was not able to do it because of cold cough and phlegm. If it gets stopped on its own, I will not feel bad also. I will take it as God’s plan for me.

I have not taken something very hard to follow in life or a very strict thing that requires more concentration, patience or anything in life. You just need to have love, care, affection, peace, harmony, friendliness, trust, faith & belief in what you read and what you do. I love to follow what I read and I prefer to do to the perfection.

I was very curious to reply to my friend/brother and asked them all the required questions, but I was not able to keep cool, because for me fasting is very religious, sacred and sensitive.

I do believe in the pillars of Islam, I know for sure that I can’t make all the five pillars of Islam. Especially the last one Hajj, all others are possible as a human and Hajj is meant for a Muslim and I can’t go for it. Five Pillars of Islam are (Shahadah – Faith in One God(Allah), Salah – Prayers (5 times), Zakat (Charity), Sawm (Fasting during Ramadan) and Hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

Faith Simple, I do believe in one god, I know the world has got only one supreme power and we call it as GOD. As a Hindu, I name the god in different names, forms etc., to bring in my concentration towards that supreme power. I believe in Prophet as a messenger also.

Prayers – I don’t do 5 times prayers like a Muslim, but more than a Muslim, I wait for the Azaan and I do think about god and it is not only 5 times, I think about god more than 5 times. I pray more than 5 times not in the way Islam says. I do a bow to god and thank him for giving the day and being with me all the time.

Zakah – Charity, as per Hinduism what you give using right hand should not be known to left hand. So what I do should not be known to anyone. Charity begins at home and I wish my first, second and third circle of relatives to be happy.

Fasting – I have started it for some specific purpose, but the fasting is towards god and with a special prayer in it. I don’t fast for my needs and when I do it, I don’t wait for others to say break the fast, I will break it even to make a party more delightful or to make someone happy with a dinner party. I love to give up my personal requests/plea/prayer for others smile.

Examples of the Prophet’s Sayings

‘God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds’.

I don’t know how many of you believe in this, but I truly believe and I know that my fasting will have a meaning, if not also, I will not say that there is no god, may be my prayers are not valid for the one whom I do the fasting. I will not consider that my fasting has gone in vain. I will consider god has given me the strength to pray for the one who has done the worst to me in my life.

I will thank god for giving me the clarity to love someone, pray for someone, fast for someone and to wait patiently for the result and I know that he will give me the heart to accept whatever is his plan in her life. I strongly believe that everything has a reason in our life and my fasting also has a reason in my life. He would not have made me to keep the fasting, if it doesn’t have any meaning. I would have witnessed the Ramadan Fasting as like earlier years (2010 & 2011).

Two years back, I told one of my brothers who invited me for Iftar to break his fasting. I told him, whole day you are fasting and I can’t come to Iftar to break your fast with you because whole day I am eating and I don’t fast. I told him don’t take it negatively, I will keep the fasting like a Muslim one day, then I will break it with you. It is because for the faith what he has in Islam and I love to appreciate his faith and his belief. I didn’t get a chance to break my fast with him when I was fasting last year.

‘God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others’.

I really wonder, whether these words are being considered as the words of God through his messenger Muhammad. Why I have this doubt? I have seen many Muslims in the recent time who claims that they follow their religion from the bottom of the heart, who do believe in one god, who do 5 times prayers and who will be doing zakat also and who has followed the Ramadan fasting also as their tenet of religion.

Simple question to you my dear….  Are you after the above words? Do you know what MERCY is? If so I don’t need to say this now. People around me has got lot of mercy in them, but they feel pity on me and they try to show their love by saying not to fast for the one who has done so much.

‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself’.

Do you have this instinct? I don’t think so, why god always tries to give this problem to me is what the question will come to all of us, but we will never think that when god has given something beautiful or amazing in life to be given to others.

‘He who eats his fill while his neighbor goes without food is not a believer’.

If so there will not be any beggar or poor person in our surroundings. I have been asked my neighbor Farooq everyday whether I had my breakfast/lunch/dinner whatever time he used to have food at home or when we meet at home, without asking this question, he will not eat. But is it with everyone? I know they don’t even ask their colleagues nearby and eat without even knowing whether that fellow colleague had food or not. It is common with every Muslims I have seen. Where is the humanity?

Quran teaches Humanity, core disciplines of Life and I have not seen even the basic disciplines in many Muslims. You people without humanity, started accusing the one who is fasting for the sake of someone else, considering this is as a holy month.

‘Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger’.

Where is it?  As you think, let me assume that I knocked you down, where is the power in you to control yourself? You have shown your anger in a beautiful way, not even anyone could dream to do it. let me again assume that it has not done any harm to me, it has done harm to your reputation, it has done harm to your character, it has done harm to me, because it has affected you in your ways.

‘A man walking along a path felt very thirsty. Reaching a well he descended into it, drank his fill and came up. Then he saw a dog with its tongue hanging out, trying to lick up mud to quench its thirst. The man saw that the dog was feeling the same thirst as he had felt so he went down into the well again and filled his shoe with water and gave the dog a drink. God forgave his sins for this action’. The Prophet was asked: ‘Messenger of God, are we rewarded for kindness towards animals?’ He said, ‘There is a reward for kindness to every living thing’.

Do you know the meaning of Kindness? If you can’t be kind to the one who loves you the most, how can you be kind to those who are around you as family members, part of your life, colleagues, friends, and enemies?

How will you show your kindness to those who are around you? Is this the way you follow your religion?

To be honest, when I read the Quran, when I take the holy book in my hand, I feel so scared because I know for sure I am going to shed tears because of you, I will feel every time, how can she be like this? How can she do this? How can he do this? How can he be like this? Are they reading it by knowing the meaning of it? Is it your mistake or the mistake of your parents who has not taught the inner meaning of it?

God, this is a plea to you, keep me cool, don’t harass me through these fellow people, I am already undergoing hell lot of pain and these people without knowing the meaning of what you have said, they are trying to kill the good deed of someone. Bless them and make them to understand what is required in this world. Humanity or ________????

I can simply say that a clean heart is the Masjid of God or the temple or the Church and I don’t worry about all your negative comments. Above all, I am not keeping my fasting for some worldly treasures. I am not going to gain or lose anything because of this fasting. I might lose my health for a while but not forever. 

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I don’t want to close in a negative node when it is faith and belief. I take my faith and belief as Ocean and one or two dirty people might come and try to kindle it and make it dirty, but once the ocean gets settled, it will be the purest in form. My faith and belief in God is also the same. God, who can test me other than you, only you can do that and you know my strength and you know my weakness, if you send someone to play with my weakness, then it is not my fault and you are trying to test me. You are trying to make my weakness as a strength.

Above all Religion is my own way of having the communication with God, as I have with you.

For the sake of Humanity, love, peace, care, affection or even as an elderly person, if you say, please give up your fasting, I am ready to do it my friend…. As you used to order me, say it in the name of Love, not in the name of Religion my dear brother.

God, I will hold you and only you and if I have to fail in my attempts, let it be in the name of God and not by any human. If you feel that it is a sin, please do give me the punishment for the sin and if you feel that praying for someone is a good deed, please give all the benefit to the one for whom I pray and started this fasting.  Ameen


Is Love painful?

Does love cause pain or is it really a feeling caused because of fear? or is it because of the negative emotions caused because of Love? Ideally Love is not painful and it is a pleasant feeling and the fear of love or the negative feelings because of love.

Love is an inconceivable feeling. Love is a beautiful and unbelievable feeling. It makes us to fly in heaven. It never creates pain.
The pain and hurt what we feel doesn’t come from love and it comes from within us on many factors like doubts, fears, anxiety, rejections, possessive nature, distrust, broken trust, envy, jealousy etc. We chunk ourselves with all these feelings and keep saying that love causes pain.  This pain can cause the burden to the heart and I am sure it is not because of the love. Where there is love, there is trust and where there is trust there is no pain. We take all the uncomfortable feelings to our heart and we create chaos.

If we really consider that our relationship is primary and it is important to us, If we value our relationship or the love what we have for the other, then we will not create any turmoil to our relationship. Neither we were taught or educate ourselves that love cannot give pain. All the unwanted feelings are not part of the love. When we are fearful or anger or anxious or jealous, are we experiencing a state of love? We surely feel there is difference in the love .

Love feels warm, Love feels joy, love is felt deep in the heart. Love gives a deep sense of satisfaction Love has to be approached as per the Maslow’s theory (Hierarchy of Needs)

There is a lot of difference between need and want. Love also plays a vital role when it is a wanted relationship and a needed relationship. When you see the love as a wanted relationship you will not have any kind of other ill feelings, even if something crops up, we will say I love it. I will take it easily. When you see the love as a needed relationship, then we allow the pain to enter and play with our heart.

When we enter into a relationship we don’t get into it knowing the good and bad of it. We admire something and fall in love. In reality when we see the changes and we feel that we are very good about ourselves. When we enter in to the love, we become dependent and we expect our love to feel that we need our associate to make us feel good about ourselves. Whether the love is there or not, we were feeling too good about us.  If we would have felt lonely or empty before their entry into our life, we feel that the vacuum is being filled by them and it becomes supreme for us. We fear that space will become empty if they leave, so their staying becomes vital. We become dependent of them and the dependency creates the fear and unhappiness and obviously threat is there in any relationship of leaving the bond.

Either the heart or our mind is not ready to accept that these are not our permanent saviours and they are not here to help us but only to give pain because of the love what you show to them.

We become friends so easily and we fail to keep up it or we give damn to that because we know that they are ours. How a friendship is born?

We meet as strangers. We will talk to the stranger. We get introduced. We admire something in them, we feel some closeness, some comfort feeling, some love, some care etc.,. The stranger will become closer to us, and will become as our friend.  Very few will become special and will become more than everything and some will give the impact of nothing as well.

Stranger will keep on telling that I can’t live without you. I need you to guide me, I need you for this and that and all blah blah.. Initially stranger will say I miss you on on on on & on. . . . .

Everything will be going fine in the friendship. Suddenly they will change with a reason or without a reason. May be they get a new person in their life. In beginning they will tell you about the new person, they will slowly stop talking about that person, they will hide things & stop sharing anything.

If you call they will say I will call you later… I am LITTLE BUSY will talk later. Then they will never call you, you will think that person is busy but ACTUALLY YOU HAVE LOST him/her.. It will take more time for us to realize that the close friend has become a stranger to us. By the time,  we realize that the close friend has become as a stranger, we would have lost ourselves in that friendship.

Don’t bring people close to your heart, because the problem with the close 1 is that, they know where to hit exactly!!

It is better that we should know about ourselves before we enter into any kind of relationship. We are allowing the other person to break our heart. When we start loving others, that moment we become fragile. The moment you enter into any relationship you become weak and vulnerable. You are helpless and you are forced to get the pain because you allowed them to make you weak.

 “Knowing Others is Wisdom, Knowing Yourself is Enlightenment.”

Who knows more about me? Does a friend knows more about me, my parents, my spouse, my kids ? who knows more about me other than myself. No one is closer than me and I love myself more than any one.

It is very much required to get the clarity about who you are and what you want (and why you want it). Sometimes we dwell in utopia and want these dreams as a reality.  A dream is just a dream, you can’t make it reality and we should know the difference between the dream and the reality. Loving someone in dreams is not the reality and loving someone in life will never become a dream. If dreams continues then it creates internal dramas and unknown beliefs, and allows unknown thought processes to decide our feelings and actions.

If you think about it, not understanding why you do what you do, and feel what you feel is like going through your life with a stranger’s mind. How do you make wise decisions and choices if you don’t understand why you want and  what you want? It’s a difficult and chaotic way to live never knowing what this stranger is going to do next.

Believe in your friend and accept if the friend becomes as a stranger, and don’t try to dwell with the stranger as the time has changed the stranger’s priority from a friend to a stranger and these friends will never stick on to anyone’s life because they are tresspasser’s.

They were never said to be in our life and it is our mistake that we entertained them to enter into our life.

They know only to hit us in the right place to become more vulnerable and it is not their intention to keep us safely in their heart. They become close with you for their timely needs and at their convenience they will leave you or ditch you.

If ever I say goodbye to anyone, that doesn’t mean that I hate them or I love them no more or I don’t need anymore in my life. It means I want them to be much happier.

If ever I would cry, it’s not only because I lost them, but also because I lost my life’s precious moments without spending with them. I can’t feel that I have lost most precious moments just because of spending my time with them, because they have given me a special feeling of that relationship.

It is very hard to get people with the same attitude and we have to accept what we have got as pain ONLY.

Don’t allow any intruders to ruin your heart. Self-love is the best way to being loving and happy with who you are. Sometimes it is self-esteem and sometimes it will not allow your self-esteem to get hurt as well. Accepting ourselves will make us to feel great and when we get hurt, we can accept with what we have done.

“In Love pain is inevitable which needs to be considered as love only not as pain “

Love itself becomes pain if the other person doesn’t realize the love of the others. But when it is between two understanding hearts, then it is a pleasant pain, when it is love it is pleasant, when we have fear it is pain and we can’t avoid this pleasant pain in any kind of relationship”. What is more matters the value of the relationship, whether it is pleasant or pain? If the pain is more, we will come out of the relationship and if the pain is less, we will try to cope up with the pain as well.

In life when you have to make a choice between the one you love and the one who loves you. Choose the one who loves you. Because you can learn to love someone…. But cannot teach someone to love you!!”

“The experience of love is the same, what changes are our preferences.” 

“Love till it hurts, and when it hurts, love some more and when it hurt some more, love till it hurts no more”