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Way of Life – Religion

I don’t like to talk about any religion because it creates rift between two lovely souls. Somehow in the recent times friends around me make me to think more about my religion, which most of us doesn’t give priority to it because we know that it doesn’t forces us to follow A to Z.

I have to feel proud of the following.

My parents – for the reason for my birth, My country India in which I was born as an independent female child, My religion – HINDU which doesn’t ask me to follow any religious rituals.

Rest of things like school, teachers, friends all came to me during the course of my life. I had struggles in all these, but to have my parents, my country and to have my religion, I never had any problems.

Unto me, the religion is just to say how to live the life and it is said as way of life. As a Hindu, I live the life as I want without harming anyone or my harmony.  I don’t discriminate with other religions and in the same way I don’t want anyone to talk anything against any religion.

I am not an atheist and I don’t agree with atheist but I believe that it is their freedom to say there is no god, yes that is the reason I love my Hinduism. More than us, those who say there is no god, think more about god to prove that there is no god.

In the recent time, an audio reached me via whatsapp saying that the Hinduism has discrimination with reference to the caste system and because of which humans are not equal.  It doesn’t say that humans are not equal, but it says that as per the desire of god, please do the work what is assigned to you. It doesn’t mean that you should not do anything above to your limits.

There is no condition that you have to follow this. If you don’t follow the reason of your birth, then there is a possibility of disaster happening around the world. When one person rebel, there is no harm, but when a mob rebels there is harm to the society.

Second thought of that content was – Muslim scholars quote a lot about Hinduism, Veda’s etc.,

Yes it is for sure that we don’t preach or we don’t ask a Christian or a Muslim to follow Hinduism or to attend some seminars or to go through any form of Hinduism.  We don’t even talk to them that our religion is the best one to follow or it is revealed by god to XYZ etc.,

Third point of it was Muhammad was the last messenger of God, how could we say this, when Quran accepts that Jesus was also a messenger of God, we might have one more to come…

Way of Life for a Human à cannot be simplified with one holy book which is for sure everyone will accept.. I have read in Quran that Jesus was a messenger of God, that means those who believe in Quran has to believe that bible was also a message from GOD. Even before the birth of Christ, there was people living and they would have followed few things as way of life. When god has created us, don’t you think he would not have created us without a user manual?

I don’t have the origin of Hinduism and there are great Muslim scholars who has said that Mohammed will be born and it is written in some Veda’s. As a Hindu, most of us would not be aware of it, but he was able to quote it, because he is reading a more on that not to find the similarities but to identify the reasons to preach his religion.

I have been asked by a Muslim guy, are you a Hindu terrorist, I smiled and told him that If I can save a Muslim family, then I am an Indian Hindu who can safeguard a Muslim family, but when a Muslim tries to attack me for being a Hindu, yes I am a Hindu Terrorist for that Muslim terrorist. It depends on you how I have to be because I give respect to you as human, if you consider me as Hindu terrorist then I have to consider you as a Muslim terrorist and tell me how I should treat you as a human or as a Muslim or Muslim terrorist? His reply was Sorry Sister 🙂

You don’t get respect, if you don’t give, and especially from me, you will not get it if you don’t give it. I work with different country people, I work in Islamic country, I love unity and peace. When I see a Pakistani, I don’t get enmity, I welcome them with smile and I want my working environment to be peace and without any conflict. We don’t enter into any political talks to make them cheap or to boost my country. I give respect to their feelings. I give respect to their patriotism, I give respect to their religion, I give respect to them as human and I don’t treat them as my enemy.

I have to give full credit to them as well, they don’t enter into any arguments related to my country or my religion or anything to hurt the sentiment of the two nation.

One thing is sure that God is one and as a Hindu, I believe in GOD and I believe that this universe is being created by god and we all act as per the wishes of GOD. Almighty is the director and we all act as he wants us to act.

Hinduism doesn’t need saviors to protect it as it has its own power to protect it. Hinduism doesn’t need preachers to preach it. It will not die even after the entire universe changes or gets converted to any other religion. It has its own power to be alive till this earth is alive. It doesn’t need you and me to make it alive.

If at all the world becomes a Christians or Muslims alone, and there are no Hindu’s living in this world, even then HINDUISM will live without any followers because it has a long history and the way it is will make it to live without preaching and protecting.

We live as human, live for human and die as human, just because I believe in god doesn’t mean that I am not going to die or I am going to get special benefits during my life and after my life.

To do good, I don’t need GOD to be with me to care, to love or to hope or to live, but the belief in god makes to love without hatred, to care the known and unknown, to hope that all human are same, and to live my life happily with a belief that there is life after death. 

Hinduism doesn’t need me to be a Hindu to protect Hinduism but I need Hinduism to protect myself from enmity and to keep myself in Harmony with others. If you can do good without GOD, I welcome you with two hands and encourage you with more smiles and happiness in me.

Religion – is for the Good Life which is a process and not a state of being, it is a direction not the destination.  whether I am a Hindu or Muslim or christian is to direct me to lead life. Important C’s of Life are Compassion, Confidence, Contentment, Choice, Chance, Cherish, Change teaches us what is life for which I don’t need to fight in the name of Religion. Change comes to those who knows to take the right choice and to take it as a chance with Confidence.

 

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DIWALI in UAE

Diwali Celebrations

Diwali is one of the most important festivals of all the Hindus living all over the world.  I was not able to celebrate almost any festivals after my grandmother’s death, as I have learnt all the festivals from her. Hinduism also was taught by her with the help of these festivals. I don’t remember whether she taught us the reason for the festivals, but I know for sure she used to make all the festivals a grand gala one with love filled feast.

Diwali is one good festival taught by her, who used to make lot of sweets, savories and make us very happy with whatever way she could do it. whatever money i would have burnt as crackers was really a needy one for the next day survival, but she has given it with pure love for me to burn it as crackers. Without anyone’s help the way she used to prepare the sweets for us is one precious moment which will not come in my life, even if 10 or 100 members does with love and care, it will not be equal to that of my grand mother.

Almost all the kids at home learnt it through her but the impact of festivals with my grandmother was more with me. The care and love shown by her towards me was mammoth. I can’t feel that love and care from anyone else. That is one of the reason for not celebrating any festivals in the past6-7 years. It is very difficult to articulate the feelings with words, but only those who have seen us or felt our love can understand the reason behind it.

It is almost 6 years in UAE and the life in UAE also has given a lot of change in me. One of my aunty used to call us during the Eid’s to check whether I am at home. As we get couple of holidays, I utilize those public holidays along with annual leaves, I used to go on a short vacation back home.

Being a Hindu, I failed to celebrate most of the festivals and I used to give a nasty dialogue also that festivals are for eating and I am having everything and whenever I want I can have it. 

Somewhat in the last 6 years, I never felt that I have to celebrate Diwali or Pongal. This year I wished to celebrate it in UAE. Normally atmosphere will not help to celebrate any festivals, apart from the Onam as there are lot of Malayalees in every organization. We don’t get the pleasure of Holidays for the Hindu festivals as we have in India. Being in a Muslim country, I can’t expect it as well :). Life used to be mechanical even on the days of festivals as we will be working.

Most of our colleagues are Muslims and most of the time they don’t even wish us for our festivals(not all there are few who respect the others), which I am not saying as wrong, it might be as per their belief in their religion. As usual this year also I was in between Muslims and all of them are from Pakistan.

My mind wanted to celebrate Diwali in UAE because of some good heart which was forcing me to buy new dress and wanted me to celebrate Diwali, fortunately she is also a Muslim.

I was talking to my colleagues about Diwali and we planned to celebrate it in office. Day before Diwali, I bought some sweets &  savouries.  I wanted to light my room with Diya’s, so bought candles, but my room was in total mess as I shifted to the new room and was not settled in the room. Somehow managed to light the candles and performed my usual rituals by lighting the Diya’s.

The day before Diwali, I got a wonderful Diwali greetings which was again from a Muslim and the way he wished me was the best wish in my life. Diwali wishes to you in advance, tomorrow I will be busy and will not be able to wish you, let the lights festival bring the shine to you and no more tears or hurts. I pray the one almighty in which you also believe to keep you happy was the wishes for me.

On the day of Diwali, again the first wish was from a Muslim and she wished it with great love and care. Got up with lovely wishes and as usual followed the rituals, missing my mother who used to keep oil to take bath and the sweet memories of getting the new dress from father. In the last 5 years I was not feeling for these oil bath or for getting the new dress. Somehow this year was feeling as if I am just 10 years old.  After sometime the whatsapp messages with family asking for Ganga Snanam.

As usual got late to office because of sharing the Diwali greetings with Family in whatsapp. Started to office with full of love and happiness carrying the sweets and forgot to take the wallet. Again turned back from the bus stop to my room to take the wallet and reached office.

Partying is not new to us whether it is office colleagues or with my friends, I used to have a extra luxury foodie when it is a party from me. We never had any issues within my team being from two (different) rivalry nations. We never had any heated arguments or discussions, irrespective of the discussions we used to have about the countries and religion as well.

I distributed the sweets to my team and asked the office boy to distribute it to other staffs in the office. Diwali started with sweets, coffee/tea. When it was lunch time, I asked the team to order food for them and being a vegetarian it was not easy for me to take them out on Diwali day, as I preferred to heavy Veg meals.

The ladies group preferred to have veg and for the guys, it was their choice to go with the grilled chicken. The one who was about to order messaged me is it okay to go as the cost was little high, if not we will order somewhere else, I asked him to go ahead as it matters with food not with the cost.

It took very long for them to get the food, and by the time it reached, I finished my lunch, had a skype chat with my mother, sisters & kids.

After the lunch, we had sweets again and the team was so happy, even I felt very happy when one of the guy said we feel that we are celebrating one more EID today. Before the celebration, that was in my mind, that at least one should say that we celebrated our Eid today. I was so happy feeling that god has come down to witness the Harmony in people. It is human nature to have peace and love for each other. Only the Politicians make the region, religion as weapon to fight against each other.

Thanks a lot for making me to celebrate my Diwali and this Diwali will be in my heart forever as I have celebrated it only with Muslims and for giving the feeling of celebration. Whether it is Eid or Diwali, celebration only matters and I do celebrate CHRISTMAS, DIWALI & EID.

After 5 Diwali in UAE, this Diwali is one of the most  memorable diwali and it is gonna be the best DIWALI of my life. I may not be able to get such a good feeling of Humanity and Happiness in my life on a Festival day.

This has shown me that the mind of Human wishes happiness only and it can be achieved with love and care irrespective of the religion, caste etc., This DIWALI increased the faith in ISLAM, this Diwali increased the faith in Human, this Diwali increased the faith in Respect for each other, this Diwali increased the faith in LOVE and wish many more Diwali’s to come in the similar way to keep the Harmony keep spreading….

No Ganga Snanam, No Crackers, No Granny, No Namaskaram’s, No Blessings (Didn’t get any blessings from the elders of the family) still this is the best DIWALI for me. Festival of Light for sure made me to shine with a bright smile in my face by end of the day.

YES we are united irrespective of the Nationality 🙂 First Wish to celebrate Diwali started from Sri Lankan, First Wish from Sri Lankan and the day was with Pakistani’s. 

I don’t know whether I will get this privilege to say that I celebrated my Diwali with Indians so happily, but for sure I was very happy because of my those 7 wonders of my Team & the great family from Sri Lanka.

(ALLAH) GOD BLESS ALL

Eswar-Allah-Tere-Naam

ஈஸ்வர் அல்லா தேரே நாம் – காந்தியால் எழுதப்பட்ட வரிகள், சுதந்திர போராட்டத்திற்கு காந்தியால் ராம பஜனாக பாடபட்ட பாடல், இதில் இஸ்லாமியர்கள் அல்லா எங்கணம் வந்தார் எதற்காக எழுதப் பட்டது என்று தெரியாது.

இஸ்லாமியர்களால் ராமனுடன் ஓப்புமைக்கு இயலாத அல்லாவை இனையாக சொன்னது ஏற்றுக் கொள்ளப்பட்டதாஎன்றும் எனக்கு தெரியாது.

நான் காந்தியைப் பின்பற்றுபவளும் இல்லை, ஆனாலும் இந்த ஈஸ்வர அல்லா தேரே நாம் என்று சொல்லும் போது ஒரு ஆனந்தம் வருவது என்னமோ உண்மை.

Allah-Eswar

காரண காரியங்கள் இல்லாமல் ஒரு அனுவும் அசையாது என்று இறை மீது நம்பிக்கை உண்டு. நான் மதங்களை கடந்து மனிதர்களை நேசிப்பவள், மதங்களின் வழியாக மனிதர்களை பார்ப்பவள் இல்லை, மனிதர்களின் வழியாக மதத்தினைப் பார்க்கிறேன்….. அதனால் தானோ என் மனம் அமைதியின்றி தவிக்கிறது….

நான் மனிதன் என்பதனால் வருந்தவில்லை, நீ இஸ்லாமியர் என்பதால் கலங்குகிறேன்…. இஸ்லாம் சொல்லும் எதிலும் நீ இல்லாமல் இருந்து அந்த மார்க்கத்தையும், மனிதர்களையும் எங்கு கொண்டு செல்வாயோ? 

“மது குடிக்கலாம் ஆனால் போதை வரக்கூடாது!“ என்பது மாதிரி! மதுவின் தேவையே போதைதானே? அது போல தான் இன்று மதம் என்பதும் மனிதனுக்குள் போதையாகியது…..

மதம் என்பதும் ஒரு போதையாகிப் போனது விந்தையே….

ராமனும் ரஹீமும் ஒன்றாக இல்லாமல் இருக்கலாம், ஆனால் அவர்கள் குருதியின் நிறம் சென்னிறமே… அவர்கள் இருவரின் பிறப்பும் இருவரின் சங்க்மத்தில் உருவானது தானே? உயிர் இருக்கும் வரை மட்டுமே ராமன், ரஹீம், இறந்த அடுத்த நொடியில் இருவரும் பிணமாக மட்டுமே கருதப்படுகிறார்கள்.

மூச்சிற்கு முன்னூறு முறை ராமா, அல்லா, யேசுவே என்று சொல்லி அத்துனை கெடுதலகளையும் செய்வேன், இறைவன் என்னை மன்னிப்பான், ஒரு தாயைவிட 70000 மடங்கு அன்பு கொண்டவன் என்று அடி மனதில் நினைத்து, நான் எந்தவொரு தகாத செயலைச் செய்தாலும் எனக்கு மன்னிப்பு கிடைக்கும் என்று இருமாப்பில் இருக்கும் மானிடனே, மூடனாவாய் அந்த இறைவன் முன்பு. நல்லதை செய் நல்லதே நடக்கும், நல்லதை நினை, நல்லவையே பிறக்கும், எண்ணம் சிதறாமல் இருந்தால் உன் வாழ்க்கை சிதறாது. சிந்தையில் இறைவனின் எண்ணங்களை வை, அடுத்தவர் சிதையில் இல்லை…..

மதங்கள் என்பது மனிதனின் வாழ்க்கையை நெறி முறைப் படுத்தவே, இப்படி அடித்துக் கொண்டு சாஹவா? உன் மதம் உனக்கு பெரியதா, அதனை புனிதமாக பின்பற்றி அதன் புனிதத்தை எனக்கும் சொல்லிடு…

Be true to yourself

Am I a Patriotic Citizen of India?

This time I am going to say something about patriotism based on an incident that happened recently. As usual I am filled with full of energized, entertainment and excitement all through my days. During the last weekend, it was more fun, excitement and entertainment as I was having fun in meeting many friends in groups and individually, close to 38 hours was with friends in Dubai.

On my way back to Abu Dhabi, I came by a Taxi and the driver was from Pakistan. Most of the times, I will have a chat with the drivers, as I was very tired, I kept quiet and was not in a mood to listen to songs and was not getting sleep. During my travel, I saw few bikers riding their bike and as I love bikes, I gave a look at the bikes till it moved from my eye sight. All the bikes were Harley Davidson and each one was a unique model. I was not able to take my eyes out of the bikes.

The taxi driver noticed it and asked me, do you ride bikes, and I told him yes in India, I don’t have the license here, hopefully will ride it before I leave UAE. We started talking about the biking in India, Pakistan & UAE. Later it came down to the Kashmir issues, I don’t know what made us to talk about the Kashmir. But suddenly we started talking about the Kashmir, and the fight between the two nations. During the conversation, he said why you need to fight for Kashmir, give it up. First time, I took it in a lighter note, but he insisted saying that you people should not fight for Kashmir.

Initially I told him, why we should not fight for it, give me one good reason so as we can think about it. One thing we need to accept from his answer is, that the people of Kashmir who all are from India are the one who is suffering and the people of Kashmir from Pakistan are having a peaceful life.

It will not be part of India and it will be away from India and become as a separate country. To enter into Kashmir, you need to go with your Passport and Visa. The days is not too far and this is going to happen. I was very calm and quite till that time with a smiling face.

I don’t know from where I got that wildness, I told him, it was, it is and it will be part of India only and I don’t think I will entertain you talking such things. If it was in India, I would have handled in a different way. This is a common place for us and we are here for our earning purpose, I guess we should not fight on the political matters wherein you and me don’t have any role to do.

Am I patriotic or Anti-Pakistani?

I am working in an environment where there are more people from different countries. I have a cordial relationship irrespective of their nationalities. I have very good friends especially from Pakistan.

I can’t be anti-Pakistani, because I enjoy the goodness of the people who are working with me and we don’t talk anything against our countries. For sure I am not Anti-Pakistani’s.

To be honest, I don’t have an answer to say as YES, I am patriotic, but while talking to that taxi driver, felt like that he is patriotic, but soon after getting down from the Taxi, I realized actually he was Anti-Indian, because his intention was not to take away Kashmir with Pakistan, but Kashmir should not be part of India.

I am not a patriotic or to show off as Patriotic who will enjoy the Indian cricket team’s success against Pakistan or watching the cricket and feeling the spirit of Indian while winning the match. Yes I do love Cricket and I do support Indian Cricket.

I know the sickness of Mother India, and I know very well that I can’t do anything to cure the sickness. Being away from India, I can’t say I am a patriotic person, but if someone talks bad of India in a public places, I will get wild even when I am out of India.

I loved to have two son and one to be dedicated to mother India into any armed services as it is in our blood.

But the thing that goes on in my mind, is the people of Kashmir (Indians & Pakistanis) are supposed to live a normal and peaceful life, but the Indian Kashmiri’s are not able to live peacefully, is it because of India or because of Pakistan or because of our dirty politics?

I am not proud to say that I am an Indian, when I say that we are secular which the specialty of India is. What is secular, Indians saying as Tamilian’s in Bangalore need to be scared of their life when some riots happens in Karnataka, When the innocent people who went as laborers killed in Telengana/ Andhra there is no voice from any part of the secular India. Punjabis should be out of Maharashtra, only Marathi speaking people should stay in Maharashtra, Bihari’s should be away from Delhi, Don’t allow Keralite and so on….

Is it secular in Religion, No, we fight in the name of Ram, babar, Jesus, Allah, knowing that all is one and we know that oneness is universe.

Are we patriotic? No when we can’t give voice for each and every state then we are not Indian.

I think it will take ages for us to realize ourselves as Indian’s as we are more concerned about our state and religions.

Tamil speaking Hindu, Tamil speaking Muslim, Tamil Speaking Christians, Telugu Speaking Hindu, telugu Speaking Muslim, Telugu Speaking Christians, Malayalam speaking Muslims and so on…

Again in Tamil Hindu, we have different sectors as Caste Brahmin, Mudaliyar, Chettiyar etc.

Again in Tamil Christian, we have different sects in it, CSI, RC, etc….

How can I be proud or be patriotic is what was going in my mind?

I am patriotic only on the two national days Independence and Republic days, that too because we used to enjoy the benefit of holiday’s from school, office. I am patriotic, when India wins the Cricket world cup, I am Patriotic when we win the hockey cup, I am patriotic when Sania Mirza and Saina Nehwal comes to Number1 position. When we excel in Satelite and proudest moment of Mars Satelite, I am patriotic.

On Every Individual’s Success, right from movies to Mars mission I am Patriotic, but I don’t do anything for my nation.

One thing is for sure that Hindus, Muslims, Christians and all other religions are practiced in India and they are all are Indians only, without Christians or Muslims, we cannot say India as India. Similarly, by the bifurcation of the languages, we can’t say that we are Tamilian’s, or Keralite or Punjabi, When the day comes that a Tamilian recognized himself as an Indian, a Keralite, proudly says himself as an Indian, a Punjabi saying as an Indian, I will also be proud to say that I am Patriotic, till then I will be a Tamil speaking Proud Indian.

I am not expecting what country will do for me, so far I have not done anything great apart from paying my income tax and casting my vote for the nation. As an Indian, I have performed my small duties with fear and faith.

We need to remove the Reservation system, end the racism within India, end the religion and caste system.

It is not easy to say that Unity in Diversity, because we are mix of different races, culture, habits people calling ourselves as single nation. To end with, I love to hear all Indians saying that India is my Nation and Indian is my RELIGION, I will love my nation more when all of us come to the stand that we are children of Mother INDIA.

Ramadan Fasting by Non Muslim

Ramadan Fasting by Non-Muslim

The reason for me to quote some of the Prophet’s sayings is because of my few friends. They told me, you are not supposed to fast during Ramadan as like a Muslim, and it is not going to be rewarded or accepted by God. I am happy if god accepts my fasting, and I am more happy god rejects my fasting also. I will keep my faith and trust in god and I will continue my fast during Ramadan, if I am in UAE. I don’t fast for the rewards, I fast because of my beliefs. I fast because of my trust in god, I fast because it is a commitment between me and god.

I know those who tried to stop me really care about me and they don’t want me to do some sin in the name of fasting. Above than the Sin, they also care about my health conditions. I can quit fasting for their love, care and concern for me, if he would have said that my dear, stop your fasting and am asking this in the name of my love, care and affection. But he said, that it is not accepted by god which I can’t accept it. If it would not have been accepted by god, god would have asked me not to fast or by any chance it would have got stopped. As I was trying to keep the remaining days of fast of last year, I was not able to do it because of cold cough and phlegm. If it gets stopped on its own, I will not feel bad also. I will take it as God’s plan for me.

I have not taken something very hard to follow in life or a very strict thing that requires more concentration, patience or anything in life. You just need to have love, care, affection, peace, harmony, friendliness, trust, faith & belief in what you read and what you do. I love to follow what I read and I prefer to do to the perfection.

I was very curious to reply to my friend/brother and asked them all the required questions, but I was not able to keep cool, because for me fasting is very religious, sacred and sensitive.

I do believe in the pillars of Islam, I know for sure that I can’t make all the five pillars of Islam. Especially the last one Hajj, all others are possible as a human and Hajj is meant for a Muslim and I can’t go for it. Five Pillars of Islam are (Shahadah – Faith in One God(Allah), Salah – Prayers (5 times), Zakat (Charity), Sawm (Fasting during Ramadan) and Hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

Faith Simple, I do believe in one god, I know the world has got only one supreme power and we call it as GOD. As a Hindu, I name the god in different names, forms etc., to bring in my concentration towards that supreme power. I believe in Prophet as a messenger also.

Prayers – I don’t do 5 times prayers like a Muslim, but more than a Muslim, I wait for the Azaan and I do think about god and it is not only 5 times, I think about god more than 5 times. I pray more than 5 times not in the way Islam says. I do a bow to god and thank him for giving the day and being with me all the time.

Zakah – Charity, as per Hinduism what you give using right hand should not be known to left hand. So what I do should not be known to anyone. Charity begins at home and I wish my first, second and third circle of relatives to be happy.

Fasting – I have started it for some specific purpose, but the fasting is towards god and with a special prayer in it. I don’t fast for my needs and when I do it, I don’t wait for others to say break the fast, I will break it even to make a party more delightful or to make someone happy with a dinner party. I love to give up my personal requests/plea/prayer for others smile.

Examples of the Prophet’s Sayings

‘God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds’.

I don’t know how many of you believe in this, but I truly believe and I know that my fasting will have a meaning, if not also, I will not say that there is no god, may be my prayers are not valid for the one whom I do the fasting. I will not consider that my fasting has gone in vain. I will consider god has given me the strength to pray for the one who has done the worst to me in my life.

I will thank god for giving me the clarity to love someone, pray for someone, fast for someone and to wait patiently for the result and I know that he will give me the heart to accept whatever is his plan in her life. I strongly believe that everything has a reason in our life and my fasting also has a reason in my life. He would not have made me to keep the fasting, if it doesn’t have any meaning. I would have witnessed the Ramadan Fasting as like earlier years (2010 & 2011).

Two years back, I told one of my brothers who invited me for Iftar to break his fasting. I told him, whole day you are fasting and I can’t come to Iftar to break your fast with you because whole day I am eating and I don’t fast. I told him don’t take it negatively, I will keep the fasting like a Muslim one day, then I will break it with you. It is because for the faith what he has in Islam and I love to appreciate his faith and his belief. I didn’t get a chance to break my fast with him when I was fasting last year.

‘God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others’.

I really wonder, whether these words are being considered as the words of God through his messenger Muhammad. Why I have this doubt? I have seen many Muslims in the recent time who claims that they follow their religion from the bottom of the heart, who do believe in one god, who do 5 times prayers and who will be doing zakat also and who has followed the Ramadan fasting also as their tenet of religion.

Simple question to you my dear….  Are you after the above words? Do you know what MERCY is? If so I don’t need to say this now. People around me has got lot of mercy in them, but they feel pity on me and they try to show their love by saying not to fast for the one who has done so much.

‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself’.

Do you have this instinct? I don’t think so, why god always tries to give this problem to me is what the question will come to all of us, but we will never think that when god has given something beautiful or amazing in life to be given to others.

‘He who eats his fill while his neighbor goes without food is not a believer’.

If so there will not be any beggar or poor person in our surroundings. I have been asked my neighbor Farooq everyday whether I had my breakfast/lunch/dinner whatever time he used to have food at home or when we meet at home, without asking this question, he will not eat. But is it with everyone? I know they don’t even ask their colleagues nearby and eat without even knowing whether that fellow colleague had food or not. It is common with every Muslims I have seen. Where is the humanity?

Quran teaches Humanity, core disciplines of Life and I have not seen even the basic disciplines in many Muslims. You people without humanity, started accusing the one who is fasting for the sake of someone else, considering this is as a holy month.

‘Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger’.

Where is it?  As you think, let me assume that I knocked you down, where is the power in you to control yourself? You have shown your anger in a beautiful way, not even anyone could dream to do it. let me again assume that it has not done any harm to me, it has done harm to your reputation, it has done harm to your character, it has done harm to me, because it has affected you in your ways.

‘A man walking along a path felt very thirsty. Reaching a well he descended into it, drank his fill and came up. Then he saw a dog with its tongue hanging out, trying to lick up mud to quench its thirst. The man saw that the dog was feeling the same thirst as he had felt so he went down into the well again and filled his shoe with water and gave the dog a drink. God forgave his sins for this action’. The Prophet was asked: ‘Messenger of God, are we rewarded for kindness towards animals?’ He said, ‘There is a reward for kindness to every living thing’.

Do you know the meaning of Kindness? If you can’t be kind to the one who loves you the most, how can you be kind to those who are around you as family members, part of your life, colleagues, friends, and enemies?

How will you show your kindness to those who are around you? Is this the way you follow your religion?

To be honest, when I read the Quran, when I take the holy book in my hand, I feel so scared because I know for sure I am going to shed tears because of you, I will feel every time, how can she be like this? How can she do this? How can he do this? How can he be like this? Are they reading it by knowing the meaning of it? Is it your mistake or the mistake of your parents who has not taught the inner meaning of it?

God, this is a plea to you, keep me cool, don’t harass me through these fellow people, I am already undergoing hell lot of pain and these people without knowing the meaning of what you have said, they are trying to kill the good deed of someone. Bless them and make them to understand what is required in this world. Humanity or ________????

I can simply say that a clean heart is the Masjid of God or the temple or the Church and I don’t worry about all your negative comments. Above all, I am not keeping my fasting for some worldly treasures. I am not going to gain or lose anything because of this fasting. I might lose my health for a while but not forever. 

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I don’t want to close in a negative node when it is faith and belief. I take my faith and belief as Ocean and one or two dirty people might come and try to kindle it and make it dirty, but once the ocean gets settled, it will be the purest in form. My faith and belief in God is also the same. God, who can test me other than you, only you can do that and you know my strength and you know my weakness, if you send someone to play with my weakness, then it is not my fault and you are trying to test me. You are trying to make my weakness as a strength.

Above all Religion is my own way of having the communication with God, as I have with you.

For the sake of Humanity, love, peace, care, affection or even as an elderly person, if you say, please give up your fasting, I am ready to do it my friend…. As you used to order me, say it in the name of Love, not in the name of Religion my dear brother.

God, I will hold you and only you and if I have to fail in my attempts, let it be in the name of God and not by any human. If you feel that it is a sin, please do give me the punishment for the sin and if you feel that praying for someone is a good deed, please give all the benefit to the one for whom I pray and started this fasting.  Ameen

Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

Hey Dear All,

I am not blogging this as a part of learning some religion or to follow some religion. I am sharing this because if you want to follow your own religion follow it from the heart. If something mentioned here is wrong, please take it as an opportunity to correct my wisdom on the given contents from any religions.

Don’t ever pretend or take the do-able content from your religion and don’t do or show off something  to give an impression to others that you are clear and clean by heart as the other feels that you are following your religion from heart.

Friendship is something which is very green and pleasant to everyone. Here and there some will come and do little harm, insult, but the best of all relationship is friendship, because it doesn’t have blood relationship. It is very usual for people to have friendships with others whom they interact with . Friendships can be formed through growing up in the same neighborhood, meeting at school, college, university, social gatherings , working environment, gym, pub, restaurant and via a number of other activities.

Friendship is something common among people, however there are different conceptions of it. Some common conceptions include the following: friends will always stick by your side, you can always rely on a friend, you can speak freely to your friend and tell them your problems, friends like you for who you are, etc. When people have personal problems such as disputes with their family members or if they need advice they usually turn to their friends.

Do you know why god has not gifted the art of reading others mind, because he wants us to have the privilege of trusting, understanding and have faith in others.

When you start telling lies to your friend, do you know how it hurts the other person? Even before telling lies, I told you I will be saying a part of my life story to you as a lie. I will not be true in one scenario. I didn’t tell any lies to you. That is called as Sincerity. I tried to give trust by all means but you failed to keep up the trust in any means.

When you hurt someone, I believe you should face her in a remorseful way to show that you never meant to hurt her. If I was in her shoes I would want to know everything that goes around me, and if I discover that my friend exposed something and I found that out from someone else I would really get aggravated and I would feel that my friend isn’t worth trusting. “ONCE A LIAR IS ALWAYS A LIAR”

Don’t lie to your friend: 
One thing it is HARAM, second she is trusting you so don’t betray that trust if you let her know now you have a better chance of being trusted again than you would if you keep lying.

FOLLOW WHAT EVER YOUR HEART TELLS YOU, DON’T DO SOMETHING THAT YOU MIGHT END UP IN REGRETTING.

I do regret because of trusting you in-spite of knowing that you are lying to me. Over again and again I trusted you. All my pain is because of the trust what I had in you and I have to suffer for trusting you to this level. Yes I deserve punishment from god. You made me not to trust anyone in my life.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

In Today’s fast world most common problem in human is cheating others easily or to make fun of someone true feelings. If you are not serious for anything then don’t such things. Cheating/Betrayal is very painful for everyone. After hell of pain and agony, I am saying the below to the fellow people.

I am neither a follower of Islam nor Christianity and I am true to my religion. Even we don’t need to follow any religion, but we should not do harm to anyone by any means. Harm – unknowingly we do hurt others, but knowingly hurting others and giving them pain is sin in all the religions. There is no compulsion in any religion. Right has become distinct from wrong. So whoever rejects evil and puts faith in God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks.

I believe that God is hearing, knowing, and loving us. We don’t need to depend on others, but very few will make us to depend on them in the name of love for fun and they will ruin others life. This is to make someone understand that what their religion says about lying.

During a course of chat conversation, she said, I didn’t lie anything to you to harm you. I agree with her, may be her assumption is right, but there is a trust created in me. It is getting killed by your false statement which you were not aware of it or what?

After reading the below also, if you feel that you are not a liar, I am ready to change my assumption of saying tahat you are liar/cheater for your sake, I will say to the world she is not a liar, she talks only truth, when I will say that, I will not be true to myself. But I am ready to accept that you are not a liar or a cheater.

Lying

cheat-us-islamLying is among the sins of the heart. It is to utter false information while knowing that what one is saying is not the truth. It is sinful (haram) whether done seriously or jokingly.

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:

La yasluhul-kadhibu fi jiddiw wala fi hazl.  Which means: “Lying is not good, whether in seriousness or joking.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, also said:   Iyyaka wal-kadhib, fa’innal-kadhiba yahdi ilal-fujur. Wa innal-fujura yahdi ilan-nar. Wala yazalul-^abdu yakdhibu wa yataharral-khadhiba hatta yuktaba ^indallahi kadhdhaba.

Which means: “Do not ever lie, because lying leads to very hateful sins, and those in turn lead to Hellfire. One keeps on lying and seeks to do that until one is recorded as a liar in some books of Allah.” (Narrated by Ibn Majah.)

After reading the above tell me, to whom you were sincere?? I don’t need to explain on this because when we tell lies, it means that you are killing the trust what the other person has on you. It need not harm them, but it is not going to help them or make them happy. When someone tells you, you look beautiful even though it is not from heart, that is not a lie, it makes someone happier for that moment. Telling someone a lie which is not going to harm them, or not going to have an impact on them, but still it is a kind of betrayal because the other person has so much trust on you that you will not tell any lies to her.

Trust, faith are something’s which you can’t get from someone without love. When someone trust you, you have to try to keep up the trust and not to misuse the trust. I showed my trust and faith because of the love what I had for you. Even though you have lived all your life only with lies, I have given more trust and trust and poured the faith, but failed to get even one percent of truth from you.

There are many things that are among the sins of the tongue and fall under the class of lying. They include: swearing by Allah to a lie, false testimony, and falsely attributing something to Allah and His Prophet.

When you promised something to me in the name of god, I was not able to feel it as a truth, because you are born to tell only lies. By swearing-in the name of god, you made me to feel that it need not a truth and made me to feel that even in the name of god she will tell lies. That is the trust what you have given to me. I swear, I got an impression, she will do any harm in the name of god also and she will say it is not harm.

Swearing by Allah to a Lie:

It is one of the major sins. It is for one to swear by Allah to something that is opposite to the truth. An example is if one says, “By Allah, I did such and such” while knowing that one did not do that action. Similarly, if one says, “By Allah I did not do such and such” when one has done it. This is to be considered using God’s name in vain, which indicates falling short of glorifying Allah properly.

I do believe that you will not lie in the name of god but when you say 10000 lies, even a truth in the name of god becomes a false statement.

False testimony: This is one of the enormous sins. An example is for one to testify in front of a judge that someone stole something while one knows that it did not happen. “False testimony is like claiming that Allah has partners.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

Because of all your lies, now I feel even a true testimony from you whether it will be a truth or false statement? How do you expect me to trust you?

Severing the Obligatory Ties of Kinship

Severing the ties of kinship is among the sins of the body, and it is a major sin. This is done by breaking the hearts of the relatives by refusing to be good-hearted when they financially need money, or by leaving out visiting them without an excuse. If one usually helps one’s relatives, then one lost the money, or one found a more urgent need for it, then one would not be sinful for not offering it to one’s relatives. Avoiding people because they did something wrong to you or they tried to correct your mistakes or they treated you badly.

I don’t need to say about this, when one of your colleague was giving a party and the way you avoided it shows what kind of Muslim you are? When you can do this kind of arrogant attitude with a fellow Muslim lady, I can expect that you will do any kind of harm to me as I am from a different religion. When I heard it, I felt so bad because the way I had the trust in you, I thought you will not do these kind of silly things. How could you do this? whatever you discussed with me were words from your mouth not from heart.

Promotions are decided by the people who are ahead of us and if we don’t get it, it doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve it, god wanted someone else to get benefit out of it. You were saying that what is there I will get it when it is destined to me.. Now even if you get it doesn’t going to make anyone happy because the way you reacted to others happiness, will impact yours as well. I know you will not mind it because only humans will have

“Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqah (charity) followed by injury. And Allaah is Rich (Free of all wants) and He is Most-Forbearing.” [Quran 2:263]

I know how much I have forgiven you and tried to hold you not with hands, but with love and care, but you spoiled not only my trust but also killed my each and every cell with your ill attitude and behavior. I really don’t know how your parents will take when they hear about you from others, but I was brutally killed and I don’t feel like I have to live or to love anyone. You made me a dead body. I have life, but living like a dead body in grief because of the love for you.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood – God is with me, that’s why he made me to realize all your colors and made me to feel that this is a punishment for loving, trusting, caring, and showing the real affection to a person who don’t deserve it.

 Imām `Alī ibn Husayn (a.s.),

used to say to his son:“Keep away from little and big lies whether you are serious or kidding! Whoever tells lies in childhood, will do so in adulthood.”  Do you not know that the Messenger of Allāh (s.w.t) has said:
‘A servant may keep on speaking truthfully until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very truthful one, and a servant may keep on telling lies until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very lying one.’

[Reference: Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 69, p. 234]

To Speak the TRUTH, you don’t need to follow any RELIGION, just you need to follow your HEART. I quoted the above from your religion because you wrapped yourself saying that you are following your RELIGION and as per your Religion – how you need to be and what you are? You are not true even to god 😦 . 

Whatever I have given here are just to say that this is what you have to do, there is lot many more to come in your life and don’t give them the same pain. I am saying all these as  vent out all my pain, caused by you, without doing any harm to you. Even this is to guide you, to make you right in your way. If god can help you to correct your way, I will be thankful to him. I know I can’t do it, but god has to talk to you in a way so as you can change yourself. Of course he will touch you, if you don’t listen to him, he will shake you, if you don’t listen, then he will take the root so as you will know what you are doing is right or wrong.

Even after reading all this family values, if you say that you have a family value, oh god, what kind of value it is , please make me to understand it…..

Grief – Pain of Death

What is Grief?

Grief is the term used to describe emotional responses to major losses. Bereavement, grief, and mourning are all terms used to describe the same thing: the intense pain that follows the loss of a loved one.

I remember this word was told by my best friend recently and she said to me, you are not shedding your tears for the one who cheated you, but you are grieving for your lost child. Yes she was correct. I would have taken the grief also happily, if the kid would have died but it killed everyone and it is enjoying its life.

Most shameful thing is that one for whom I am killing  me(my happiness, peace, health, wealth, good habits) also asked me a question, if I die what will you do? I told her, I am not a Muslim to pack my grief in 3 days and we will have grief for one year and at least I will have deep pain for a year. but I didn’t know that before her death itself she will give that pain to me.

I know I was attending my own funeral by killing my happiness

This time I am not going to write about someone who is living, and this is about someone who will live in the hearts of many/ those who know him.

Senthil MariappanA Supply chain management consultant whom I know through my ERP network and I have not seen him during his life time, who has considered me as his sister and we used to chat a lot before and after his marriage. Due to work pressure and work tension and other unwanted association, I stopped most of my communications with many good hearts and Senthil was one among them.

Today I regret for not chatting with him during the last 1 year time. Most of the time, I used to communicate with almost those who are known to me and I don’t keep too much gap in my communication.

Due to the restrictions of the Gmail access and other social networking access in most of the companies, I have not seen him in online for long time and I am not very good in calling and speaking to my friends. I prefer to have the networking only through Gtalk or through Facebook. I do call those who used to pick their phone to reach me. Somehow we didn’t develop this kind of communication within us. I regret for not doing this my friend.

I have constant communications with his friends and I have asked about this guy with another friend also.

Suddenly a new ID, asked for permission to add me, I thought it is from a person who made me stupid by all means as I am expecting something from him. So added and asked a rough question who is this?  He asked “Do you know Senthil, I told him I know many Senthil as my brother’s name is Senthil, a friend from Abu Dhabi is Senthil, and couple of more people as Senthil from ERP network.

Even before answering my question he said, he passed away in Andaman. I was shocked and he pasted the local newspaper content.News paper confirmed it happened on 17th March. Tears were flowing like anything because of thinking about his wife who was married two years back. There are some ugly characters living in this world, but god likes only good hearts. He gives more pain to those who are good and takes good people to his kingdom who are very soft and good.

I was shattered; I was unable to believe that he is no more. I was not able to believe it, but the newspaper message said that it is him and it has shown the license copy of my friend. He died because of a heart attack and at the age of 31. Oh god, you are giving stone heart to some people and so soft heart to good people? what is this my lord? why are you playing like this?

There are people who are asking you for death, there are people who are sinners, who are cheaters, who are betrayers, who live and suck others blood like an animal, and this guy is so soft, a good heart person and why you wanted his life to end so soon?

Anyway I was grieving for something and god is showing that these kind of things are happening in the world, don’t worry, good deeds and bad deeds doesn’t come with others deeds. It is based on their own deeds only.

Grieving Losses – Grieving the loss of someone whom we love will be there in our heart for a long very long period and it is very painful process. But there is still hope. That we will cope up and come back to normal.

Grieving from a loss and healing from that loss require one to examine and re-examine the place of a loved one or a relationship. This process, the grief stages, of getting used to life without someone close to you can take over a year to work through. Experts have compared the death of a child, for example, to what it feels like to lose a limb. It gets easier to cope as time goes on, but it still takes a long time to work through the stages of grieving.

It’s easy to formulate a theory or a process for your grief to work through; however, actually working through those stages of grieving proves much more difficult. We may have a lot of method to grief, and each method looks different for each person.

After all, some steps in the healing process are easier than others—some days are easier than others. Your relationship with your loved one was unique (as like her name); expect you’re grieving to be unique. The way of hurt is also unique, very deep and it is very difficult to get healed, but god has shown the ways.

My grief was not in coping with death which allows you to meet really supportive people, but the death of someone inside the heart. But this death of my friend really made me to feel that why should I grieve because god has not taken that life, and even if it happens I will not feel heartache this much because I know that she is an unworthy person.

This death of my friend has given me a lesson that I have to be supportive to those who lost him as a mentor, the person who shared this news with me has got my mail id from my friend(Senthil) saying that she is my sister, send your CV to her, she will help you.

Somehow this new friend has not shared his CV with me, but when I got the friend request from him, I was really in a different mood and I was feeling that someone is going to get killed by me.

Bereavement requires a grief support group. Somehow I have an aversion of death and I used to get ready for the people around me about their death well in advance so as I can take it up when I face the situation.

As you work through the death of a loved one, you need a place where you can vent, where you can be honest about grief and your emotions, and where you can move through the grief stages without fear or regret.

If we get ready to get the support for the grief, it can provide a really support of friends who identify with you at a very deep level. They can move beyond showing you sympathy to really empathizing with you. I can say that I got lot of support to come out of the grief, unfortunately I was not able to come out of the grief and the situation how I was has become grief to many people around me. With the existing pain I was in deep pain because all the lovable people around me are also suffering because of me.

Will I ever see my loved one again?” The bonds forged by shared experiences are the strongest bonds. And, as you struggle to find meaning in death and dying, realize you’re not alone.

Sometimes, the sadness may be an opportunity for us to return to faith in God or involvement in our religious system. The belief in an afterlife can really ease our minds when it is for others but when it comes to loss of family members or the death of a child it is really a difficult task to handle.

I was killing myself for the death of my unborn child is really painful because, it was not born to me, but it was in front of me, it was not my adopted child, it was not of my blood  and I just felt the feeling of a child through her and how could I come out of this heavenly feeling?

She is alive and I have to consider her as dead. How to grief for the one who is alive and need to feel that she is dead? How to control myself with this feeling? What kind of death you have shown to my kid god? Why did you give that feeling through her? If I don’t grief for this then for what I could grief and I will not be called as a human because I don’t show my grief out for any other things other than the people hurting me in this way.  

Normally When I grieve for someone deeply, I will think 100 times and Iw ill come out faster. This time my grief is not only because of the death of my child, but also because of self-pity and I was not able to forgive myself for allowing someone to play with my feelings and sentiments

What is the purpose of grief in our life? The other name of mine is Hope and Encouragement. The way I give my hope and encouragements are from me, and it is not from their strength, it is from my strength, I am giving them the life of hope.

My word of hope creates encouragement in them and they find the hope in front of their eyes through me. To give others hope, I must have the hope of living and leading the life happily. I can’t tell someone smile from heart, when I don’t smile. When I say something to others I have to follow and I don’t like to tell someone which I don’t follow. I am a follower and not a preacher.

Finding God and Your Grieving – Anything under God’s Control is never out of control, God will make a way even though there seems to be no way!

May of my friends suggested me to enter into spirituality, but for me it is a big problem that I can even think about god, when I am not happy. That means I pray to god only when I am happy and I can’t go to him to cure my pain or sorrow. It is not the time to embrace my god, because he knows that I am weak if he gives me trouble. He knows my strength, he knows my weakness, and if he is giving me some pain means, he knows that I need the strength to overcome this and he knows when to give that strength also to me.

I beg for others to god not for my weakness because that weakness was given by god, why should I go and beg him saying that give me strength. I will say, I know you are the creator, you are the screen play writer, you wanted me to go through this pain, I don’t know how long I have to go through this, but give me the serenity to understand that “Even this will pass away”. I am very weak mentally and only with you I am a very strong woman. You are my strength, I trust in you and I move with your guidance. Do whatever you want to do with me. If this is your wish and play, let me enjoy and suffer it.

You want me to curse someone, let me do it, you want me to feel someone as very bad human of this world, let me feel it, but don’t make me to hate her. If you say that, then there is no use of all my grief. I know god, with great difficulty only you made me to come out of that hell. But still why did you allowed me to enter into the hell.

The Hold books are real, authentic, genuine book– filled with the stories and thoughts of real people. I don’t prefer to get into religious sentiments when I am sad because our mind will not allow us to get in touch or to feel the divine.

I know it helps to convince us that our grief is just in our head. Your grief is real, your pain is actual, and there’s still the opportunity for true healing.

If you consider most prominent people from religious front, their life was filled with sorrow, much of their life they will be betrayed, cheated, or wanted to be killed by his opponents, close friends cheating, family taking revenge, but they will be able to devote their time to god. Somehow I have not come to that situation to devote my time to god because I was holding the unwanted things in my hand, head, heart…

To end whatever I am, it is the glory of my beloved parents, friends, siblings, family, surroundings and the heavenly father. I know only one thing is that I don’t go with the wind, but I go with guidance of my god. My trust and faith in you can’t be shattered because of this kind of painful moments. I know you will help me to recover, but it really took long time as I have not spent that much time also with her.

They all have turned me from my mourning into smiling, of course dancing is not possible and I lost every charm of my life with one world. 

God has put off my black days and hugged me with gladness through different and new people, when I was holding the pain of my life and in deep grief. Thanks for the support.

I praise the god for giving the serenity in marvelous splendid way to accept the truth and not to go silent to the cemetery.  Thank you for giving me the realization that I was digging my own burial ground and giving me the clarity that I am not for that. I thank you for providing so many wonderful hearts around me and sincerely praying to you to guide all of them in their special way and keep all of them under your shadow and within the reach of my heart.