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Survival of the Working Women

Today I was in a mood to write about house wives, but suddenly something in my routine stuck me very badly to write about the sufferings of the working women.

It is a known truth that the women have to face problems by desirable feature of being women.  I am discussing today about the women who are paid for their employment. This article is not about the bread-winners of the family. For the bread winners there is no option, they have to work for the sake of the survival, but these women are not working for their luxurious life. There are some who are very ambitious and wants to shine in their professional life. There are some women come for work whose husbands do not earn enough or they are unable to handle the burden of the family.

Those women who are at home are not anyway lesser than the working women, but working women has to do both the role with utmost care and concern without being disturbed in both their professional and personal life. 

All the successful women in their career are through sufferings only. All our success are with great sufferings.

It is a subject which is going on in my mind for some time but now the time has come by seeing the struggles with the married women who are working with me. I wanted to discuss about those working women to their husbands and to tell them about the problems of the women who earns equal or more than their husbands and doesn’t know or don’t have time to know anything about the outside world other than the family and working environment.

There was a time where the women will choose their career like nursing, teachers, secretaries and those jobs that are in the assembly sector (routine job), wherein they restrict their career growth for the welfare of the family and to take care of their beloved kids. Now the trend has changed drastically, wherein women work more competitive with men and spend equally or more time in the working environment.

The struggle for the women starts even before getting a job; she has to start the fight for the role as the gender bias creates an obstacle at the recruitment stage itself as she is a woman.

The age-old belief of male superiority over women creates several hurdles for women at their place of work. The age differences comes in as an issue, if she is young, then it is harmful to have her within a group of guys, if she is older than also it is difficult to have her in mid of young guys as they don’t feel comfortable.

Women on the way up to the corporate ladder find it very difficult because that they have to be much better than their male colleagues to reach the top. These women are not given equal importance to climb up in the ladder but they have to give extra mile to climb up.

Once at the top male colleagues and subordinates often expect much greater ability and efficiency from a woman boss than from a male boss.  As a woman even I have the bias due to the social and psychological belief, I don’t lend support to have women in my team.  (Because they cannot stay back and work)

Working in such conditions inevitably put much greater strain on women than what men experience. These problems tend to make women less eager to progress in their careers. Indeed many of them choose less demanding jobs for which they may even be over-qualified. A woman’s work is not merely confined to paid employment.

It is really irritating factor for me to feel for them because I don’t like to feel pity for someone or for self. If at all I can do something, I will prefer to do it for them and not feeling pity for them.

In the recent times, when I see the sincere, hard-working women who are married and sufferings back home after their work or during the working hours really makes me to feel irritated and I want to become one more Kannagi to destroy these kind of men in the society.I can hear that someone saying why not as Phoolan Devi, Yes I do want to become anything to stop these atrocities, arrogance of the stupid men.

These married working women who have to almost or always shoulder the burden of household chores very well than the working environment. A woman could still bear up with these problems if she had control over the money she earns. But in most families even now her salary is given to father, husband or in-laws. So the basic motive for seeking employment of getting independence is totally nullified in many women’s case.

There are some women who don’t know what the pin number of their ATM cards is and simply they will say husband will take care of everything. I don’t even know what is their bank balance is, he handles the financial part for our family.  He should handle the financial part of the family without depending on the women’s salary is the role of the head of the family.

A woman has to work, earn, be at home on time, take care of the kids, serve the husband like a slave, are we calling this as women freedom?

When I see the husbands calling their wives to know about their whereabouts during working hours and I see some of the male colleagues receiving the calls from their house wives who are at home.  By large there is a lot of changes in the communications of a call from a husband to wife and from a wife to husband.

When it is from a husband to wife, the woman who is working has to tell he husband about her whereabouts or what she is doing without even thinking about the surroundings.

Indian working women do not get the respect they need from their male colleagues in the workplace, it is because of these Indian men who doesn’t know to give respect to their wives as a professional.

When it is from a house wife to her husband, the guy from his desk responds instantly that he is busy with work without even thinking about the surroundings. Is it because of the gender bias or is it because that the house wife is disturbing the man who is at work? Is it not a disturbance call for the working woman from her husband when she is at work?

When these husbands will realize that their wives are not given a separate cabin to discuss or explain the routine of hers from office. Even those guys sitting inside a cabin will not be lovable or soft speaking to their wives as everyone works under pressure.

Why don’t these men think that these domestic pressures in women will lead to physical and mental problems like depression and psychiatric problems?

When our gentlemen(still I am calling you guys as gentlemen for the care and concern) will realize that women also have the career aspirations?  

I really don’t understand these men, why do they want their woman to work, if they don’t trust or give them the liberty to work?  We women are not fools to spend our time at office unnecessarily. There are men who will go for playing snooker, billiards, table tennis or any other sports as part of their working time, but it will be very difficult for these men to find out such woman who is ready to leave their responsibility of their kitchen and kids and going for playing for their self relaxation or for health consciousness.

My dear gentlemen, provide your wife the comfort that she is a professional and accept that you are a husband of a professional woman. I have seen guys who never question their wives while they are at work. I really admire those guys for giving that freedom to work. It is a boon for the wives and these wives can see success in the corporate sector and it is easy for them to climb the ladder when they get the support from their better half. Even if they don’t get the support in the household works, women can manage it, but if the husbands become bitter half, then their personal and professional life goes for a toss.

Balancing the personal and professional environment is not an easy task and those who are trying to show their manliness qualities of having rights to know about their wives, please try to handle these responsibilities of women for two weeks, then you will come to know who is the stronger/strongest and I wish that wives also should start questioning these men in such a way they have to leave both their personal and professional life which is very obvious from a man, but a woman will stay stronger with a smile and say them better luck next time.

There are lots of issues that they face in the working environment which can be shared with the husbands and few cannot be shared even with the husbands not in an intention to hide it from them, but to keep them cool and happy. The sufferings of women if known to men, we think that the men will feel for it and repent badly for making their wives to work for the sake of the family.

When we can think on your behalf, why don’t you think on our behalf? Is the brain of women only has got the ability to think for men? Why don’t these men think from their wives shoes? When will this change come in place and when can we see our ladies doing their work happily without having a fear of personal life? When can I see the natural smile of my fellow colleagues without any mental trauma?

I hope answers will get in few decades with the next generation or the male chauvinism will still go on forever?


Yazhini A2Z

Thamizhagathin Chella Kuralukkana thedal – Tamilnadu cutest voice hunting program, by Vijay Tv sponsored by Airtel.

Benita Maria Yazhini  is the young talent, participated in all the 3 seasons of Airtel’s Super Singer Junior program.  Yazhini is one of the top finalists in the Airtel Super Singer Junior Season 3. She is hailing in Chennai. She will be hardly 11 or 12 years and her mother is her full strength and back bone in supporting her daughter.

She is a known personality in the Vijay TV Super Singer Junior Program Since from Season 1. Yazhini was eliminated during the semi-finals screening who was supposed to be directly selected for the finals. Especially the songs sung by her were awesome and I don’t find any issues with the songs and the way she performed was pretty good compared to the other 3 top finalists.

Yazhini is the best talented voice of this season and was good on her high notes. She is so good in performing unique songs and the songs sung by her were totally different genres.

Notable performances of this sweet angel are “Marugo Marugo, Ninai Charanadaindean, Kaatrodu Kuzhalin, Raasave Unnai Naan, Jal Jal enum Salangaiyil, Lesa Lesa, Azhagu Nilavea , (I guess during that time, Chitra lost her daughter in a tragedy way, dedicated to her mother and Chitra),  Yaaradi Nee Mohini, Naalai Indha Velaiy” There are many more songs for which she gave life to the songs.

She was not selected on top 10 singers and she made it to semi-finals through wild card rounds. Yazhini proved that she is 1 among the top 4 Semi-finalists. One of her greatest and brilliant song selection during the wild card rounds was with the song  Pazham Neeyappa from an old movie Thiruvillaiyadal sung by K.B.Sundarambal, still a unique voice in Tamil industry and it was really a great performance from this small cute little girl. Almost all the judges were impressed by her versatile performance. She got positive comments from the judges.  Unni Menon said it is great to see someone taking KBS song,  at this age attempting for this song is a great achievement and you have done justice to the song, a very competent singing. Usha Udup said Concentration, Power, Focus, Pitch, Pressure,  presence  and it is a fabulous performance. Vijay Prakash was astonished and asked her how can you sing this song, “what is the secret and from where you are getting the energy? While singing classical song, you are singing like you have an 100 years’ of experience”. Vijay Yesudas praised her in a different way comparing his father’s experience, he said, my father is singing for the last 50 years and he used to say I know only little in this ocean, but we are learning from you and I can’t imagine you as a kid while you are singing,  and you have got god’s gift and Hold it, and don’t leave it.

She made to the semi-finals along with Pragathi, Sukanya and Gowtham. In the Semi- Finals. In the First round, she was competing with Gowtham  as one to one round. Gowtham sang Oraayiram Yaanai Kondraan song and Yazhini sang for the song Acham Acham Illai from the Movie Indhra. She has not completed the song was the comment given by Srinivas, which was not her fault and it is the fault from the trainer. Why they didn’t ask her to sing the full song? If it is a tough song for her, then the trainer should have  asked her to select some other song. Aren’t they aware that this is a semi-final?

In the second round of the semi-finals, she gave the best of her songs and especially the song from Oli Vilakku, is not a typical song which used to be sung in any television programs. That is the specialty of this little girl, the songs chosen for her are different and new to the super singer competitions. “Aandavanea Un “is a rare song to be heard in the televisions, I remember, I heard this song may be 25 years back and when Late. MGR was hospitalized. One of the best song for that round and she gave her 100% effort to the song and she did justice to the one who selected the song for her.

A score of 8 out of 10 was prejudice from all the judges for Yazhini’s near perfect “Aandavane Un” performance looks like a deliberate incident towards this kid. Yazhini sang better than Suganya.

I have to appreciate one of the judges Shubha who was there as silent judge and she gave the score as 10 for this song to yazhini. How could the other judges do this kind of insult to this sweet little cute angel who did remarkably well with this song?

In fact, I heard that  Suganya’s “Mannavaa” song lyrics were wrong. It was not highlighted or noticed by the judges. It is highly disgraceful from the judges as they are not judging it based on the performance of the singer and I really felt sad that they did this to a 11-year-old extremely talented child.

Vijay TV has got moral responsibilities to encourage the good and bad of the kids but this is really a threat to the future and a great insult to the ambitious highly talented kid. It is going to cause a permanent damage to your reputation.

Yazhini – This little cute contestant has received lot of chocolate showers and notable comments from the judges Mano, Chitra and Shubha and all other judges also praised her versatile singing. How come they missed to encourage her when it is really required from these so-called learned, professionals, experts and that too when she gave a wonderful performance? Her songs were beyond her age limit.

The bias in giving the score to this little kid made her to walk out of the 3 finalists and she was forced to enter the wild card round.

Once again, a prejudice from the judges in the semi-finals. She was brutally knocked out because of unfairness from the judges. Again she was forced to compete with the lover boy who sings well, I am not saying that Aajeeth is not a deserving candidate, but unnecessarily this girl was forced to go to the wild card round as there was no need for her to enter the wild card round.

I had the doubt in the earlier seasons, but now I am doubly assured that you are not looking for talents. It is just for the promotion sake only.  Vijay TV is ideally using the kids talents for promoting the program all through the world and not to show case the real talents of the kids. Please encourage the kids from the Tamil speaking kids as this is Tamizhagathin Chella Kural Thedal otherwise change the slogan of the program to chella kural thedal……

She came back to the top 3+2 contestant because of the public support and judges also played a vital role to say that she missed the place just with 1 mark and we will be having 5 contestants in the FINALS. Ideally it has to be 3+1 only, but they were not able to omit this cute girl and made it to 5.

She gave the best of her songs in the wild card rounds, Alegra Alegra from the movie Kandhasamy,  a mass entertaining song which was a rocking performance from her and all the judges praised her like anything for this song as it requires a lot of energy and voice modulations with beautiful expressions.

Matha Un Kovil, a song by her moved everyone and touched all our soul. Pushpavanam Kuppusamy expressed that you brought Matha (Mother Mary) in front of our eyes and it is absolutely true. Even though she acknowledged that she was not able to sing comfortably. Vijay Yesudas complimented her saying that you are not singing songs to your level and your songs are top-level songs and also he said that you gave your best, and fatigue in voice can be with anyone but the feelings given by you took over the song.

Yazhini bagged the title from Airtel Super Singer Junior 3 as Best Melodious Singer and who truly deserves other awards like Expressive, Stylish,  Energitic singer, Soulful singer… Especially all her songs has got the feelings and the soul and energy in it.

She gave the best of her in two rounds of the Pre-finals and I can say that it was the best to win the title and the songs were

1.       Manmadha Rasa Song from Thiruda Thirudi

2.       Uravugal Thodarkadhai Song from Aval Appaditaan


Yazhini gave a beautiful performance in her grand finals and the two songs rendered by her were Mannavan Vandhaanadi  &  Konjam Nilavu.

She did a good job with the songs, but I felt that she should have selected some different songs for both the rounds

The winner of the title ‘Airtel Super Singer Junior 3’ was Aajeedh, and the second place was bagged by Pragathi Guruprasad. The third place went to Yazhini. Pragathi did well in the finals and her best song was Shiva Shankari. Still I felt that Yazhini deserves to be ahead of Pragathi.

Yazhini truly deserve to win the title and it is unfortunate that you got the 3 place. I am unable to digest this even after two days. I know even our cute Yazhini would have taken it lightly. I don’t deny that Aajeedh is a good singer, but he is a mass entertainer and you deserve to be the super singer as most of the genres you have given 95% efforts and almost all the songs were very good.  Still I am happy that you lost the first place to Aajeeth but at least you should have got the 1 runner-up.

Yazhini, I have to make a humble request to the judges to see the attitude also while selecting the candidates. What an attitude from this little kid, who has not given up even after losing in the super singer in two seasons. She was not on top 5 kids, and she entered again through wild card rounds to top 4 contestants.

I don’t know how many of the viewers noticed this cute girl’s expression while announcing the top 4 candidates for the finals. Even before Mano’s announcement, her lips said Aajeeth which requires a great attitude. You can compare the body language of Aajeeth’s and Yazhini to feel who is good in attitude.

In the Final’s, she was shocked when Bhavana announced the candidates who are not in Top 3. When Sukanya’s name was aired, she was stunned and her facial expressions said that she was not feeling happy that she was on top 3 but she felt bad that Sukanya was not on Top 3, that is the spirit of this baby and Baby for this you deserve the title.

Baby you deserve the title for the way you gave us the songs and your songs were (A to Z)

Attractive, Awesome, Amusing,

Beautiful, Blessing, Beguiling, Breathtaking (Breath-given by her)

Charming, Charismatic, Captivating,

Dazzling, Delightful, Devoted,

Enchanting, Exquisite, Enthralling, Enjoyable, Entertaining,

Fascinating, Fabulous, Fantastic

Glittery, Gorgeous, Glorious,

High-Pitched, Hypnotizing, 

Incredible, Impressive, Interesting,

Joyful, Jealousy,


Lovely, Lightening, Lively

Mesmerizing, Marvelous, Magnificent, Mind-Blowing,

Near (completeness)

Overwhelming, Outstanding, Overpowering,

Pleasant, Pleasing, Precious

Queen of Singing, Quil of Songs,

Rocking, Realistic, Rare,

Scintillating, Superb, Sparkling,

Twinkling, Terrific, Tremendous

Ultimate, Unique, Unimaginable

Victorious, Vehement, Vigorous

Wonderful , Welcome & Wow


Young, Youthful  and Zealous.

There is a long way to go and my prayers for you to reach new heights in the field of music. 

May God Bless You with All the Happiness in the World of Music & Hearty Wishes to My Dear Angel to Shine in the World of Music.  My Sincere Request To Her Parents, Lead Her To Shine In Her Own Way