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Happy Valentine’s Day

You make my life beautiful…..

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My goldie – when I say you as gold, I know for sure that I can’t buy you with what I have and I mean that you are really precious for me to hold and not to miss you for any reason as well. Most of the time we meet people by chance but meeting you and being with you is a choice given by you in a unique way. Especially when I was depressed with the way things were going around me. Being hurt by someone and being in love again with someone is not an easy task in anyone’s life, but even before coming out of the tragedy, you entered my life like a rocket and removed the sorrow of being hurt in your own way.

When I was about to lose my faith in love, you entered my life as a promising faith of love. Is it divine love? I don’t know what is divine love, but you are the most amazing love of my life. Success of my life is holding the love, but that success is holding you now as her strength of love. BE with me forever or leave me never or leave me when I leave this world.

Thank you for making that beautiful difference in my life..

You made me to feel that sharing everything is not as easy as I was thinking by sharing each and every small thing with me. It is really not possible for me to share in minute detail… only thing you have not told is that you breath 72 times for a minute and it is 80 now, it is less now 🙂

It is not a note to say thanks to you but I have to say thanks to you for making my life wonderful in so many ways especially managing my rudeness, my arrogant love, my adamant love for you. At times I used to think what is the purpose of life, now I know that my purpose of life is to love you and live for you. (Even thought we are not together, you live with me, I live with you and our every second goes together)

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I know our relationship doesn’t need any thank you’s but when we say thank you to each other, it really matters and this thank you means a lot to me baby because I owe that much to you my sweet darling.

I have thanked you on some special occasions; we both know it how special those moments are and the way it was said has got immense faith and love for you.  I have to thank you every day for the wonderful difference what you have given in my life and making my life so beautiful.  Life would have been so miserable without you and I mean this.. Thank you for making my days brighter and nights cooler as like you. I cherish every moment of our togetherness and wish it to go till my life ends.

Now we can’t imagine a life without each other and that is the reason that you are so special to me yesterday, today, tomorrow and forever. I can’t imagine how life would have been if you have not entered my life.

I said I will get lot of wishes on this day, but today, when I am alone without you, I realize that your wishes only means a lot to me. I realize your importance and the difference what we have in our life. Without my thoughts there will not be single minute going for you and similarly all my time goes around you.

I really want to apologize for my arrogance and it is sincere apologies from the heart. I should not behave so violently/vehemently for the one who makes my day and night so lovely, beautiful, warm and cool. You are my sunshine and the moon light.

I have seen some good friend’s love, care in my life, but wish that this should be my best and forever love of life. I love you from you means a lot and when you say that I love you, only for you makes me to feel that I am blessed. I really love you is a delight to hear and the feeling of love is always on top of the sky and your love makes me to fly. 

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Happy Valentine’s Day for making my life the most beautiful …. I don’t think something else can come in my life to feel that is going to be beautiful as I feel that I am in heaven when we are together. I want to scream and say that I love you loosu naaye….

With ton’s love, with Eyes full of Tears, Heart full of Prayers comes a warm wishes for you to get well soon and to be with me forever and I promise you that I will be with you forever without breaking your heart.

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HAPPY VALENTINE’s DAY MY LOVE

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Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

Hey Dear All,

I am not blogging this as a part of learning some religion or to follow some religion. I am sharing this because if you want to follow your own religion follow it from the heart. If something mentioned here is wrong, please take it as an opportunity to correct my wisdom on the given contents from any religions.

Don’t ever pretend or take the do-able content from your religion and don’t do or show off something  to give an impression to others that you are clear and clean by heart as the other feels that you are following your religion from heart.

Friendship is something which is very green and pleasant to everyone. Here and there some will come and do little harm, insult, but the best of all relationship is friendship, because it doesn’t have blood relationship. It is very usual for people to have friendships with others whom they interact with . Friendships can be formed through growing up in the same neighborhood, meeting at school, college, university, social gatherings , working environment, gym, pub, restaurant and via a number of other activities.

Friendship is something common among people, however there are different conceptions of it. Some common conceptions include the following: friends will always stick by your side, you can always rely on a friend, you can speak freely to your friend and tell them your problems, friends like you for who you are, etc. When people have personal problems such as disputes with their family members or if they need advice they usually turn to their friends.

Do you know why god has not gifted the art of reading others mind, because he wants us to have the privilege of trusting, understanding and have faith in others.

When you start telling lies to your friend, do you know how it hurts the other person? Even before telling lies, I told you I will be saying a part of my life story to you as a lie. I will not be true in one scenario. I didn’t tell any lies to you. That is called as Sincerity. I tried to give trust by all means but you failed to keep up the trust in any means.

When you hurt someone, I believe you should face her in a remorseful way to show that you never meant to hurt her. If I was in her shoes I would want to know everything that goes around me, and if I discover that my friend exposed something and I found that out from someone else I would really get aggravated and I would feel that my friend isn’t worth trusting. “ONCE A LIAR IS ALWAYS A LIAR”

Don’t lie to your friend: 
One thing it is HARAM, second she is trusting you so don’t betray that trust if you let her know now you have a better chance of being trusted again than you would if you keep lying.

FOLLOW WHAT EVER YOUR HEART TELLS YOU, DON’T DO SOMETHING THAT YOU MIGHT END UP IN REGRETTING.

I do regret because of trusting you in-spite of knowing that you are lying to me. Over again and again I trusted you. All my pain is because of the trust what I had in you and I have to suffer for trusting you to this level. Yes I deserve punishment from god. You made me not to trust anyone in my life.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood.

In Today’s fast world most common problem in human is cheating others easily or to make fun of someone true feelings. If you are not serious for anything then don’t such things. Cheating/Betrayal is very painful for everyone. After hell of pain and agony, I am saying the below to the fellow people.

I am neither a follower of Islam nor Christianity and I am true to my religion. Even we don’t need to follow any religion, but we should not do harm to anyone by any means. Harm – unknowingly we do hurt others, but knowingly hurting others and giving them pain is sin in all the religions. There is no compulsion in any religion. Right has become distinct from wrong. So whoever rejects evil and puts faith in God has grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold that never breaks.

I believe that God is hearing, knowing, and loving us. We don’t need to depend on others, but very few will make us to depend on them in the name of love for fun and they will ruin others life. This is to make someone understand that what their religion says about lying.

During a course of chat conversation, she said, I didn’t lie anything to you to harm you. I agree with her, may be her assumption is right, but there is a trust created in me. It is getting killed by your false statement which you were not aware of it or what?

After reading the below also, if you feel that you are not a liar, I am ready to change my assumption of saying tahat you are liar/cheater for your sake, I will say to the world she is not a liar, she talks only truth, when I will say that, I will not be true to myself. But I am ready to accept that you are not a liar or a cheater.

Lying

cheat-us-islamLying is among the sins of the heart. It is to utter false information while knowing that what one is saying is not the truth. It is sinful (haram) whether done seriously or jokingly.

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, said:

La yasluhul-kadhibu fi jiddiw wala fi hazl.  Which means: “Lying is not good, whether in seriousness or joking.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

The Prophet, sallallahu ^alayhi wa sallam, also said:   Iyyaka wal-kadhib, fa’innal-kadhiba yahdi ilal-fujur. Wa innal-fujura yahdi ilan-nar. Wala yazalul-^abdu yakdhibu wa yataharral-khadhiba hatta yuktaba ^indallahi kadhdhaba.

Which means: “Do not ever lie, because lying leads to very hateful sins, and those in turn lead to Hellfire. One keeps on lying and seeks to do that until one is recorded as a liar in some books of Allah.” (Narrated by Ibn Majah.)

After reading the above tell me, to whom you were sincere?? I don’t need to explain on this because when we tell lies, it means that you are killing the trust what the other person has on you. It need not harm them, but it is not going to help them or make them happy. When someone tells you, you look beautiful even though it is not from heart, that is not a lie, it makes someone happier for that moment. Telling someone a lie which is not going to harm them, or not going to have an impact on them, but still it is a kind of betrayal because the other person has so much trust on you that you will not tell any lies to her.

Trust, faith are something’s which you can’t get from someone without love. When someone trust you, you have to try to keep up the trust and not to misuse the trust. I showed my trust and faith because of the love what I had for you. Even though you have lived all your life only with lies, I have given more trust and trust and poured the faith, but failed to get even one percent of truth from you.

There are many things that are among the sins of the tongue and fall under the class of lying. They include: swearing by Allah to a lie, false testimony, and falsely attributing something to Allah and His Prophet.

When you promised something to me in the name of god, I was not able to feel it as a truth, because you are born to tell only lies. By swearing-in the name of god, you made me to feel that it need not a truth and made me to feel that even in the name of god she will tell lies. That is the trust what you have given to me. I swear, I got an impression, she will do any harm in the name of god also and she will say it is not harm.

Swearing by Allah to a Lie:

It is one of the major sins. It is for one to swear by Allah to something that is opposite to the truth. An example is if one says, “By Allah, I did such and such” while knowing that one did not do that action. Similarly, if one says, “By Allah I did not do such and such” when one has done it. This is to be considered using God’s name in vain, which indicates falling short of glorifying Allah properly.

I do believe that you will not lie in the name of god but when you say 10000 lies, even a truth in the name of god becomes a false statement.

False testimony: This is one of the enormous sins. An example is for one to testify in front of a judge that someone stole something while one knows that it did not happen. “False testimony is like claiming that Allah has partners.” (Related by al-Bayhaqiyy.)

Because of all your lies, now I feel even a true testimony from you whether it will be a truth or false statement? How do you expect me to trust you?

Severing the Obligatory Ties of Kinship

Severing the ties of kinship is among the sins of the body, and it is a major sin. This is done by breaking the hearts of the relatives by refusing to be good-hearted when they financially need money, or by leaving out visiting them without an excuse. If one usually helps one’s relatives, then one lost the money, or one found a more urgent need for it, then one would not be sinful for not offering it to one’s relatives. Avoiding people because they did something wrong to you or they tried to correct your mistakes or they treated you badly.

I don’t need to say about this, when one of your colleague was giving a party and the way you avoided it shows what kind of Muslim you are? When you can do this kind of arrogant attitude with a fellow Muslim lady, I can expect that you will do any kind of harm to me as I am from a different religion. When I heard it, I felt so bad because the way I had the trust in you, I thought you will not do these kind of silly things. How could you do this? whatever you discussed with me were words from your mouth not from heart.

Promotions are decided by the people who are ahead of us and if we don’t get it, it doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve it, god wanted someone else to get benefit out of it. You were saying that what is there I will get it when it is destined to me.. Now even if you get it doesn’t going to make anyone happy because the way you reacted to others happiness, will impact yours as well. I know you will not mind it because only humans will have

“Kind words and forgiving of faults are better than Sadaqah (charity) followed by injury. And Allaah is Rich (Free of all wants) and He is Most-Forbearing.” [Quran 2:263]

I know how much I have forgiven you and tried to hold you not with hands, but with love and care, but you spoiled not only my trust but also killed my each and every cell with your ill attitude and behavior. I really don’t know how your parents will take when they hear about you from others, but I was brutally killed and I don’t feel like I have to live or to love anyone. You made me a dead body. I have life, but living like a dead body in grief because of the love for you.

Truth is bound to win over falsehood – God is with me, that’s why he made me to realize all your colors and made me to feel that this is a punishment for loving, trusting, caring, and showing the real affection to a person who don’t deserve it.

 Imām `Alī ibn Husayn (a.s.),

used to say to his son:“Keep away from little and big lies whether you are serious or kidding! Whoever tells lies in childhood, will do so in adulthood.”  Do you not know that the Messenger of Allāh (s.w.t) has said:
‘A servant may keep on speaking truthfully until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very truthful one, and a servant may keep on telling lies until Allāh (s.w.t) records him as a very lying one.’

[Reference: Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 69, p. 234]

To Speak the TRUTH, you don’t need to follow any RELIGION, just you need to follow your HEART. I quoted the above from your religion because you wrapped yourself saying that you are following your RELIGION and as per your Religion – how you need to be and what you are? You are not true even to god 😦 . 

Whatever I have given here are just to say that this is what you have to do, there is lot many more to come in your life and don’t give them the same pain. I am saying all these as  vent out all my pain, caused by you, without doing any harm to you. Even this is to guide you, to make you right in your way. If god can help you to correct your way, I will be thankful to him. I know I can’t do it, but god has to talk to you in a way so as you can change yourself. Of course he will touch you, if you don’t listen to him, he will shake you, if you don’t listen, then he will take the root so as you will know what you are doing is right or wrong.

Even after reading all this family values, if you say that you have a family value, oh god, what kind of value it is , please make me to understand it…..

The Life of Pi

02nd March’2013, Dubai,  The Life of Pi – A lesson learnt from the movie….

I will not watch this movie even for the hype what it has got or for the Oscars what it has won. But I watched this movie because of two people and I have to thank both of them in my life for giving me a lesson of life. I enjoyed first 25 minutes of this movie like anything and I think I will watch it every day at least that 30 minutes.

A simple movie with nothing inside but it is a fortune wheel of wisdom for me. I will not criticize or give some review about this movie. What made me to feel this movie as special or what is the lesson that I learned out of this movie?

By reading all my previous articles, one come to a conclusion how I was and what I was? Literally a mad person, gone crazy and was ready to die at any point of time.

My Ex-boss, who is  really a blessing for me in all the phases of life because he is a person who knows me very well and we have great respect for each other. He is a mentor, philosopher and a guide to me and I really admire him for the way he used to guide me. He will not advise me as he knows that I don’t listen to anyone. But he will suggest me to read some novels, or to watch some movie or to listen some content. That will guide me what I have to do. As he knows that I was mentally disturbed, he asked me watch this movie. Initially I thought that he is asking me to watch because of the hype, but he said that “you must watch this movie”. Normally he used to say that you have to watch and when he said you must, I promised him that I will watch because of the respect what I have for him. Unfortunately I didn’t get time to watch it when I was in India.

After coming to UAE, I didn’t get any company as all my friends have watched it earlier. I shifted myself to Dubai and new project, new place, new accommodation, new friends and I thought Life of Pi, will be seen by me during my retirement planned movies only.

Zara is my new friend whom I know only for the last 3 weeks but spent quite a long time with her.  Yesterday I came back home after a long day of journey with my friends from Abu Dhabi and I entered around 12.15 midnight and was feeling sick because of flu.

She was feeling so fresh and asked have you seen Life of PI I told her no, Immediately  She said, you must watch this movie and I want to watch this movie with you can we watch life of pi together? I was surprised to hear it because of the time what we have spent is very less. My boss said that you must watch and she also said that you must watch it.

She saw the movie in French version and said to me let us watch the English version together. I was tired because of a long day, but she said just watch 20 minutes of the movie and it talks about you. It will be interesting for you and you will like the movie very much. It has something for you. Above all She said that only you came to my mind while watching this movie and she said couple of words as Hindu Catholic, the way you talk about Islam, I laughed a lot and asked her what is there in it.

I remembered my friend Anantha’s word that you will never say that you are tired or sick. I told her let us watch 10 minutes and not more than 20 minutes, I don’t think I can sit and watch the full movie tonight. She said ok you see only 10 minutes.

We started to watch the movie and the movie started with Pondicherry. A day before that we were talking about Pondicherry and all my friends were telling her that it was a French colony and even now the area has the impact of French people.  Zara told me that Pondicherry means Beach of Darling.

I don’t read the reviews and watch any movies as I don’t want to have any expectations about the movie. Same way Life of PI has got lot of hypes but I have not read any review and I was not aware that the movie starts with the background of India or Pondicherry.

The movie started with lullaby song and story starts from Pondicherry. A mother was telling a story to her son about Lord Krishna. It is a cute story and the way the boy listens to the mother was very nice. A small bet with his elder brother to drink the holy water from a church for Rs.2 is another nice shot in the movie to make the small boy to keep his feet in another religion.

He will see the Jesus Christ in the cross and a question from that small boy to the church father “ Why would the god send his own son to suffer for the sins of the ordinary people”. It is really a beautiful question and the answer was God Loves us and god made himself as approachable to us, so we can understand him. We can’t understand his knowledge but we can understand him through his son.

Next dialogue in the movie is it is non-sense and sacrificing the innocent for the sins of others what kind of love is that, wow it struck me like anything.  I really got enlightened with this sentence. 

I was feeling that I am carrying the other person’s wrong attitude, arrogant behavior and sin on my shoulder and I was feeling it as burden. I am not Jesus and I am not god’s daughter to carry others sin’s on my shoulder. I can try to correct them, but if they don’t want to correct themselves and ruin their life, why should I carry them on my shoulder and why should I haunt myself for it. Next minute I realized that how fool I was and why should I take it in the name of love or hatred or anger in my shoulders? I left it to god and  started feeling relaxed.

This small boy was so perfect with his next question, if god is so perfect and we are not, why would he wanted to create all this?

Same question raised in my mind when someone hurt me so badly, why did he create such a creature and why did he introduce her in front of my eyes? I do have the answer with me for introducing me, but still creating her as such a bad person for which I don’t have the answer.

I enjoyed a dialogue very much in this movie was when the boy will touch the feet of Vishnu and say thank you for introducing me to Christ. It shows how the Hindus are adaptable or amicable and to pray with other religion. Faith is through Hinduism, Love is through Christianity and god has not finished with him yet.

Suddenly the small boy will get enlightened about Islam and he will start praying at home as like a Muslim guy. He will do Namaz at home, he will start feeling serenity of brotherhood through Islam. His elder brother will make fun of him. Are you going to Mecca this year Swamy Jesus, or to Rome. Father will say to this little boy that you cannot follow 3 religions at the same time, and the immediate question why not? And the answer I don’t feel it as realistic “ Believing in everything at the same time is same as not believing in anything at all”.

Mother will support the small boy by saying that he is young and trying to find his way, father will ask how he can find a way when he doesn’t chose a path.

There was a sentence in the movie as Religion is darkness, I can’t accept that, because Religion is not darkness, it creates brightness if we try to understand the essence of what it is saying it to us. Love, Faith, Trust, Honesty are the ways of life in a disciplined way.

Again the small boy will play with a piece of meat in his hand and will try to make the tiger to come closer without understanding its power. During that time, son will say I was trying to say hello to the tiger with an innocent face. The father will teach a lesson to the son,Tiger is an Animal and you cant have love for an animal. Son will say Animal also has souls. Animals do not think as we do, people who forget that get themselves killed. That tiger is not your friend, when you see his eyes, your own emotions reflected back again nothing else and it was really the best sentence for me to learn my next  lesson  from this movie. It is not meant only for animals, it is meant for some humans who live like animals. I enjoyed this movie up to this part like anything. After this is it didn’t impress me. May be as I got the required information what I need to get on this particular time.

Towards the end, the last scene with the tiger was really touching, the emotions of a man and an animal was described so beautifully and it really touched me like anything. The way I was feeling with a human, but still not to be considered as human. When the boy was rescued, he will feel so bad because that tiger which was travelling with him all through the hard-time because of which he was feeling that he will survive and learned to control the tiger, to get food for him, will leave him when the tiger finds the forest even without seeing back. He will realize that his father was right.

Not only the hero realized that his father was right, but I too felt that how stupid I was to hold someone who is not thankful or who doesn’t have any courtesy to say a good-bye as well. It hurts when someone goes or leaves. But it is pleasant when someone leaves saying that  I love you, I can’t miss you, you will always be with me, but I can’t be with you.

An Evil person can bring in the evil out of a good person and I should not give that chance for her to do it. Already the evil is out but it has not done any harm to her, but created a lot of hurt and pain to me. Above all it has to happen and if it has to then it will happen. I cant stop any of the god’s decision.

I do have all the same things as it was shown in the movie, I got the Trust, Honesty, Faith from Hinduism, Love from Christianity and Equality and serenity of all the above from Islam.

The movie has given a great entrenchment us. I’m glad that the majority of the  audience with little intellect can understand it as I understood it.

Knowingly Hurting Others

As per Hinduism – Karma – What I feel about hurt and the punishments

Everything in the world happens with a reason and which is called as KARMA. Be it a good deed or bad deed, it happens only because of our Karma and I strongly believe that I have good karma otherwise I will not be in such a situation to write something about good and bad.

Physically anyone can hurt us. Mentally no one can hurt us. If we are mentally hurt WE ALONE are responsible and no one can be blamed or responsible, because we give them the liberty to play with our heart. We allow them to enter into our heart and to play with us. It is easy for us to stop in the beginning not to allow them to enter the heart by saying that you are a stranger and please stand outside my entrance and do ask me whatever you want.When I rejoiced the good moments, it is time for me to accept the bad time as well. I allowed you to enter it and I have to suffer it.

We are born to live our life and we are not here to correct ANYONE. WE can’t expect the changes in the other people and The ONLY person who is in our control is ourselves. We can correct and control ourselves only and NOT anyone else. No matter what you explain or recommend, suggest nothing will work for them and we will be considered as fool of an ass only. Everyone will prefer to do what they want to do.

We are allowed to communicate or explain but NOT teach (because you cannot teach anyone anything unless that person accepts you as a teacher) that you are getting hurt. It is not my responsibility to teach.

As human, it is very difficult to accept anything which hurts us and it is very difficult to accept that we failed to understand other person nature it becomes worse. Especially when someone ditches or cheats or betrays us, then it is too difficult to accept that we were being betrayed by the one we trusted much. The pain is not because that we were being betrayed, it is be because we trusted them too much. It is not easy to accept the failure that we allowed them to cheat us.

Most of the times, when I am under stress or dilemma or when I know that what I am going to do is going to hurt someone, then I will leave it to god’s decision and when I was about to send some things back to someone I checked in the same way with my god. My god didn’t ask me to stop my action and he gave the below message for me. I took it as granted message from god and sent it. but somehow I feel and repent for it, because I know I have done a sin by hurting other person. I don’t know whether that person will get hurt for this or not also, maybe she will feel happy also, but I am killing myself for sending it back.

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I used to say that I allowed you to play with me and If at all something goes wrong I have to suffer and it is my fate only. Yes it is my karma, I felt that you are a blessing and today I felt that it is karma and it is a curse that I have to reap from my previous births.

Whether we accept the difficult situation with or without reacting has no bearing on burning our bad past karma. For example, if someone hits me, I am getting the punishment for my past bad deed. If I hit him back, then I accumulate more bad karma.

When you started hurting me, I should have done whatever possible to avoid getting hurt repeatedly. Without hurting back I tried to do whatever possible to prevent getting  hurt from you. I have told you many times that I am getting hurt and also I told you that I do not expect you to change your attitude just because I am expressing.

When I know that you are intentionally trying to hurt me, I tried to urge you by admitting that I am getting hurt. So you started hurting me more and more without a limit. It was my mistake only

Without hurting you, I tried to react either saying sorry or telling you ‘please do not hurt me’, I do not accumulate more bad karma. This kind of reaction is OK. Not reacting is also ok, if the situation warrants. As long as we do not hurt other by the way of our reaction, it is fine. Ideally it was my mistake only because, knowing your certain qualities, I should have avoided the bad company or moved with some good people.

I tried not to do it for so long time and thought I can sew the good deeds in you, but you made me to do some sins because of you and I know for sure am accountable for it and I don’t know how I will repay for this sin. Either I will be given punishment immediately or I will meet another bad situation later on since I have done the hurt back.

I learned it is better to be self-centered (too much selfishness is not good for anyone). It is wrong to live for others only as well. Everyone should take care of themselves first before attempting to help others. Hurting ourselves in helping others is our mistake. Loving others by hurting ourselves is our mistake.

Whether we like it or not everyone is selfish. Some fools like me will not accept this fact. They may serve others and make sacrifices…I do so because it gives me more happiness. I need to do what is good for myself without wondering how the other person will feel is a selfish deed only. I used to feel that I should never hurt others. That is the base line.

In general, if you hurt others you have to suffer the result but if you love others and help others also you have to suffer the result is what I learned from you.

Only thing what karma or punishment says about selfishness is without hurting others you can be selfish. (Ideally being selfish will definitely hurt others and for hurting others we have to face the consequences).

This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You

Hurting words can come from anyone like parents, siblings, spouses, best friends, coworkers, etc. but nothing is intentional. It doesn’t matter who hurts is, the fact is words creates wound with revenge.

I know my dear, I was very harsh and it happens very often now days and especially with the one I love deeply. I know very well that words are very dangerous and it can lead a serious threat to any relationship. I used to be very careful and cautious in letting the word go.

Tongues are sharper than the swords.There is a saying keep silence, and control your tongue, it doesn’t mean that we have to hurt the others feelings.

Even when I get hurt, I will try not to hurt the other person. Only those who are my blood relatives knows that I am very wild (Parents & Siblings). For others I am aggressive but not wild or ferocious.

Love is my passion in  inner circle, when I take them to inner circle, I show all my feelings.

Sometimes we say and mean hurtful things deliberately to hurt the person we love the most. In such a way I did something and it really pricks me more than her silence. I know she was deliberately keeping silence.

It’s a known fact that the once the words are out of the mouth, it’s impossible to take them back, whether it comes from mouth or from the heart. The pain and hurt are very clear in the heart of the person who was hurt and but the hurt will be double of yours as I hurt you. My heart got torn into pieces when I hurt you my dear. I know you can’t take even a small pain and this hurt and when it is from me, you would have got hurt more. I am really sorry.

When I got hurt, I was not able to let you go and may be all the hurts turned to grudges for a moment. Even in pain, I would not have hurt you. If it is a friend or anybody other than you, definitely, I would have taught them a lesson by moving away.

When it is you, even in wildest dreams I can’t hurt you, because you are so sweet for me.

After uttering the words I felt whether I did it as an act of vengeance or payback the hurt. But soon after hurting you, I realized that I lost my humanness and I lost the sanctity of my love because love can’t hurt anyone.

I would like to recall a small story which I read long time back. A scorpion was suffering in a river and a saint was crossing the river and tried to rescue it. When he tried to save it, the scorpion bites the saint hand. A disciple of the saint asked his guru, why you tried to save the scorpion when you know that it will bite you?

The Guru politely answered the disciple that biting is its character and helping, loving, saving is my character. I can’t change my character for the scorpion sake.

Why I am recalling this short story here is, I was deeply hurt by you, but it doesn’t mean that I have to hurt you back. For few days I became like you and I started hurting you badly which is not my basic instinct.

When I was hurt initially I used to keep it in mind that I have to take it or leave it. I should not feel that it hurts me, and I continued, but may be that made you to hurt me every now and then.

I should have not let it go, I should have avoided those kind of situations. I took everything so lightly and I gave the chances for you to do it again and again. I allowed you to take me for granted, because of my love for you.

Love is a sweet feeling dear and care is the way of showing that you love the other person and it is not for exploiting others feelings.

Sometimes it is good to let it go and not to hold on to something that’s done which can’t be altered. I know I can’t repair the wound and the scar will be there in your heart. I tried to choose to let it go,  chances are there that the relationship will heal and flourish. but I am unable to let it go because it gives more pain to you.

I know that you can’t handle if I give pain to you and I am sure that I behaved wild only because of you. You neither allowed me to move away nor to stick on with you. You were either ready to leave me once for all or ready to be with me as well. Only god knows what the problem is as you never shared it.

Sometimes the hurt is so deep in the heart of the person who was hurt, and they walk away from the relationship. This time the hurt is so deep in my heart as I created it to the one whom I love and who would never ever expected that I will hurt her like that. Very often pride or the self-esteem stands in between the person who did the hurting and the person who was hurt. Anyway you have given the reason saying that you are selfish and I can’t help or to change you to self-less.

Especially when the moment you asked me to pray, I am not supposed to utter those words. If it was in some other time, I would not have felt that I hurt you also.

You know that your behaviors did hurt my self-esteem to great extent and you continued to do it was paining more than the hurt. I know I gave up my self-esteem of 90% to you, but if I would have given that 10% then I would have lost my life in the name of love. I am ready to do it now for the hurt what I have given for you.

Whatever may be the reason, whether to get more love or to hurt them intentionally it is pain only my dear? If you would have felt that I will have pain in my heart when you do this purposely, you would not have done it. In the same way, I should not have used those words to you even though I did not mean it to hurt you. Neither it was intentional nor it was spontaneous words.

Instead of trying to make it correct and to heal the pain, you started pinning it more and more, when you said it you have done it purposely, my ego got hurt and my-self took over. Even then I asked you “Have I ever disappointed you?

I know that you purposely did it and I don’t want to disappoint you, that is the reason, I gave up all my self-esteem and showed you the same care and concern. It doesn’t mean that I am mad of you or I have shown over love. It is because of your love and the way I have felt it. It is not that I love you; it is because I know what your love is. I value that relationship and I respect your love.

As you said, that you did it purposely, my loving relationship has no value in it. I don’t want to hurt you by any means but when you have real love, you will not do anything purposely.

I too hurt you, when the pain given by you was very extreme from you. I did not do anything purposely, may be to make you realize that it will pain for the other person.

Nobody can do something to the person who loves them more than their life. When you said that you did it purposely, it really disturbed me a lot. It has become nothing not even worth of keeping it in memory. It doesn’t have to be that way.

When we are in love, our LOVE holds great significance for us and which makes as a source of both great happiness  and deep sadness. Your love has brought me great joy, blessed feeling and I expected for sure that it will bring in deep hurt, but I never expected that it will bring in such a way. Even before enjoying the great love, I got the deep hurt which was the most painful moment for me.

It is very easy to know why someone who doesn’t love the other person and it is easy for them to  break the heart. It is easy to break a heart when we do not love those who love us, there is a possibility to hurt them. Even in that case I will try not to hurt them, but just I will avoid them, because I give respect to the other heart who loves me. I can’t even say no to them just because of their care and concern.

However, hurting the one we do love happens when we feel dejected. How can one love and hurt the same person?

I accepted that pain with tears and said it is because of the one who made me to smile and for that smile I can give up my life why not tears?

When someone hurt us, it’s all very easy to just open our hand and allow them to let go and walk away from it. That’s the easy way, but it’s also the losing way.

You and the person that hurt you both lose out because you lose each other. But if we stop and ask ourselves why the person said hurtful things to us to start with, it could help the situation immensely. I know why you did it because, I have shown my love to you and you wanted to explore it whether I am doing it again or not.

I could have walked away but I could not do it, because my love is true, real and more than anything it is holistic, divine and even now it pains a lot but still my love is sweet when I say it is for you and even the pain is sweet when it is by you.

However, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person. You are the one who used to say that it is part of love and don’t worry and have to hurt each other. For me hurting is not Love. I learned to take hurt as love only from you. 

Sometimes, though not always, a person will say something that hurts because they were stressed out or going through really tough times. They use us as bouncing board, someone to vent their frustrations out. But and not vent what’s really going on, the stress comes out as hurtful words to us. Initially when you said that I can show it only to you, I was really happy. I was so happy because you considered me to show your frustrations.

No doubt we have all done this to someone we love and had it done to us. The difference is in how we handle it after hurting the other person is what matters us most.

Do we choose to see the hurtful words for what they most likely are, stress and frustration at something in life, or do we take it personal (which it probably isn’t at all) and get angry and upset and just walk away.

If we walk away, we lose out on a wonderful relationship. Just because someone gets upset and stressed and says something that hurts us is not a reason to end a relationship, but sadly that’s what happens too often.

I know you are not going to lose anything even if I leave you, but I can’t say that I will not lose anything because I value you and your love more than anything in this world.

We can choose to leave the past or live in the past, knowing that the past can’t be undone, and put our pride on the back shelf, and we can start fresh.

To do this, it’s important that you understand that we all make mistakes and that no matter what someone has said or done, they simply cannot change the past.

No amount of regret will undo something that was done or said. If we choose to hold onto a past hurt, we are the ones that are hurting ourselves. The person who said something or did something that hurt us is not hurting us. I can hold the words and I can regret it for life long if it will heal your hurt. I can keep it as pain for hurting the one I love.

When we choose to allow pride to keep us from reaching out to the other party, we are the one who is hurting ourselves. We don’t have to let the past to haunt us. We know that it cannot be changed, to rule our present.

Sometimes it is really hard letting go and starting over and it seems that letting something go would somehow diminish the hurt that was said or done. In Reality it is not the fact. Letting go of the past and beginning again isn’t diminishing anything nor was taking away the fact that hurt caused.

Hurtful words cuts deeper, but the deepest cut isn’t really the hurtful words at all, but rather the lost relationship and love if the two parties involved don’t put the past to rest and begin fresh.

Love is simply forgiving, moving on, and living and loving again. To hold onto the hurt is to reject yourself and a beautiful relationship. Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not.

Those who are in real love can easily hurt the beloved without intending to do so. Because they are so significant to each other, any innocent remark or action can be interpreted in a manner that the other person did not intend and hence be hurtful.

If I think and talk something, then it is not love my dear, I don’t want to think and talk, I have to speak whatever it comes and it should not hurt you as well.

Love is spontaneous and it is like a river and it has to flow. May be it saw a mountain and was not able to go smoothly on its way, but still love is flowing and it will reach the top and flow as a falls and it will not get wasted in the Sea.

When something comes and if it haunts you then there is a reason for it and you are the reason for it or you could be one of the reasons of it.

How can I let someone go just because for hurting when the pleasure of love is more? Whether your love is more or the hurt is more?  Whatever it is I would prefer to get that hurt again and again to get your love.

When you expect the other person to understand your situations, don’t you feel that you have to think from the other person’s side as well? Just because someone loves you don’t mean that they have to look all the time your side only. Sometimes the other person needs you to look their side as well.

Sweet heart, though I started this content to say that hurting you is hurting me more. But this content is to give you some justification that you can hurt me, I am still not sure you are doing it out of your profound love for me.

In the last 12 days, I have taken the entire pain in my heart, in the same way as a let out, I discussed with couple of my friends and I said that I hurt her with this words and it really kills me. Both of them said, you didn’t mean to hurt her but tried to tell her what she needs to do only.

If she doesn’t understand your love for her, then she will take it as a hurt and she will keep it in her heart. Still I say that Hurting is not Love and I am really sorry for the hurt.

I sincerely apologize for whatever happened for being so wild, please consider it as the voice of doom and gloom (bad outcome from me). But, if you give your heart and love in someone you will hurt or be hurt by that person. HURT is inevitable and it is also sweet when it is by a sweet and lovable person like you.

Forgive and Forget

The contents of this blog aroused based on an argument with a friend. He asked me can you forgive someone who has done harm to you. I told my friend that I don’t forgive because I can’t forget the incident which has caused the pain in me. I have the heart to forgive and I have done it also but I can’t forget the incident. Is it the meaning of forgiveness??

Is it so easy to forgive and forget?  It is really a great thing to do, but how many of us can forgive and forget?  Forgiving doesn’t means Forgetting and Forgetting doesn’t means forgiving am I Confusing? Yes I am confused.

Up to me Forgive and Forget are like twins, without forgetting, we can’t forgive. If I say I can forgive and I can’t Forget then it means I am going ahead with the relationship as I need that relationship, but I can’t forget it. Somewhere in the corner, it will be there.

Forgiving and Forgetting are the great commandments from god and it is really a blessing to have it in us. Even a Mother can’t forgive and forget. Forgiving is motherliness but forgetting is godliness. If someone says I forget what happened then it means that they have forgiven.

Forgive and forget… is the one that easily comes from lot of people when giving advice, but it’s not one that is easily followed.

Forgiving someone who has done something bad to us is not easy. Of course it usually can be done, and it requires some time. This time can come in two minutes also and this time can kill the relationship also.

Even though we’ve forgiven someone for the pain what they’ve given, it is not easy to forget. Our mind is so sharp when it comes to these things, it will alert us that you have faced pain because of this person during this kind of scenario’s, be careful. How can we get this alert if we forget the incident totally? It is really tough to forget the hurt/pain completely. Especially if someone has hurt us in BIG way, we can never really forget the pain and the fact that it has happened to us.

What is the meaning of Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a process and it can never happen instantly. It takes long time and it might even take forever also. It can happen or it can’t happen also. Forgiving means that you choose not to punish a person who has done some harm to you.

Forgiveness is a process and it may take a long time, some even take forever before the resentment and the anger subsides. Forgiveness means that you choose not to punish that person because of what that person has done to you. But giving forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to forget.

Forgiveness does not involve a literal forgetting. Forgiveness involves remembering graciously. The forgiver remembers the true though painful parts

For example, we do a mistake and we realize that we have done some harm and we pray to god for forgiveness and we assume that god forgives us. But does god forgets our sin??? Even if we don’t ask for forgiveness god knows everything and he does not forget anything.

As a human, we know very little and many things slip from our memory. It just slips for a while. In reality, we do not have the power to forget. If we try to forget, the action of trying to forget will stress the facts more firmly in our memories.

Forgiveness is a feeling which contradicts with time and people. Feelings may or may not change at the time that you forgive. At times, we might feel that we have forgiven, but when we think of the pain/hurt/loss, we might think that we should not have forgiven. Actually feelings don’t agree with mind to forgive. Actually we don’t want to forgive and we can’t forget also. We get angry on ourselves for the action of forgiving the others.

Life has become too mechanical and complicated. We hardly have time to meet, discuss and reunite, forgive and shake hands. And we carry the ill feelings even till graves. But is it really worth to destroy relationships, refusing to forgive those we love? We cannot make up the time we have wasted by holding grudges and turning our backs on forgiveness. True, it does hurt more when a loved one says or does something to cause us harm. But we need to move beyond the initial hurt to try and find healing – and that can only come from forgiveness

When we forgive others, we not only mend our relationships, and also we learn to heal ourselves. When we refuse to forgive, we want to hold the pains made by the other person and it always reminds us of the clash and the turmoil. When we let go of our anger, the pain disappears and we are free to put it behind us and begin all over again.

The person may have caused a lot of damage that may be impossible to forget, but forgiving doesn’t mean you erase everything from your memory. It is only the negative feelings that you put behind so that it does not infect the relationship.

Only way to come out of this is “Do not let your feelings control you” Have the feeling to “Love your Enemy” or “Bless your enemy” and Leave the pains to god. Definitely this will change the feelings towards the offender.

Forgiveness is as an art of Godliness, but asking for forgiveness is more than that. Forgiveness is a kind of relief feeling given to the offender. Offender asking for the forgiveness is the real feeling from the heart of accepting the mistake or committing his sin. Who is great here the person who asks for forgiveness or the person who gives forgiveness???

When a person feels sorry for his mischief behavior is above the human who forgives him for his sin.

It’s not a matter of holding a grudge, it’s just that once the damage has been done, it can never be undone. It can be healed and a remedy can be improved over the time and it can never be undone. In other words, you can forgive the person, but you can’t forget what they did. It will stay with you forever, but what changes is how you deal with your emotions. Over time, the pain, disappointment and anger may diminish. It will come to a point wherein it becomes just a distant thought with no more emotional impact. Nevertheless, it will be in your mind… someday, when you look back,  specially during the times in your life when you’re forced to recall it. But then you’re in control. Because it is not going affect you like as it was. And this is when you can say that you’re stronger, because of what you’ve been through and because of what you had to endure.

That’s why I can say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with remembering. “Forgive, but never forget“. Now, that’s more like it.

We don’t forget the hurt but when we remember the pain, do we forgive the person at that moment also? Then we can feel that we have the art of forgiving.

Finally to conclude, Forgiveness lets us to make ourselves cool from the anger. It reduces the anger immediately and it erases the pain on the person who hurt us. It makes you stronger and many times it makes the relationship also stronger.

Forgiveness brings back the peace and it increases the healing power in human. Above all, it is not a bad thing to forgive, and to do a good thing we don’t need arguments… signing off