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Way of Life – Religion

I don’t like to talk about any religion because it creates rift between two lovely souls. Somehow in the recent times friends around me make me to think more about my religion, which most of us doesn’t give priority to it because we know that it doesn’t forces us to follow A to Z.

I have to feel proud of the following.

My parents – for the reason for my birth, My country India in which I was born as an independent female child, My religion – HINDU which doesn’t ask me to follow any religious rituals.

Rest of things like school, teachers, friends all came to me during the course of my life. I had struggles in all these, but to have my parents, my country and to have my religion, I never had any problems.

Unto me, the religion is just to say how to live the life and it is said as way of life. As a Hindu, I live the life as I want without harming anyone or my harmony.  I don’t discriminate with other religions and in the same way I don’t want anyone to talk anything against any religion.

I am not an atheist and I don’t agree with atheist but I believe that it is their freedom to say there is no god, yes that is the reason I love my Hinduism. More than us, those who say there is no god, think more about god to prove that there is no god.

In the recent time, an audio reached me via whatsapp saying that the Hinduism has discrimination with reference to the caste system and because of which humans are not equal.  It doesn’t say that humans are not equal, but it says that as per the desire of god, please do the work what is assigned to you. It doesn’t mean that you should not do anything above to your limits.

There is no condition that you have to follow this. If you don’t follow the reason of your birth, then there is a possibility of disaster happening around the world. When one person rebel, there is no harm, but when a mob rebels there is harm to the society.

Second thought of that content was – Muslim scholars quote a lot about Hinduism, Veda’s etc.,

Yes it is for sure that we don’t preach or we don’t ask a Christian or a Muslim to follow Hinduism or to attend some seminars or to go through any form of Hinduism.  We don’t even talk to them that our religion is the best one to follow or it is revealed by god to XYZ etc.,

Third point of it was Muhammad was the last messenger of God, how could we say this, when Quran accepts that Jesus was also a messenger of God, we might have one more to come…

Way of Life for a Human à cannot be simplified with one holy book which is for sure everyone will accept.. I have read in Quran that Jesus was a messenger of God, that means those who believe in Quran has to believe that bible was also a message from GOD. Even before the birth of Christ, there was people living and they would have followed few things as way of life. When god has created us, don’t you think he would not have created us without a user manual?

I don’t have the origin of Hinduism and there are great Muslim scholars who has said that Mohammed will be born and it is written in some Veda’s. As a Hindu, most of us would not be aware of it, but he was able to quote it, because he is reading a more on that not to find the similarities but to identify the reasons to preach his religion.

I have been asked by a Muslim guy, are you a Hindu terrorist, I smiled and told him that If I can save a Muslim family, then I am an Indian Hindu who can safeguard a Muslim family, but when a Muslim tries to attack me for being a Hindu, yes I am a Hindu Terrorist for that Muslim terrorist. It depends on you how I have to be because I give respect to you as human, if you consider me as Hindu terrorist then I have to consider you as a Muslim terrorist and tell me how I should treat you as a human or as a Muslim or Muslim terrorist? His reply was Sorry Sister 🙂

You don’t get respect, if you don’t give, and especially from me, you will not get it if you don’t give it. I work with different country people, I work in Islamic country, I love unity and peace. When I see a Pakistani, I don’t get enmity, I welcome them with smile and I want my working environment to be peace and without any conflict. We don’t enter into any political talks to make them cheap or to boost my country. I give respect to their feelings. I give respect to their patriotism, I give respect to their religion, I give respect to them as human and I don’t treat them as my enemy.

I have to give full credit to them as well, they don’t enter into any arguments related to my country or my religion or anything to hurt the sentiment of the two nation.

One thing is sure that God is one and as a Hindu, I believe in GOD and I believe that this universe is being created by god and we all act as per the wishes of GOD. Almighty is the director and we all act as he wants us to act.

Hinduism doesn’t need saviors to protect it as it has its own power to protect it. Hinduism doesn’t need preachers to preach it. It will not die even after the entire universe changes or gets converted to any other religion. It has its own power to be alive till this earth is alive. It doesn’t need you and me to make it alive.

If at all the world becomes a Christians or Muslims alone, and there are no Hindu’s living in this world, even then HINDUISM will live without any followers because it has a long history and the way it is will make it to live without preaching and protecting.

We live as human, live for human and die as human, just because I believe in god doesn’t mean that I am not going to die or I am going to get special benefits during my life and after my life.

To do good, I don’t need GOD to be with me to care, to love or to hope or to live, but the belief in god makes to love without hatred, to care the known and unknown, to hope that all human are same, and to live my life happily with a belief that there is life after death. 

Hinduism doesn’t need me to be a Hindu to protect Hinduism but I need Hinduism to protect myself from enmity and to keep myself in Harmony with others. If you can do good without GOD, I welcome you with two hands and encourage you with more smiles and happiness in me.

Religion – is for the Good Life which is a process and not a state of being, it is a direction not the destination.  whether I am a Hindu or Muslim or christian is to direct me to lead life. Important C’s of Life are Compassion, Confidence, Contentment, Choice, Chance, Cherish, Change teaches us what is life for which I don’t need to fight in the name of Religion. Change comes to those who knows to take the right choice and to take it as a chance with Confidence.




Diwali Celebrations

Diwali is one of the most important festivals of all the Hindus living all over the world.  I was not able to celebrate almost any festivals after my grandmother’s death, as I have learnt all the festivals from her. Hinduism also was taught by her with the help of these festivals. I don’t remember whether she taught us the reason for the festivals, but I know for sure she used to make all the festivals a grand gala one with love filled feast.

Diwali is one good festival taught by her, who used to make lot of sweets, savories and make us very happy with whatever way she could do it. whatever money i would have burnt as crackers was really a needy one for the next day survival, but she has given it with pure love for me to burn it as crackers. Without anyone’s help the way she used to prepare the sweets for us is one precious moment which will not come in my life, even if 10 or 100 members does with love and care, it will not be equal to that of my grand mother.

Almost all the kids at home learnt it through her but the impact of festivals with my grandmother was more with me. The care and love shown by her towards me was mammoth. I can’t feel that love and care from anyone else. That is one of the reason for not celebrating any festivals in the past6-7 years. It is very difficult to articulate the feelings with words, but only those who have seen us or felt our love can understand the reason behind it.

It is almost 6 years in UAE and the life in UAE also has given a lot of change in me. One of my aunty used to call us during the Eid’s to check whether I am at home. As we get couple of holidays, I utilize those public holidays along with annual leaves, I used to go on a short vacation back home.

Being a Hindu, I failed to celebrate most of the festivals and I used to give a nasty dialogue also that festivals are for eating and I am having everything and whenever I want I can have it. 

Somewhat in the last 6 years, I never felt that I have to celebrate Diwali or Pongal. This year I wished to celebrate it in UAE. Normally atmosphere will not help to celebrate any festivals, apart from the Onam as there are lot of Malayalees in every organization. We don’t get the pleasure of Holidays for the Hindu festivals as we have in India. Being in a Muslim country, I can’t expect it as well :). Life used to be mechanical even on the days of festivals as we will be working.

Most of our colleagues are Muslims and most of the time they don’t even wish us for our festivals(not all there are few who respect the others), which I am not saying as wrong, it might be as per their belief in their religion. As usual this year also I was in between Muslims and all of them are from Pakistan.

My mind wanted to celebrate Diwali in UAE because of some good heart which was forcing me to buy new dress and wanted me to celebrate Diwali, fortunately she is also a Muslim.

I was talking to my colleagues about Diwali and we planned to celebrate it in office. Day before Diwali, I bought some sweets &  savouries.  I wanted to light my room with Diya’s, so bought candles, but my room was in total mess as I shifted to the new room and was not settled in the room. Somehow managed to light the candles and performed my usual rituals by lighting the Diya’s.

The day before Diwali, I got a wonderful Diwali greetings which was again from a Muslim and the way he wished me was the best wish in my life. Diwali wishes to you in advance, tomorrow I will be busy and will not be able to wish you, let the lights festival bring the shine to you and no more tears or hurts. I pray the one almighty in which you also believe to keep you happy was the wishes for me.

On the day of Diwali, again the first wish was from a Muslim and she wished it with great love and care. Got up with lovely wishes and as usual followed the rituals, missing my mother who used to keep oil to take bath and the sweet memories of getting the new dress from father. In the last 5 years I was not feeling for these oil bath or for getting the new dress. Somehow this year was feeling as if I am just 10 years old.  After sometime the whatsapp messages with family asking for Ganga Snanam.

As usual got late to office because of sharing the Diwali greetings with Family in whatsapp. Started to office with full of love and happiness carrying the sweets and forgot to take the wallet. Again turned back from the bus stop to my room to take the wallet and reached office.

Partying is not new to us whether it is office colleagues or with my friends, I used to have a extra luxury foodie when it is a party from me. We never had any issues within my team being from two (different) rivalry nations. We never had any heated arguments or discussions, irrespective of the discussions we used to have about the countries and religion as well.

I distributed the sweets to my team and asked the office boy to distribute it to other staffs in the office. Diwali started with sweets, coffee/tea. When it was lunch time, I asked the team to order food for them and being a vegetarian it was not easy for me to take them out on Diwali day, as I preferred to heavy Veg meals.

The ladies group preferred to have veg and for the guys, it was their choice to go with the grilled chicken. The one who was about to order messaged me is it okay to go as the cost was little high, if not we will order somewhere else, I asked him to go ahead as it matters with food not with the cost.

It took very long for them to get the food, and by the time it reached, I finished my lunch, had a skype chat with my mother, sisters & kids.

After the lunch, we had sweets again and the team was so happy, even I felt very happy when one of the guy said we feel that we are celebrating one more EID today. Before the celebration, that was in my mind, that at least one should say that we celebrated our Eid today. I was so happy feeling that god has come down to witness the Harmony in people. It is human nature to have peace and love for each other. Only the Politicians make the region, religion as weapon to fight against each other.

Thanks a lot for making me to celebrate my Diwali and this Diwali will be in my heart forever as I have celebrated it only with Muslims and for giving the feeling of celebration. Whether it is Eid or Diwali, celebration only matters and I do celebrate CHRISTMAS, DIWALI & EID.

After 5 Diwali in UAE, this Diwali is one of the most  memorable diwali and it is gonna be the best DIWALI of my life. I may not be able to get such a good feeling of Humanity and Happiness in my life on a Festival day.

This has shown me that the mind of Human wishes happiness only and it can be achieved with love and care irrespective of the religion, caste etc., This DIWALI increased the faith in ISLAM, this Diwali increased the faith in Human, this Diwali increased the faith in Respect for each other, this Diwali increased the faith in LOVE and wish many more Diwali’s to come in the similar way to keep the Harmony keep spreading….

No Ganga Snanam, No Crackers, No Granny, No Namaskaram’s, No Blessings (Didn’t get any blessings from the elders of the family) still this is the best DIWALI for me. Festival of Light for sure made me to shine with a bright smile in my face by end of the day.

YES we are united irrespective of the Nationality 🙂 First Wish to celebrate Diwali started from Sri Lankan, First Wish from Sri Lankan and the day was with Pakistani’s. 

I don’t know whether I will get this privilege to say that I celebrated my Diwali with Indians so happily, but for sure I was very happy because of my those 7 wonders of my Team & the great family from Sri Lanka.


Why am I a Hindu?

# படித்ததில் பிடித்தது

இஸ்லாமியனாய் இரு என குரான் சொல்கிறது… Quran Says to be a Muslim (Follower of Islam)
கிறிஸ்துவனாய் இரு என பைபிள் சொல்கிறது… Bible Says to be a Christian (Follower of Christianity)
மனிதனாய் இரு என கீதை சொல்கிறது…  Gita Says be a human ( Follow humanity), It doesnt ask us to be a Hindu.
கடவுள் ஏழாவது வானத்தில் இருக்கிறார் என குரான் சொல்கிறது… Quran says, God is in seventh cloud
நாலாவது வானத்தில் இருக்கிறார் என பைபிள் சொல்கிறது…Bible says God is in Fourth Cloud
கடவுள் உன்னுள்ளே தான் இருக்கிறார் என கீதை சொல்கிறது… Gita says god is in you
காபிர்களை (இசுலாமியர்கள் அல்லாதவர்களை) கொல் என குரான் சொல்கிறது… Kill those who are not Kabir – Quran ( I am not sure about this)
சிலை வழிபாடு செய்பவர்களை தண்டி என பைபிள் சொல்கிறது…. Punish those who worship Idols – Says Bible ( I am not sure about this as well)
உலகமே உன் குடும்பம் தான் என கீதை சொல்கிறது….. World is your family says Gita
: நான் இந்துவாக இருக்க விரும்பும் காரணம் :👇👇👍  The reasons why I want to be an Hindu?

1. கடவுள் இல்லை என்று சொன்னாலும் குற்றவாளி என்று சொல்லாத மதம். Even if someone says there is no god, we don’t consider them as a sinner or a wrong doer.

2. இன்றைய தினத்தில் இத்தனை மணிக்கோ அல்லது தினமுமோ கோயிலுக்கு சென்றே ஆகவேண்டும் என்று வரையறுக்காத மதம். There is no restriction or time frames defined to follow the religious sentiments like go to travel, pray this, pray these many times, no hardcore rules

3. காசிக்கோ, ராமேஸ்வரதுக்கோ சென்றே ஆக வேண்டும் என்று கட்டளை இடாத மதம். There is no compulsion to visit Kasi or Rameshwar

4. இந்து மதத்தின் புத்தகத்தின் படி
வாழ்கையை நடத்த வேண்டும் என்று கூறாத மதம். There is no defintion to lead a life as Hindu

5. மத குறியீடுகளை அணிந்தாக வேண்டும் என்று வரையறை செய்யாத மதம். No need to use any Ornaments or any sort of materials to say that you are an HINDU

6. ஒட்டு மொத்த இந்து சமுகத்தை
கட்டுபடுத்தும் மதத்தலைவர் என்று யாரும் இல்லை. There is no one as a leader to control the religion.

7. தவறு செய்தவன் சாமியாராக முகத்தில் காரி உமிழும் தெளிவு உண்டு இந்துகளுக்கு. People has the guts and dignity to punish the saints or the wrong doers

8. இயற்கையாய் தோன்றியவற்றில் இழி பிறவி என்று ஏதுமில்லை.
👉மரமும் கடவுள்,
👉கல்லும் கடவுள்,
👉நீரும் கடவுள்(கங்கை),
👉காற்றும் கடவுள் (வாயு),
👉குரங்கும் கடவுள் அனுமன்,
👉நாயும் கடவுள் (பைரவர்),
👉பன்றியும் கடவுள் (வராகம்).

9. நீயும் கடவுள்,
நானும் கடவுள்…
பார்க்கும் ஒவ்வொன்றிலும் பரமாத்மா.

10. எண்ணிலடங்கா வேதங்களை கொடுக்கும் மதம். பன்னிருதிருமுறைகள்,

பெண் ஆசையை ஒழிக்க

மண் ஆசையை ஒழிக்க

கடமையின் முக்கியத்துவத்தை உணர்த்த


👉காம சாஸ்திரம்,

👉சித்தா, ஆயுர்வேதம்,

👉வேதக் கணிதம்,

உடல் நன்மைக்கு
👉யோகா சாஸ்த்திரம்,

👉வாஸ்து சாஸ்திரம்,


11.யாரையும் கட்டாயபடுத்தியோ அல்லது போர்தொடுத்தோ பரப்பப்படாத மதம்.

12. , கொன்று உண்ணலாம் என்ற உணவு முறையிலிருந்து
“கொல்லாமை ” “புலால் மறுத்தல்”,
ஜீவகாருண்ய ஒழுக்கம் மற்றும் சைவம் வரையறையை கொடுத்த மதம்.

13. இந்துக்களின் புனிதநூல் என்று ஒரு நூலை குறிப்பிடுவது மிகவும் கடினம் ஏனெனில் பெரியோர்கள் அளித்த அனைத்து நூல்களும் புனிதமாகவே கருதப்படுகிறது.

13. முக்தி எனப்படும் மரமில்லா பெருவாழ்விற்க்கு வழிகாட்டும் மதம்.

14. சகிப்புதன்மையையும், சமாதானத்தையும் போதிக்கும் மதம்.

15. கோயில் என்ற ஒன்றை கட்டி அதில் வாழ்க்கையின் தத்துவத்தையும், உலக இயக்கத்தின் இரகசியத்தையும் உலகிற்கு அளித்த புனிதமதம்.
👉👉இன்னுமும் சொல்லிகொண்டே போகலாம்……
👉💪👑👑இந்துவாக (இயற்கையாளனாக) வாழ்வதில் பெருமைகொள்வோம்

Ramadan Fasting by Non Muslim

Ramadan Fasting by Non-Muslim

The reason for me to quote some of the Prophet’s sayings is because of my few friends. They told me, you are not supposed to fast during Ramadan as like a Muslim, and it is not going to be rewarded or accepted by God. I am happy if god accepts my fasting, and I am more happy god rejects my fasting also. I will keep my faith and trust in god and I will continue my fast during Ramadan, if I am in UAE. I don’t fast for the rewards, I fast because of my beliefs. I fast because of my trust in god, I fast because it is a commitment between me and god.

I know those who tried to stop me really care about me and they don’t want me to do some sin in the name of fasting. Above than the Sin, they also care about my health conditions. I can quit fasting for their love, care and concern for me, if he would have said that my dear, stop your fasting and am asking this in the name of my love, care and affection. But he said, that it is not accepted by god which I can’t accept it. If it would not have been accepted by god, god would have asked me not to fast or by any chance it would have got stopped. As I was trying to keep the remaining days of fast of last year, I was not able to do it because of cold cough and phlegm. If it gets stopped on its own, I will not feel bad also. I will take it as God’s plan for me.

I have not taken something very hard to follow in life or a very strict thing that requires more concentration, patience or anything in life. You just need to have love, care, affection, peace, harmony, friendliness, trust, faith & belief in what you read and what you do. I love to follow what I read and I prefer to do to the perfection.

I was very curious to reply to my friend/brother and asked them all the required questions, but I was not able to keep cool, because for me fasting is very religious, sacred and sensitive.

I do believe in the pillars of Islam, I know for sure that I can’t make all the five pillars of Islam. Especially the last one Hajj, all others are possible as a human and Hajj is meant for a Muslim and I can’t go for it. Five Pillars of Islam are (Shahadah – Faith in One God(Allah), Salah – Prayers (5 times), Zakat (Charity), Sawm (Fasting during Ramadan) and Hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

Faith Simple, I do believe in one god, I know the world has got only one supreme power and we call it as GOD. As a Hindu, I name the god in different names, forms etc., to bring in my concentration towards that supreme power. I believe in Prophet as a messenger also.

Prayers – I don’t do 5 times prayers like a Muslim, but more than a Muslim, I wait for the Azaan and I do think about god and it is not only 5 times, I think about god more than 5 times. I pray more than 5 times not in the way Islam says. I do a bow to god and thank him for giving the day and being with me all the time.

Zakah – Charity, as per Hinduism what you give using right hand should not be known to left hand. So what I do should not be known to anyone. Charity begins at home and I wish my first, second and third circle of relatives to be happy.

Fasting – I have started it for some specific purpose, but the fasting is towards god and with a special prayer in it. I don’t fast for my needs and when I do it, I don’t wait for others to say break the fast, I will break it even to make a party more delightful or to make someone happy with a dinner party. I love to give up my personal requests/plea/prayer for others smile.

Examples of the Prophet’s Sayings

‘God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds’.

I don’t know how many of you believe in this, but I truly believe and I know that my fasting will have a meaning, if not also, I will not say that there is no god, may be my prayers are not valid for the one whom I do the fasting. I will not consider that my fasting has gone in vain. I will consider god has given me the strength to pray for the one who has done the worst to me in my life.

I will thank god for giving me the clarity to love someone, pray for someone, fast for someone and to wait patiently for the result and I know that he will give me the heart to accept whatever is his plan in her life. I strongly believe that everything has a reason in our life and my fasting also has a reason in my life. He would not have made me to keep the fasting, if it doesn’t have any meaning. I would have witnessed the Ramadan Fasting as like earlier years (2010 & 2011).

Two years back, I told one of my brothers who invited me for Iftar to break his fasting. I told him, whole day you are fasting and I can’t come to Iftar to break your fast with you because whole day I am eating and I don’t fast. I told him don’t take it negatively, I will keep the fasting like a Muslim one day, then I will break it with you. It is because for the faith what he has in Islam and I love to appreciate his faith and his belief. I didn’t get a chance to break my fast with him when I was fasting last year.

‘God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others’.

I really wonder, whether these words are being considered as the words of God through his messenger Muhammad. Why I have this doubt? I have seen many Muslims in the recent time who claims that they follow their religion from the bottom of the heart, who do believe in one god, who do 5 times prayers and who will be doing zakat also and who has followed the Ramadan fasting also as their tenet of religion.

Simple question to you my dear….  Are you after the above words? Do you know what MERCY is? If so I don’t need to say this now. People around me has got lot of mercy in them, but they feel pity on me and they try to show their love by saying not to fast for the one who has done so much.

‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself’.

Do you have this instinct? I don’t think so, why god always tries to give this problem to me is what the question will come to all of us, but we will never think that when god has given something beautiful or amazing in life to be given to others.

‘He who eats his fill while his neighbor goes without food is not a believer’.

If so there will not be any beggar or poor person in our surroundings. I have been asked my neighbor Farooq everyday whether I had my breakfast/lunch/dinner whatever time he used to have food at home or when we meet at home, without asking this question, he will not eat. But is it with everyone? I know they don’t even ask their colleagues nearby and eat without even knowing whether that fellow colleague had food or not. It is common with every Muslims I have seen. Where is the humanity?

Quran teaches Humanity, core disciplines of Life and I have not seen even the basic disciplines in many Muslims. You people without humanity, started accusing the one who is fasting for the sake of someone else, considering this is as a holy month.

‘Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger’.

Where is it?  As you think, let me assume that I knocked you down, where is the power in you to control yourself? You have shown your anger in a beautiful way, not even anyone could dream to do it. let me again assume that it has not done any harm to me, it has done harm to your reputation, it has done harm to your character, it has done harm to me, because it has affected you in your ways.

‘A man walking along a path felt very thirsty. Reaching a well he descended into it, drank his fill and came up. Then he saw a dog with its tongue hanging out, trying to lick up mud to quench its thirst. The man saw that the dog was feeling the same thirst as he had felt so he went down into the well again and filled his shoe with water and gave the dog a drink. God forgave his sins for this action’. The Prophet was asked: ‘Messenger of God, are we rewarded for kindness towards animals?’ He said, ‘There is a reward for kindness to every living thing’.

Do you know the meaning of Kindness? If you can’t be kind to the one who loves you the most, how can you be kind to those who are around you as family members, part of your life, colleagues, friends, and enemies?

How will you show your kindness to those who are around you? Is this the way you follow your religion?

To be honest, when I read the Quran, when I take the holy book in my hand, I feel so scared because I know for sure I am going to shed tears because of you, I will feel every time, how can she be like this? How can she do this? How can he do this? How can he be like this? Are they reading it by knowing the meaning of it? Is it your mistake or the mistake of your parents who has not taught the inner meaning of it?

God, this is a plea to you, keep me cool, don’t harass me through these fellow people, I am already undergoing hell lot of pain and these people without knowing the meaning of what you have said, they are trying to kill the good deed of someone. Bless them and make them to understand what is required in this world. Humanity or ________????

I can simply say that a clean heart is the Masjid of God or the temple or the Church and I don’t worry about all your negative comments. Above all, I am not keeping my fasting for some worldly treasures. I am not going to gain or lose anything because of this fasting. I might lose my health for a while but not forever. 

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I don’t want to close in a negative node when it is faith and belief. I take my faith and belief as Ocean and one or two dirty people might come and try to kindle it and make it dirty, but once the ocean gets settled, it will be the purest in form. My faith and belief in God is also the same. God, who can test me other than you, only you can do that and you know my strength and you know my weakness, if you send someone to play with my weakness, then it is not my fault and you are trying to test me. You are trying to make my weakness as a strength.

Above all Religion is my own way of having the communication with God, as I have with you.

For the sake of Humanity, love, peace, care, affection or even as an elderly person, if you say, please give up your fasting, I am ready to do it my friend…. As you used to order me, say it in the name of Love, not in the name of Religion my dear brother.

God, I will hold you and only you and if I have to fail in my attempts, let it be in the name of God and not by any human. If you feel that it is a sin, please do give me the punishment for the sin and if you feel that praying for someone is a good deed, please give all the benefit to the one for whom I pray and started this fasting.  Ameen