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Missing you

We always wonder that when we miss someone, is it because we love that person, we like that person or maybe it’s just an infatuation?  We keep on fighting with ourselves that what’s the reason for missing that person? Some time we also miss people we hate. Many times we also miss people we fight all the time but when they are not around.

It is really difficult to say how we miss someone we love. Missing Someone is a physical and emotional pain. It is really difficult for us to get the person out of our thought process. Even if we try to do it, that makes us to remember more of them and not to settle or allow us to cool down.

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Over a period of time, we feel that we will not miss them, but in real, we miss them each and every second and the thought process changes from one to another due to the situation changes, but we never forget the one we love deeply. No matter how hard we try, we cannot erase them out of our heart and thoughts. It is not only the thought what makes us to feel dejected, but the emptiness created by them stays as it is. There is a vacuum without them. when the thought of the emptiness comes, we think more of that person and the person never leaves us and it becomes a routine in our life to think and feel for the vacuum created by them and for allowing them to create the emptiness in our life.

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Any Emptiness with pain created by the one whom we love can be healed only 50% and it never gets healed without them.

Whether the person whom we miss is a child, parent, close friend, or romantic involvement, the feeling is more or less the same. It feels like a part of you has been ripped from the core and it drains all of your energy.

Some say to focus on the bad times with this person, their faults, and the times they hurt you. The only problem with that is that if you truly cared about the person you are missing, recalling the bad times will only make you miss them more, because you miss the whole person, both good and bad.

As we get older, the intense feeling of missing someone will become more and more. When we are young, relationships end that you thought were the most important thing in your life and sooner we get accustomed with the new one, even though the memories still remains. But with age, the memories gets more closer to heart. As we get older, grandparents, parents, friends, and other significant people in your life will pass away. And it never gets easier.

Whatever may be the reason, I would say it’s a very nice feeling to miss someone. You keep on thinking about that person whole day and night or if it’s worst you might start imagining him/her near you. I really don’t agree that missing someone we love is one of the worst feeling, we miss because we love them more and the thoughts of them is not a pleasure when they are not around us, but for sure it is a lovely sweet pain. It is for you SAD 🙂

 

 

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Back Stabber

Ambitious but a back stabber – What is the use

This time it is all about the people who do the back stabbing at the working environment. I really hate to work with these people; I don’t prefer to work with such low attitude people. But no other option we have to face these kinds of people in our day-today life.

I am not going to talk about my experiences with these kin d of people, but going to discuss something like how cheap it will be to consider a colleague as a spy or as a back stabber.

There are many people who work as a backstabbing and spy’s for their bosses.

How will you feel when someone talks about you at the back as He/She is a spy to the boss? She is a spy, the walls also has ears it will go through this walls to their boss. Don’t think that these are walls, it has got full of ears.

How can you dig a pit for your colleague or a friend with whom you are associated. How can you gain the attention of your boss by killing someone’s reputation? Is this what professionalism is all about?

I too have seen such kind of criminals in my life, and I have not seen any one doing it on my face. I have to let them go even after knowing that they are back stabbers, but my curses are always there on them. When it is professional, people need to have ethics and if someone plays without professional ethics, we can curse them.

Because of these backstabbers many people suffer in many ways. The bloody bosses used to handle those who are against them harshly and bossing them around. End of the day, they all turned out to be bad fruits and the bosses were very clever to put the blame on the other party, even though the fault was on their side.

Initially it was little scary for me to work with these cunning people, but I treat them as naked babies which doesn’t know anything about the surrounding. There is a saying that if the cat closes the eyes, the world doesn’t becomes dark, it is dark only to the cat.

In the same way I have taken it and not even given it back to those who were back stabbers. These kind of unworthy and useless people will always be in the world and we can’t our job which we love for these kinds of beggars and we have to fight against them. After fighting in a battle, we can die and we can’t lose in a battle and we should never be like a coward to run away from these kind of back stabbers.

These backstabbers only goal is to climb up by giving up anything or by killing others? Is there is any end to their goal?

Do they know that the tongue biting, emotion holding and scars from the bosses attacks causes much stress, depression, lack of focus at work and home, fatigue, many nights without sleep, unhealthy physical state for their colleagues? Are they aware it  is a turmoil in another person’s life?

We can’t be friendly to these backstabbers and even if we tell them not to do such acts, that also will go to the boss and they will put us in shame by any means. They will start seeing us as an enemy/ obstacle to their goals.

When a friend lets you down, the feeling of shock and disappointment can be hard to bounce back from.

The reason I do not share the destructive behaviours of my friends is because I’ve allowed them to do it with me without challenging or opposing or showing my anger or frustration or anything to them because I have great respect for them.

I frankly do not have time for these kinds of people in my life but when they come to me as friend I show them my love and care but as a colleague, I maintain a distance and show my attitude to them.

Backstabbing costs more than what anyone can imagine. I still keep on hoping that they will eventually open their eyes and see the good side of others and turn their evil side as softer side without having to tell them that we are aware of all their wicked acts. But it never happens. They will never ever change.

I know for sure that there are many people suffering a great deal of pain and unsure how much longer they have to?

Two reasons for me to post about this subject being ambitious could be the best and energetic for anyone to shine in their profession. But working as a back stabber is worse than the prostitution.

By killing others emotions & trust, one wants to shine in their professional life, and they don’t expect such back stabbers in their life is the funniest thing. Tomorrow one more back stabber like them will come into their professional environment and they will be nowhere in that company.

What happens if they lose their job? Nobody in the department will feel bad for these back stabbers. They will feel happy and they will not miss this back stabber for any reason.

Dear Backstabber, assume today you don’t have your job, what is your strength now your boss or good deeds?  What is your achievement? I don’t know what they will say? Boss will start love the other person, the moment he realises that you are going to leave the organization or you will be out of the company.

One has to see the success by showing their sincere efforts and hard work and not being sincere to boss by showing the negatives of others or taking the other colleagues as victims for their success. These people will suck the blood of others and will not care for anything.

Success depends on the happiness of the other colleagues also. When I get a promotion or an increment or an additional bonus, those who are around me should feel happy about it and should recognize the effort what we have given has some value.

People at the back of me should not talk that she got it for spying or she got it by back stabbing me.  It is not the professional ethics to get success by back stabbing or by being as spy. These people can get more fame and money in other illegal way.

Politics is good to an extent but not by hurting others sentiments and professional ethics. It is easy to get the name as a back stabber, but very difficult to get a good name as a professional. These back stabbers can never become professionals as they don’t know what professionalism is.

Back Stabbing is also a way of corruption and there is no mercy for doing it.

Today we can feel happy of being a spy, but tomorrow when we leave the organization for some reason or the organization throws you out for some reason, these back stabbers will never ever have a face to face others peacefully.

Always try to be more sensitive about some one’s feelings because at times a tear means Happiness and a Smile means Hurt.

Whatever we say, these back stabbers will not change their attitude because they are born and brought up in such a way till the time they have that boss and the job, but soon after losing the job, they will realize or they will realize when another back stabber comes to stab them.

This Hurts Me More Than it Hurts You

Hurting words can come from anyone like parents, siblings, spouses, best friends, coworkers, etc. but nothing is intentional. It doesn’t matter who hurts is, the fact is words creates wound with revenge.

I know my dear, I was very harsh and it happens very often now days and especially with the one I love deeply. I know very well that words are very dangerous and it can lead a serious threat to any relationship. I used to be very careful and cautious in letting the word go.

Tongues are sharper than the swords.There is a saying keep silence, and control your tongue, it doesn’t mean that we have to hurt the others feelings.

Even when I get hurt, I will try not to hurt the other person. Only those who are my blood relatives knows that I am very wild (Parents & Siblings). For others I am aggressive but not wild or ferocious.

Love is my passion in  inner circle, when I take them to inner circle, I show all my feelings.

Sometimes we say and mean hurtful things deliberately to hurt the person we love the most. In such a way I did something and it really pricks me more than her silence. I know she was deliberately keeping silence.

It’s a known fact that the once the words are out of the mouth, it’s impossible to take them back, whether it comes from mouth or from the heart. The pain and hurt are very clear in the heart of the person who was hurt and but the hurt will be double of yours as I hurt you. My heart got torn into pieces when I hurt you my dear. I know you can’t take even a small pain and this hurt and when it is from me, you would have got hurt more. I am really sorry.

When I got hurt, I was not able to let you go and may be all the hurts turned to grudges for a moment. Even in pain, I would not have hurt you. If it is a friend or anybody other than you, definitely, I would have taught them a lesson by moving away.

When it is you, even in wildest dreams I can’t hurt you, because you are so sweet for me.

After uttering the words I felt whether I did it as an act of vengeance or payback the hurt. But soon after hurting you, I realized that I lost my humanness and I lost the sanctity of my love because love can’t hurt anyone.

I would like to recall a small story which I read long time back. A scorpion was suffering in a river and a saint was crossing the river and tried to rescue it. When he tried to save it, the scorpion bites the saint hand. A disciple of the saint asked his guru, why you tried to save the scorpion when you know that it will bite you?

The Guru politely answered the disciple that biting is its character and helping, loving, saving is my character. I can’t change my character for the scorpion sake.

Why I am recalling this short story here is, I was deeply hurt by you, but it doesn’t mean that I have to hurt you back. For few days I became like you and I started hurting you badly which is not my basic instinct.

When I was hurt initially I used to keep it in mind that I have to take it or leave it. I should not feel that it hurts me, and I continued, but may be that made you to hurt me every now and then.

I should have not let it go, I should have avoided those kind of situations. I took everything so lightly and I gave the chances for you to do it again and again. I allowed you to take me for granted, because of my love for you.

Love is a sweet feeling dear and care is the way of showing that you love the other person and it is not for exploiting others feelings.

Sometimes it is good to let it go and not to hold on to something that’s done which can’t be altered. I know I can’t repair the wound and the scar will be there in your heart. I tried to choose to let it go,  chances are there that the relationship will heal and flourish. but I am unable to let it go because it gives more pain to you.

I know that you can’t handle if I give pain to you and I am sure that I behaved wild only because of you. You neither allowed me to move away nor to stick on with you. You were either ready to leave me once for all or ready to be with me as well. Only god knows what the problem is as you never shared it.

Sometimes the hurt is so deep in the heart of the person who was hurt, and they walk away from the relationship. This time the hurt is so deep in my heart as I created it to the one whom I love and who would never ever expected that I will hurt her like that. Very often pride or the self-esteem stands in between the person who did the hurting and the person who was hurt. Anyway you have given the reason saying that you are selfish and I can’t help or to change you to self-less.

Especially when the moment you asked me to pray, I am not supposed to utter those words. If it was in some other time, I would not have felt that I hurt you also.

You know that your behaviors did hurt my self-esteem to great extent and you continued to do it was paining more than the hurt. I know I gave up my self-esteem of 90% to you, but if I would have given that 10% then I would have lost my life in the name of love. I am ready to do it now for the hurt what I have given for you.

Whatever may be the reason, whether to get more love or to hurt them intentionally it is pain only my dear? If you would have felt that I will have pain in my heart when you do this purposely, you would not have done it. In the same way, I should not have used those words to you even though I did not mean it to hurt you. Neither it was intentional nor it was spontaneous words.

Instead of trying to make it correct and to heal the pain, you started pinning it more and more, when you said it you have done it purposely, my ego got hurt and my-self took over. Even then I asked you “Have I ever disappointed you?

I know that you purposely did it and I don’t want to disappoint you, that is the reason, I gave up all my self-esteem and showed you the same care and concern. It doesn’t mean that I am mad of you or I have shown over love. It is because of your love and the way I have felt it. It is not that I love you; it is because I know what your love is. I value that relationship and I respect your love.

As you said, that you did it purposely, my loving relationship has no value in it. I don’t want to hurt you by any means but when you have real love, you will not do anything purposely.

I too hurt you, when the pain given by you was very extreme from you. I did not do anything purposely, may be to make you realize that it will pain for the other person.

Nobody can do something to the person who loves them more than their life. When you said that you did it purposely, it really disturbed me a lot. It has become nothing not even worth of keeping it in memory. It doesn’t have to be that way.

When we are in love, our LOVE holds great significance for us and which makes as a source of both great happiness  and deep sadness. Your love has brought me great joy, blessed feeling and I expected for sure that it will bring in deep hurt, but I never expected that it will bring in such a way. Even before enjoying the great love, I got the deep hurt which was the most painful moment for me.

It is very easy to know why someone who doesn’t love the other person and it is easy for them to  break the heart. It is easy to break a heart when we do not love those who love us, there is a possibility to hurt them. Even in that case I will try not to hurt them, but just I will avoid them, because I give respect to the other heart who loves me. I can’t even say no to them just because of their care and concern.

However, hurting the one we do love happens when we feel dejected. How can one love and hurt the same person?

I accepted that pain with tears and said it is because of the one who made me to smile and for that smile I can give up my life why not tears?

When someone hurt us, it’s all very easy to just open our hand and allow them to let go and walk away from it. That’s the easy way, but it’s also the losing way.

You and the person that hurt you both lose out because you lose each other. But if we stop and ask ourselves why the person said hurtful things to us to start with, it could help the situation immensely. I know why you did it because, I have shown my love to you and you wanted to explore it whether I am doing it again or not.

I could have walked away but I could not do it, because my love is true, real and more than anything it is holistic, divine and even now it pains a lot but still my love is sweet when I say it is for you and even the pain is sweet when it is by you.

However, someone who deliberately hurts another person can simultaneously claim to love that person. You are the one who used to say that it is part of love and don’t worry and have to hurt each other. For me hurting is not Love. I learned to take hurt as love only from you. 

Sometimes, though not always, a person will say something that hurts because they were stressed out or going through really tough times. They use us as bouncing board, someone to vent their frustrations out. But and not vent what’s really going on, the stress comes out as hurtful words to us. Initially when you said that I can show it only to you, I was really happy. I was so happy because you considered me to show your frustrations.

No doubt we have all done this to someone we love and had it done to us. The difference is in how we handle it after hurting the other person is what matters us most.

Do we choose to see the hurtful words for what they most likely are, stress and frustration at something in life, or do we take it personal (which it probably isn’t at all) and get angry and upset and just walk away.

If we walk away, we lose out on a wonderful relationship. Just because someone gets upset and stressed and says something that hurts us is not a reason to end a relationship, but sadly that’s what happens too often.

I know you are not going to lose anything even if I leave you, but I can’t say that I will not lose anything because I value you and your love more than anything in this world.

We can choose to leave the past or live in the past, knowing that the past can’t be undone, and put our pride on the back shelf, and we can start fresh.

To do this, it’s important that you understand that we all make mistakes and that no matter what someone has said or done, they simply cannot change the past.

No amount of regret will undo something that was done or said. If we choose to hold onto a past hurt, we are the ones that are hurting ourselves. The person who said something or did something that hurt us is not hurting us. I can hold the words and I can regret it for life long if it will heal your hurt. I can keep it as pain for hurting the one I love.

When we choose to allow pride to keep us from reaching out to the other party, we are the one who is hurting ourselves. We don’t have to let the past to haunt us. We know that it cannot be changed, to rule our present.

Sometimes it is really hard letting go and starting over and it seems that letting something go would somehow diminish the hurt that was said or done. In Reality it is not the fact. Letting go of the past and beginning again isn’t diminishing anything nor was taking away the fact that hurt caused.

Hurtful words cuts deeper, but the deepest cut isn’t really the hurtful words at all, but rather the lost relationship and love if the two parties involved don’t put the past to rest and begin fresh.

Love is simply forgiving, moving on, and living and loving again. To hold onto the hurt is to reject yourself and a beautiful relationship. Love is closely connected with vulnerability: the ability to hurt and to be hurt. Although some kinds of hurt in love are intended, most of them are not.

Those who are in real love can easily hurt the beloved without intending to do so. Because they are so significant to each other, any innocent remark or action can be interpreted in a manner that the other person did not intend and hence be hurtful.

If I think and talk something, then it is not love my dear, I don’t want to think and talk, I have to speak whatever it comes and it should not hurt you as well.

Love is spontaneous and it is like a river and it has to flow. May be it saw a mountain and was not able to go smoothly on its way, but still love is flowing and it will reach the top and flow as a falls and it will not get wasted in the Sea.

When something comes and if it haunts you then there is a reason for it and you are the reason for it or you could be one of the reasons of it.

How can I let someone go just because for hurting when the pleasure of love is more? Whether your love is more or the hurt is more?  Whatever it is I would prefer to get that hurt again and again to get your love.

When you expect the other person to understand your situations, don’t you feel that you have to think from the other person’s side as well? Just because someone loves you don’t mean that they have to look all the time your side only. Sometimes the other person needs you to look their side as well.

Sweet heart, though I started this content to say that hurting you is hurting me more. But this content is to give you some justification that you can hurt me, I am still not sure you are doing it out of your profound love for me.

In the last 12 days, I have taken the entire pain in my heart, in the same way as a let out, I discussed with couple of my friends and I said that I hurt her with this words and it really kills me. Both of them said, you didn’t mean to hurt her but tried to tell her what she needs to do only.

If she doesn’t understand your love for her, then she will take it as a hurt and she will keep it in her heart. Still I say that Hurting is not Love and I am really sorry for the hurt.

I sincerely apologize for whatever happened for being so wild, please consider it as the voice of doom and gloom (bad outcome from me). But, if you give your heart and love in someone you will hurt or be hurt by that person. HURT is inevitable and it is also sweet when it is by a sweet and lovable person like you.