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அடுத்து அடுத்து அமைந்து 
மதங்களுக்கும் அழகு சேர்க்கும் 
எங்கள் சென்னையில் 

மதங்களை கடந்து 
மனித நேயத்தை 
கண்டது எங்கள் சென்னை

மக்களில் கோடிஸ்வரனும் 
அன்றாடம் பிழைப்பைத் தேடுபவனும்
ஆறுதல் காணுவது 
எங்கள் இயற்கை அழகு மரீனா கடற்கரையில்

காதல் கொஞ்சிட மட்டும் அல்ல
பட்டாணி சுண்டல் சுவைத்திடவும்
வரம் வேண்டும் மரீனாவில் 

அழகு நட்சத்திரங்கள் அனைவரையும், 
ஆர்ப்பரிக்கும் சுப்பர் ஸ்டார் தந்ததும் 
புன்னகை மன்னன் கொடுத்ததும் 
எங்கள் சென்னை
புத்தம் புதிய நட்சத்திரங்களையும் 
கொடுப்பதும் எங்கள் சென்னை 

ஆபத்து காலத்தில் அப்போல்லோ 
மருத்துவமனை உண்டு
அதிகம் செலவில்லாமல் 
அனைத்து வசதிகளோடு
அரசாங்க மருத்துவமனையும் உண்டு

பார் போற்றும் மாநகரம்
எங்கள் சென்னை மாநகரம் 

மாநகரத்தில் மெட்ரோ உண்டு 
அனுதினம் பயணம் செய்ய 
இரயிலும் உண்டு, 
பறக்கும் ரயிலும் உண்டு
பத்து ரூபாயில் பயணம் செய்ய 
ஆட்டோ என்ற மூன்று 
சக்கரமும் உண்டு 
அதிகம் கொடுத்தால்
கால் டாக்ஸி உண்டு 

சென்னையின் நுழைவாயில்
முதல் எல்லை முடியும் வரை
நீண்ட தூர சாலை 
ஒரு கோடியில் இருந்து
மறுகோடிக்கு செல்ல 
மாநகர பேருந்தும் உண்டு 


IT க்கு தரமணி
BPOக்கு OMR
Industries க்கு கிண்டி, அம்பத்தூர்
ஆவின் பாலுக்கு மாதவரம்
துணி எடுக்க புரசைவாக்கம்
நகை எடுக்க இல்லை இல்லை
பின் முதல் தங்கம் வரை
மாம்பலம் போங்க,
இன்னும் இங்க ஏராளம்

ஆட்டோ மொபைல்ஸ் க்கு
எதுவேனும் 
MRF, TVS, HONDA, HUNDAI, TI Cycles,
எல்லாம் எங்கள் சென்னையிலே


இனியொரு விதி செய்ய 
எந்த பள்ளிகளை சொல்ல 
தொழிற்கல்வி கூடங்கள்
அரசாங்க பள்ளிகளும்
அரசு கலைக் கல்லூரிகளும்
சென்னை மருத்துவகல்லுரி
அண்ணா பல்கலைக்கழகம்
சென்னை பல்கலைக்கழகம்

எத்துனை சொல்ல 
சொர்க்கம் என்பது 
வான் மேலே பூமிக்கு கீழே 
இல்லை அனைத்தும்
எங்கள் மண் சென்னையில்

 

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Na. Muthukumar

நா.முத்துகுமார்

உங்கள் பெயரை நான்  உச்சரிப்பதில்
என் நாவு பெறுமிதம் கொள்கிறது
பெயரில் முத்தை பதித்து மரணத்திற்கு இவ்வளவு
சீக்கிரம் முத்திரை பதித்தது ஏன்..?
{அழகே_அழகே} என்று நல்லதொரு வரி தந்தீர்
இன்று அழ வைத்து பெரும் துயரம் தந்தீர்
{ஆனந்தயாழை} என்று கவி தந்து
ஆழ் மனதில் இடம் கொண்டு
நினைத்து நினைத்து பார்த்தேன் என்று
உங்கள் வரிகளையே
எங்களை உச்சரிக்க வைத்து விட்டீர்..!!
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மறு பாதி கதவை உங்கள் மரணம் பூட்டி விட்டது
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உங்கள் மரணத்திலும் என் கண்ணில் கவி படைத்த
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எனது கவிதை மூலம் இரங்கல்கள்…
na-muthu

Life after marriage

This is one subject which I was talking with my office colleague who was from a different country and more interestingly to other nationality to say that the life changes for a Girl in India after Marriage.

Marriage is not the unity of two bodies, but union of two souls as one with more care for each other, love for them, trust in them. Marriage changes drastically in both men and women, because they started to share their feelings for each other and start living together.

The changes are for both, but it is obvious that the changes in women are more as she leave her house and enters a strangers house leaving all the happiness and freedom and more importantly the love of her family.  As like the guys, even the girls were living their life without any responsibilities and they are accountable only for their chit chats and small/big fights with their siblings.

This is one thing which the most men doesn’t understand that she comes in as a stranger and it is his responsibility to make her feel comfortable in the new house and make the relationship grow with each others in his family and to treat her as one in the family.

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How to get prepared for a marriage?

It is not so easy to get prepared for the marriage. You can never be prepared for the Marriage. It is said that you are going to marry a person and become as a new personality. You will never be able to see you in you, because that you is going to change with a knot as ‘WE’. (Whether it changes for both becomes the question of the marriage life)

It is a change process of Girl to grow as a woman, but where in we expect the girl to act as a woman from the day 1 and that is where the problems in the family arises. Whereas the guy takes his time to change and grow from a guy to a man. He has the liberty to meet his friends, dine with his friends and to continue his routines as he was before marriage.

You will not know when you will grow and how you will grow and change in the relationship and how they will grow and change. It needs time for both the woman and man to get adopted for the change.

Whether the Girl gets married at 18 or 28, irrespective of her age, she has to become a smart woman, a great home maker as soon as she gets married.

As a spinster, she would never ever thought that her life will change so drastically upside down like anything after her marriage, if so she would have prepared herself for the same.

Most of the girls are grown up as like the guys and even more with love and care because she is meant to leave the house with a stranger as his wife and need to have all her life and happiness in her mother’s house.

It is true that the girl who is a spinster has the liberty for the following.

First and foremost is leaving her house and entering to a strangers house with 100 folds of responsibilities of about which she has no clues also.  She has to leave her surname and take up her husbands name as her surname/second name which dominates to say that there is no relationship or responsibilities with her parents.

Early Morning is @ her convenience

Get up early by 9 or 10:00 AM, without any worries. If the girl is a school or college goer then she will wake up exactly 15 minutes before and get ready in 10 minutes, her breakfast along with her coffee will be ready.

For some girls, the coffee goes to her bed and she will wake up with her mothers face asking her to get ready for her classes.

After Marriage, she has to get up and make the bed coffee for her lovely husband and his family. There is no one to ask her whether she has taken her coffee. Even before the coffee shop gets over, this little girl has to get ready to make the breakfast for the family where the individuals will have their own choices.

Early Morning remains same for the guy – Either way he will get his bed coffee only change would be from mother to wife. There is no change in the way he gets up or going to bed as a man.

This morning becomes night mare for the women of India after having couple of kids, because it is mothers responsibility to get up early and to make them ready till drop them in the school.

It is a sweet responsibility to take care of the entire house members and it will become the prime responsibility for the women to take care of the needs of the immediate family members. If at all the in-laws are nice, then it becomes a sweet responsibility and she will start loving it without feeling it as a burden, but most of the cases it is wise versa and she does it only to save her marriage and to save the name of her parents.

The guy becomes needs to be more responsible if it is a nuclear family, because the house was taken care by his father and the finances were handled by mother and he was not accountable for anything at home. When he starts his life with a new girl, he has to be more sensible, responsible to handle everything.

Decision Making @ her Choice

This is one thing which the woman has to forget after marriage, she was the one who used to take the decisions be it for her day to day life or education or job. Before marriage it was only you will get affected and the actions after the decisions are going to impact only one person.

After marriage she needs to think more to take a decision as it is going to affect both of them and the decision whatever she is going to take has to be accepted by her husband and his family and at times the decisions are being dictated to her.

Increase of Patience to great heights

There was times wherein she will get high BP and fight with mother for more sugar in coffee or no salt in the food or scream with brothers for petty issues like for taking pencil or pen or cycle. When father shouts, she has the liberty to break out and cry, shed tears to bring down the normalcy at home.

After marriage, she will not have the chance to break out or vent out anything. She will be the one who used to add more sugar or no sugar or salt and there will be no one to ask permissions to use her things. This patience is the success key to the marriage wherein you suppress all your feelings to save your marriage and when you learn this Technic to suppress your feelings, the patience level increases.

It was easy for her to speak to her family members without even thinking anything as a word out of anger, but when it is after marriage she needs to think thrice before she speaks as it is going to harm her marriage life.

Priorities Changes after marriage

There was no priorities in life for both guy and girl before marriage. They were meant to go to school, enjoy their life with friends, have fun. Both of them would have been hanging with friends, working late night in the office, going for parties etc., As an individual, only friends, your job was the priority.

For the girls, needless to say that her priority changes from her to him and his family. She becomes more sensitive towards him and his family. She tries to make them as her. The you of her gets converted to him and his family as priorities. The changes of hanging out with friends very rare cases and even if they get a chance to hang around, her family runs behind her mind, family, expenses, happiness of the family goes on in her mind.

She says good-bye to her best buddies and she is ready to miss the most lovable part of her time with her friends, late night out or any tour and travel with her friends. She makes it as history and when someone reminds her then she thinks about it and say yes I was like that but now I don’t have time to think and even if she has time to think, she doesn’t want to do it as her mind keeps on thinking about this family of hers which never thinks her as one in that family.

For the guys, yes it changes but not to that great level of a woman. It changes from his family to his family with added responsibilities of his wife.

For the guys, it remains same irrespective of the family responsibilities being taken by him or not.

Become a visitor to your Parents house

You are being invited for your parents house for any occasions or to spend time with them. You are being treated like a prince in your own house which you used to enjoy when you were single and now the love becomes more but still your heart thinks about Your(his) family.

Life is beautiful today, Love it enjoy it and don’t ever think that life after marriage is going to be beautiful, but yes for sure it is beautiful with lot of challenges and changes in both of you.

Life is meant with full of change, challenge, courage,choices and compromises. Do the right choice to challenge your life with courage and to look forward for the changes what it brings to you in life with little compromises.

With lot of compromises, you can get good choice of husband who will challenge the world for you with courage and change his world as you. 

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Controversial Beep Song

Normally I don’t prefer to comment on these subjects, but I am doing this only to promote the thappa pesadhe song by Punitha Raja. This song is meant for Women and need to reach as many as the beep song has reached, but it will not because this song is to glorify the today women.

A wonderful song came into the world of music at the perfect timing. After listening this everyone should stop criticizing the women/girls. This is not to say anything against Simbu and it says the truth and only TRUTH.

It is really a good song and especially the lines where it says that when your sister loves a wrong guy, you chose a guy of your own choice and get her married. This song deserves more views and likes than the Beep Song, but we will not promote good songs.

With the latest mega controversial Beep song, I really don’t understand what made Simbu to record such a song. Even though he claims that he has not released it or it is not meant for the public to listen.

By saying the above statement, he has agreed that he has penned the lyrics and it was sung by him. For the fame and popularity what he has in public, has he not ashamed to do write such a lyrics?

Does the love failures in his life caused this agony in him? If yes, he needs to correct his way of approach towards woman not by writing such kind of songs. These shows that the woman who all departed from his love life has reasons and it makes them valid.

He has given a chance for those ladies who crossed his life to give justice for their actions. How could you do this when you are living with your mother and you, is it what the industry taught you? what do you expect your ladies fans to say that this song is awesome.

Just because you were ditched by someone or betrayed by some women doesn’t mean that you can belittling of women.  There are songs with different meanings or double meanings but not to this level.  If this song is for your personal agitation against women and it was not meant to be released, then you should have kept it secretly.

As you know the lyrics, you are the music director (as told by him Anirudh has not done music to this), then why it was recorded, whenever you want to sing, you have the rights to sing inside the 4 walls.  If you hate the women or the girls, then try to avoid acting with women and try not to use them for your movies. That will show the manliness of Simbu rather than going and creating such crass songs.

beep song

Only one question to Simbu is will you sing this song in front of your mother, sister or any woman whom you meet for the first time? What is your response if someone sings this song in front of your mother? How will you react?

I am not a supporter or against this song as it is his personal view. But there was a question raised that what about the song daddy mummy veetil illa song, it doesn’t have any words where in you need to use the Beep :).

Think about the impact what it will give with the youngsters of our state. How a female standing in a bus stop need to react to this song, when a guy or group of guys sing the song as like a normal song?

There is no use of making this as a big issue because there are 1000’s of good lyricist who doesn’t have the scope to enter into the magic world of Cinema.

A Plea to those who have some recognition in public, please do not do such activities as there are lot of people who are following you madly crazily. 

Thappa Pesathe – Beep Song for Simbu

 

Rape- Rape-Rape

Getting accused for own mistake is always better than being victim of others mistake.

Rape is an act that the strangers using their force over a woman to satisfy their lust, using their power. Rapes are not the actions that are for the physical needs of a guy with the concern of the girl. I hope the guys who read this will agree to it. If so we will not have the basic concept of love, marriage and the system to follow in any culture or any part of the world.

What is the society trying to say to my Indian woman, be submissive and dependent? Yes we are dependent on these guys around us to keep ourselves safe and pure. We are not dependent on them for anything else.

I really feel ashamed to say am a woman today because of the way our womanhood is being handled all over the world. I am ashamed to say a word for females as we are doing evils by exposing the Nirbaya to the world. If we can’t secret of a woman who was brutally raped and died as a victim, what are we going to do?

RAPE is one of the thing which goes around my mind from the time of Nirbaya. There are many more Nirbaya’s happening every day in every nook and corner of the world.

The statistics say that for an hour there are 3 woman is getting raped and the so called woman age starts from the age of 3. Guys should feel shame but we still hear that a 2 or 3-year-old baby is raped and taken to hospital.

How this 3 year woman can have faith and belief in you ?

A rape is  like you are an experienced driver but due to the negligence of other driver, you have all the chances of getting killed in an accident.These rapes are not even negligence of the woman but the brutal act of male chauvinism. 

GUYS there is no such stupid statements as guys and girls are equal, the equality is shattered and we are inferior only when someone is trying to take something out of me without my concern, you become more powerful. When we resist, you become more aggressive and violent for rejecting you.

There are so many people in the world who continue their life as  normal like others without even saying out that they are the victims of rape or harassed by the guys around them.

As all the rapes are happening outside my house, I am not ready to discuss it further or take it as a serious threat to womanhood. Why the entire nation is not ready to give their support for the rape victims and to protect their information secretly and to conduct the cases faster and to give justice in short period. The rapists have to be hanged in public. I am not a wild animal, but we should show to the society, if you behave like a wild animal, you have to be shot to dead.

Fear of life will certainly not make them to do these kind of violence’s not only in a female life, but also in anyone’s life. 

Why does the rape happens is what is going on in my mind?

Is it because of the Equality?

Equality has not led to these changes. Equality means, you are having fun, talking with your friend about a girl or anything, needs to be with your friend who can be a girl. This a girl as like your friend like  your friend who is a guy. Don’t have the sexual attraction towards them.

Is it because of the women liberation? Freedom for women? I will say that it is not the reason as the rapes are not happening in the recent time, it is happening since long time, when the women were not even coming out of their houses. Now the some cases are coming out due to the power and existence of the media.

Is it because of sexual frustration? If Yes, ideally only men have to be raped not the women. Expectations of a woman are not fulfilled in most of the marriages and the woman has to live in dreams and continue her services with the household and other activities for the sake of the family. I can’t say it as sexual frustration but as sexual violence. Every Human is a social animal but not every human is a wild animal to go to this level.

Is it because of the Age factor? We are not stopping any guys not to get married earlier. Yes Child marriage is not legal.

Now the guys are so much matured and responsible that they don’t want to get into any commitment before they get settled in their profession and to manage the personal life. Even the girls are not interested to get in to the well at early 20’s and they don’t want to delay it to late 20’s as well.Both the sex prefer to get into the wedlock when they feel that it is time for them to start their new phase of life. So no one is forcing them, it is their choice to be single. If it is so then there should not be a chance for the Rape.

Why this Nirbaya or the other cases come out is because of the way she was tortured, brutal assault and she was struggling for her life-like anything. As said by the accused, she was fighting as much as she could avoid the rape. In all other cases, the victims surrenders themselves knowing that they can neither fight against these scoundrels or with the society after the incident.

I don’t wish this to happen to anyone even in my wildest dream but just for the sake of this discussion, if it happens to us or someone in our own family, would we be able to treat it as an accident and get on with life as before? Is it possible for us to recover from that situation to normal without any agony?

What will I do, if I am a victim of rape?

Either I have to stand up and shout or I have to keep quiet and live as a normal life.

At first instance itself I will fail because the man who prepares his mind for a rape is stronger than the woman and she is not aware of the things that is going to happen in her life. In this case woman will not be mentally prepared to fight and physically it is not possible to fight against the man who comes to her fiercely. when it is more than one man, she will be thinking that one will help her to save herself from the cruel act, without knowing that there is no Krishna in that group. It is like a goat fighting with ferocious lion. Lions will succeed anyway.

Now the question what will be going around that moment in my mind is whether to surrender with this lion or to get killed every second by the people around me, the so called society?

Assume that I am a rape victim, what will be my husband’s reaction? Will he treat me like before? Will he have the mind frame that it is not an intentional incident or betrayal by me? Do I have the option of having a normal life with him? Will he be ever happy again with me? Even if he tries to what is the society that is going to offer us? Even if the rape happens in front of his eyes, he will not be able to accept me as like before. This is the mind-set of our guys and we all are bound slaves of our society. I will not say that all husbands are stone-hearted or they don’t care about their wives. It is how the society accepts the rape victims.

Will my brother consider me as like before, will he be able to take me with him to a movie or to a temple?

What will be my father’s reaction towards me? How my sisters will react to the situation? what about their social statuses and how difficult it is to get a groom for them or for anyone to play a role in the society as a normal human?

Forget about how they handle me, everyone will start feeling themselves as if they were raped and they will start hiding them as if they are the victim of that rape. It is not only one person getting raped, but also the entire family gets into turmoil.

What about the extended family and I call each and every friend of mine as extended family? Do you think all my friends will welcome me with two hands as they are doing now?

Only person who will be with me all the way through will be my mother, but she will not live for long after knowing this incident as she will not be able to digest it. She would have dealt with me like the mother who did in the movie Sila nerangalil Sil manithargal of Jeyakanthan (again Lakshmi as Heroine).

If at all I was raped, then ideally as a common woman, I will keep quite only. It was my inability to protect myself from one or more guys and it is not my fault and it is the gender bias provided by god. Especially when you are in your teens, the way your body is built is not to fight and it will not have enough strength to fight.

A guy of 35 years who needs to satisfy his physical needs or society insult/arrogance with a young girl of 14 or 19 years will succeed in his attempts quite easily. When the girl tries to fight, then she will be harassed, stuck brutally and she has to undergo lot of problems.

When a girl becomes a victim without even knowing that she is going to be a victim has to surrender only rather than fighting this huge devil. Most of the rapes happens in this manner only. Girls surrender and they don’t disclose this to anyone.

Does it mean a guy is always superior than a female? Yes in this matter, because the pain and shame or whatever it is only for me not for the guy who has done it. When a guy becomes a wild animal, he is stronger than the woman. 

If at all I survive as a rape victim, I am supposed to keep quite without informing this to anyone – this means I should have a very strong heart and I am ready to fight this world with my own conscience. Only those who have gone through that trauma will know it. A movie by SP Muthuraman, Mayangukiral Oru Maadhu will say how difficult it is for a female to be a victim. (even though it is not a rape). It requires lot of physical and mental strength in woman to continue her life.

I am bold, brave, courageous, different, extrovert, friendly, outspoken, but what will I do?

I will not be able to say the truth even to one individual because if I say it out to one person, then it is not a secret and I have to struggle always with the person to whom I confessed. I have to live in a fear that when the other person will let it out.

What are the normal thing I have to hear if I share that I am a victim of a rape? The below listed are the talks which will come to my ears every now and then. It is not only for me, the entire family needs to listen to all the crap.

Girl who is extrovert will always have this possibility of getting raped.

A woman like you invites rape by venturing alone going in the dark. I am forced in so many ways, I am a divorcee, I am a widow, I am still single, I am mother of two children without husband, I am wife of handicapped husband, I am struggling for the sake of my family, I am the woman who needs to have her self-respect.

I am forced to go because of various situation, for my survival and I will not travel in the night time to get raped. If so, probably I would have chosen the other profession which is calling the rapist to come to me and we name them as a prostitute.

You cannot control on your own safety when the other person comes to you as a wild animal and what others do? I am not trying to invite someone to help me in the midnight.

Girls who dress with decently, don’t get raped. What else you want to wear a jeans and T-shirt or kurta is not enough for me to feel comfortable as decent? What about the woman getting raped who wears a traditional salwar or a saree as her dress?

Dress is not the matter for the guy who wants to rape a girl. It is the need of that particular time and a small wrong gesture from the girl also can initiate it to rape. Ideally if a woman is half naked also the guy is supposed to protect her not to rape her. You don’t need to give respect to that half naked woman, but give respect to yourself for what you are and you ought to be.

There is no such thing which can describe the character of a woman to get raped and it is the matter of the mindset of the guys and I don’t say all are wild.

It is the matter of maturity that needs to be brought in to the guy’s life. It is not the question of how the girl needs to be, it is time for the guys to know that girls are not for their sexual treasure without their concern.

If we see the few incidents that are reported in the recent times as sexual harassment or anything against women are being done when the so called women are submissive, dressed properly. Some are being kidnapped and brutally raped.

GUY’s It is not about what and who we are; it is about who YOU are. You don’t need to treat us equally but don’t try to show that you are super power by creating rape victims. Let your gestures make the girls to fall for you rather than going behind them or chasing them.

I really feel for the Nirbaya case because if it was happened in my house, I would not have let it to come out. I will not feel outraged or emotional or feeling sentiments. I would rather prefer to die than to get exposed so many times in different ways for someone else mistake.

Getting accused for thy mistake is always better than being victim of others mistake.

Just Remember the Movie Damini (Hindi) which was remade in  Tamil as Priyanka will depict the condition of the victim and it is not a film, it is the current situation of the women in India. This movie was pictured in early 1993 and I remember that I saw this movie in 1994. Now in 2015, I am writing that the status of the woman is same.

For sure, this movie would have come of late with lot of such rapes happened in the society over two decades ago. If that is the situation of today’s India, what are we doing or heading towards women liberalization? There is no improvement for the women’s life and there is no social security provided by the constituency.

We have seen 4-5 elections and nothing changed. In a month I hear that 5 victims news happened in the capital city which has come to lime light.

GUYS be like a gentleman, if you don’t know the meaning, please learn it from your mother, may be your father failed to show it to you at home. There are some psychological needs are there for men and they get aggravated easily because of their psychological issues.

For some the family itself could be a problem, for some the family could have abandoned them for their characters. Some are illegitimate children without knowing their identity. I am not blaming all guys are bad and not saying that all girls are very good.

Have you ever heard any guys getting molested in public or getting harassed by girls? 

Here and there, this will also be there but within friends circle, they will be giggling or making fun not with an intention to insult you. Even if someone insults you in public, taking revenge on a woman doesn’t going to solve this issue. Any assault done by you to a woman is going to harm you and your family reputation as well. It is not only create the woman as a victim, but you as  accused and as Convicted.

Law will take it’s own time, but your family gets insulted for no reason. Just before doing any atrocities against woman count from 1 to 100 and think your family, your mother, sister, daughter in that woman for whom you are going to do the harm. I am sure that you guys will protect her and will not try to harass her.

The Life of Pi

02nd March’2013, Dubai,  The Life of Pi – A lesson learnt from the movie….

I will not watch this movie even for the hype what it has got or for the Oscars what it has won. But I watched this movie because of two people and I have to thank both of them in my life for giving me a lesson of life. I enjoyed first 25 minutes of this movie like anything and I think I will watch it every day at least that 30 minutes.

A simple movie with nothing inside but it is a fortune wheel of wisdom for me. I will not criticize or give some review about this movie. What made me to feel this movie as special or what is the lesson that I learned out of this movie?

By reading all my previous articles, one come to a conclusion how I was and what I was? Literally a mad person, gone crazy and was ready to die at any point of time.

My Ex-boss, who is  really a blessing for me in all the phases of life because he is a person who knows me very well and we have great respect for each other. He is a mentor, philosopher and a guide to me and I really admire him for the way he used to guide me. He will not advise me as he knows that I don’t listen to anyone. But he will suggest me to read some novels, or to watch some movie or to listen some content. That will guide me what I have to do. As he knows that I was mentally disturbed, he asked me watch this movie. Initially I thought that he is asking me to watch because of the hype, but he said that “you must watch this movie”. Normally he used to say that you have to watch and when he said you must, I promised him that I will watch because of the respect what I have for him. Unfortunately I didn’t get time to watch it when I was in India.

After coming to UAE, I didn’t get any company as all my friends have watched it earlier. I shifted myself to Dubai and new project, new place, new accommodation, new friends and I thought Life of Pi, will be seen by me during my retirement planned movies only.

Zara is my new friend whom I know only for the last 3 weeks but spent quite a long time with her.  Yesterday I came back home after a long day of journey with my friends from Abu Dhabi and I entered around 12.15 midnight and was feeling sick because of flu.

She was feeling so fresh and asked have you seen Life of PI I told her no, Immediately  She said, you must watch this movie and I want to watch this movie with you can we watch life of pi together? I was surprised to hear it because of the time what we have spent is very less. My boss said that you must watch and she also said that you must watch it.

She saw the movie in French version and said to me let us watch the English version together. I was tired because of a long day, but she said just watch 20 minutes of the movie and it talks about you. It will be interesting for you and you will like the movie very much. It has something for you. Above all She said that only you came to my mind while watching this movie and she said couple of words as Hindu Catholic, the way you talk about Islam, I laughed a lot and asked her what is there in it.

I remembered my friend Anantha’s word that you will never say that you are tired or sick. I told her let us watch 10 minutes and not more than 20 minutes, I don’t think I can sit and watch the full movie tonight. She said ok you see only 10 minutes.

We started to watch the movie and the movie started with Pondicherry. A day before that we were talking about Pondicherry and all my friends were telling her that it was a French colony and even now the area has the impact of French people.  Zara told me that Pondicherry means Beach of Darling.

I don’t read the reviews and watch any movies as I don’t want to have any expectations about the movie. Same way Life of PI has got lot of hypes but I have not read any review and I was not aware that the movie starts with the background of India or Pondicherry.

The movie started with lullaby song and story starts from Pondicherry. A mother was telling a story to her son about Lord Krishna. It is a cute story and the way the boy listens to the mother was very nice. A small bet with his elder brother to drink the holy water from a church for Rs.2 is another nice shot in the movie to make the small boy to keep his feet in another religion.

He will see the Jesus Christ in the cross and a question from that small boy to the church father “ Why would the god send his own son to suffer for the sins of the ordinary people”. It is really a beautiful question and the answer was God Loves us and god made himself as approachable to us, so we can understand him. We can’t understand his knowledge but we can understand him through his son.

Next dialogue in the movie is it is non-sense and sacrificing the innocent for the sins of others what kind of love is that, wow it struck me like anything.  I really got enlightened with this sentence. 

I was feeling that I am carrying the other person’s wrong attitude, arrogant behavior and sin on my shoulder and I was feeling it as burden. I am not Jesus and I am not god’s daughter to carry others sin’s on my shoulder. I can try to correct them, but if they don’t want to correct themselves and ruin their life, why should I carry them on my shoulder and why should I haunt myself for it. Next minute I realized that how fool I was and why should I take it in the name of love or hatred or anger in my shoulders? I left it to god and  started feeling relaxed.

This small boy was so perfect with his next question, if god is so perfect and we are not, why would he wanted to create all this?

Same question raised in my mind when someone hurt me so badly, why did he create such a creature and why did he introduce her in front of my eyes? I do have the answer with me for introducing me, but still creating her as such a bad person for which I don’t have the answer.

I enjoyed a dialogue very much in this movie was when the boy will touch the feet of Vishnu and say thank you for introducing me to Christ. It shows how the Hindus are adaptable or amicable and to pray with other religion. Faith is through Hinduism, Love is through Christianity and god has not finished with him yet.

Suddenly the small boy will get enlightened about Islam and he will start praying at home as like a Muslim guy. He will do Namaz at home, he will start feeling serenity of brotherhood through Islam. His elder brother will make fun of him. Are you going to Mecca this year Swamy Jesus, or to Rome. Father will say to this little boy that you cannot follow 3 religions at the same time, and the immediate question why not? And the answer I don’t feel it as realistic “ Believing in everything at the same time is same as not believing in anything at all”.

Mother will support the small boy by saying that he is young and trying to find his way, father will ask how he can find a way when he doesn’t chose a path.

There was a sentence in the movie as Religion is darkness, I can’t accept that, because Religion is not darkness, it creates brightness if we try to understand the essence of what it is saying it to us. Love, Faith, Trust, Honesty are the ways of life in a disciplined way.

Again the small boy will play with a piece of meat in his hand and will try to make the tiger to come closer without understanding its power. During that time, son will say I was trying to say hello to the tiger with an innocent face. The father will teach a lesson to the son,Tiger is an Animal and you cant have love for an animal. Son will say Animal also has souls. Animals do not think as we do, people who forget that get themselves killed. That tiger is not your friend, when you see his eyes, your own emotions reflected back again nothing else and it was really the best sentence for me to learn my next  lesson  from this movie. It is not meant only for animals, it is meant for some humans who live like animals. I enjoyed this movie up to this part like anything. After this is it didn’t impress me. May be as I got the required information what I need to get on this particular time.

Towards the end, the last scene with the tiger was really touching, the emotions of a man and an animal was described so beautifully and it really touched me like anything. The way I was feeling with a human, but still not to be considered as human. When the boy was rescued, he will feel so bad because that tiger which was travelling with him all through the hard-time because of which he was feeling that he will survive and learned to control the tiger, to get food for him, will leave him when the tiger finds the forest even without seeing back. He will realize that his father was right.

Not only the hero realized that his father was right, but I too felt that how stupid I was to hold someone who is not thankful or who doesn’t have any courtesy to say a good-bye as well. It hurts when someone goes or leaves. But it is pleasant when someone leaves saying that  I love you, I can’t miss you, you will always be with me, but I can’t be with you.

An Evil person can bring in the evil out of a good person and I should not give that chance for her to do it. Already the evil is out but it has not done any harm to her, but created a lot of hurt and pain to me. Above all it has to happen and if it has to then it will happen. I cant stop any of the god’s decision.

I do have all the same things as it was shown in the movie, I got the Trust, Honesty, Faith from Hinduism, Love from Christianity and Equality and serenity of all the above from Islam.

The movie has given a great entrenchment us. I’m glad that the majority of the  audience with little intellect can understand it as I understood it.