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Ramadan Fasting by Non Muslim

Ramadan Fasting by Non-Muslim

The reason for me to quote some of the Prophet’s sayings is because of my few friends. They told me, you are not supposed to fast during Ramadan as like a Muslim, and it is not going to be rewarded or accepted by God. I am happy if god accepts my fasting, and I am more happy god rejects my fasting also. I will keep my faith and trust in god and I will continue my fast during Ramadan, if I am in UAE. I don’t fast for the rewards, I fast because of my beliefs. I fast because of my trust in god, I fast because it is a commitment between me and god.

I know those who tried to stop me really care about me and they don’t want me to do some sin in the name of fasting. Above than the Sin, they also care about my health conditions. I can quit fasting for their love, care and concern for me, if he would have said that my dear, stop your fasting and am asking this in the name of my love, care and affection. But he said, that it is not accepted by god which I can’t accept it. If it would not have been accepted by god, god would have asked me not to fast or by any chance it would have got stopped. As I was trying to keep the remaining days of fast of last year, I was not able to do it because of cold cough and phlegm. If it gets stopped on its own, I will not feel bad also. I will take it as God’s plan for me.

I have not taken something very hard to follow in life or a very strict thing that requires more concentration, patience or anything in life. You just need to have love, care, affection, peace, harmony, friendliness, trust, faith & belief in what you read and what you do. I love to follow what I read and I prefer to do to the perfection.

I was very curious to reply to my friend/brother and asked them all the required questions, but I was not able to keep cool, because for me fasting is very religious, sacred and sensitive.

I do believe in the pillars of Islam, I know for sure that I can’t make all the five pillars of Islam. Especially the last one Hajj, all others are possible as a human and Hajj is meant for a Muslim and I can’t go for it. Five Pillars of Islam are (Shahadah – Faith in One God(Allah), Salah – Prayers (5 times), Zakat (Charity), Sawm (Fasting during Ramadan) and Hajj (Pilgrimage to Makkah).

Faith Simple, I do believe in one god, I know the world has got only one supreme power and we call it as GOD. As a Hindu, I name the god in different names, forms etc., to bring in my concentration towards that supreme power. I believe in Prophet as a messenger also.

Prayers – I don’t do 5 times prayers like a Muslim, but more than a Muslim, I wait for the Azaan and I do think about god and it is not only 5 times, I think about god more than 5 times. I pray more than 5 times not in the way Islam says. I do a bow to god and thank him for giving the day and being with me all the time.

Zakah – Charity, as per Hinduism what you give using right hand should not be known to left hand. So what I do should not be known to anyone. Charity begins at home and I wish my first, second and third circle of relatives to be happy.

Fasting – I have started it for some specific purpose, but the fasting is towards god and with a special prayer in it. I don’t fast for my needs and when I do it, I don’t wait for others to say break the fast, I will break it even to make a party more delightful or to make someone happy with a dinner party. I love to give up my personal requests/plea/prayer for others smile.

Examples of the Prophet’s Sayings

‘God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds’.

I don’t know how many of you believe in this, but I truly believe and I know that my fasting will have a meaning, if not also, I will not say that there is no god, may be my prayers are not valid for the one whom I do the fasting. I will not consider that my fasting has gone in vain. I will consider god has given me the strength to pray for the one who has done the worst to me in my life.

I will thank god for giving me the clarity to love someone, pray for someone, fast for someone and to wait patiently for the result and I know that he will give me the heart to accept whatever is his plan in her life. I strongly believe that everything has a reason in our life and my fasting also has a reason in my life. He would not have made me to keep the fasting, if it doesn’t have any meaning. I would have witnessed the Ramadan Fasting as like earlier years (2010 & 2011).

Two years back, I told one of my brothers who invited me for Iftar to break his fasting. I told him, whole day you are fasting and I can’t come to Iftar to break your fast with you because whole day I am eating and I don’t fast. I told him don’t take it negatively, I will keep the fasting like a Muslim one day, then I will break it with you. It is because for the faith what he has in Islam and I love to appreciate his faith and his belief. I didn’t get a chance to break my fast with him when I was fasting last year.

‘God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others’.

I really wonder, whether these words are being considered as the words of God through his messenger Muhammad. Why I have this doubt? I have seen many Muslims in the recent time who claims that they follow their religion from the bottom of the heart, who do believe in one god, who do 5 times prayers and who will be doing zakat also and who has followed the Ramadan fasting also as their tenet of religion.

Simple question to you my dear….  Are you after the above words? Do you know what MERCY is? If so I don’t need to say this now. People around me has got lot of mercy in them, but they feel pity on me and they try to show their love by saying not to fast for the one who has done so much.

‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself’.

Do you have this instinct? I don’t think so, why god always tries to give this problem to me is what the question will come to all of us, but we will never think that when god has given something beautiful or amazing in life to be given to others.

‘He who eats his fill while his neighbor goes without food is not a believer’.

If so there will not be any beggar or poor person in our surroundings. I have been asked my neighbor Farooq everyday whether I had my breakfast/lunch/dinner whatever time he used to have food at home or when we meet at home, without asking this question, he will not eat. But is it with everyone? I know they don’t even ask their colleagues nearby and eat without even knowing whether that fellow colleague had food or not. It is common with every Muslims I have seen. Where is the humanity?

Quran teaches Humanity, core disciplines of Life and I have not seen even the basic disciplines in many Muslims. You people without humanity, started accusing the one who is fasting for the sake of someone else, considering this is as a holy month.

‘Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger’.

Where is it?  As you think, let me assume that I knocked you down, where is the power in you to control yourself? You have shown your anger in a beautiful way, not even anyone could dream to do it. let me again assume that it has not done any harm to me, it has done harm to your reputation, it has done harm to your character, it has done harm to me, because it has affected you in your ways.

‘A man walking along a path felt very thirsty. Reaching a well he descended into it, drank his fill and came up. Then he saw a dog with its tongue hanging out, trying to lick up mud to quench its thirst. The man saw that the dog was feeling the same thirst as he had felt so he went down into the well again and filled his shoe with water and gave the dog a drink. God forgave his sins for this action’. The Prophet was asked: ‘Messenger of God, are we rewarded for kindness towards animals?’ He said, ‘There is a reward for kindness to every living thing’.

Do you know the meaning of Kindness? If you can’t be kind to the one who loves you the most, how can you be kind to those who are around you as family members, part of your life, colleagues, friends, and enemies?

How will you show your kindness to those who are around you? Is this the way you follow your religion?

To be honest, when I read the Quran, when I take the holy book in my hand, I feel so scared because I know for sure I am going to shed tears because of you, I will feel every time, how can she be like this? How can she do this? How can he do this? How can he be like this? Are they reading it by knowing the meaning of it? Is it your mistake or the mistake of your parents who has not taught the inner meaning of it?

God, this is a plea to you, keep me cool, don’t harass me through these fellow people, I am already undergoing hell lot of pain and these people without knowing the meaning of what you have said, they are trying to kill the good deed of someone. Bless them and make them to understand what is required in this world. Humanity or ________????

I can simply say that a clean heart is the Masjid of God or the temple or the Church and I don’t worry about all your negative comments. Above all, I am not keeping my fasting for some worldly treasures. I am not going to gain or lose anything because of this fasting. I might lose my health for a while but not forever. 

You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I don’t want to close in a negative node when it is faith and belief. I take my faith and belief as Ocean and one or two dirty people might come and try to kindle it and make it dirty, but once the ocean gets settled, it will be the purest in form. My faith and belief in God is also the same. God, who can test me other than you, only you can do that and you know my strength and you know my weakness, if you send someone to play with my weakness, then it is not my fault and you are trying to test me. You are trying to make my weakness as a strength.

Above all Religion is my own way of having the communication with God, as I have with you.

For the sake of Humanity, love, peace, care, affection or even as an elderly person, if you say, please give up your fasting, I am ready to do it my friend…. As you used to order me, say it in the name of Love, not in the name of Religion my dear brother.

God, I will hold you and only you and if I have to fail in my attempts, let it be in the name of God and not by any human. If you feel that it is a sin, please do give me the punishment for the sin and if you feel that praying for someone is a good deed, please give all the benefit to the one for whom I pray and started this fasting.  Ameen

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Ramadan Kareem

Ramadan Kareem to one and all…. 

People might feel when they read an article about Ramadan in my blog. They will be surprised whether I have become or converted myself to Islam or they might think that I am like “Be like a Roman when you are in Rome”. All of this are not true. Wherever I am I am an Indian and I am true to my religion.

I am fascinated towards Islam, because of the contents that are in the Quran and also because of some people who are trying to expose themselves as true Muslim. I started learning about Islam through my neighbor Farooq. I have to say that I got inspiration to learn my religion after seeing him following his religion.

For each and everything, he will say that we have to do this, we have to follow this, It is said like this in Quran. I used to tell him that I have not seen anyone like you who is following Islam so sincerely. He used to tell us, even we are not following everything what is said in Quran.

I came to know how much ignorant I am and I am from India and we say our country is secular country and we have all the religions. I do follow my Indian principle of Secularism, I go to Church and I have been to a Mosque also.

What do I know about Azaan or Adhan?

People will laugh at me, if I tell the truth that I was not aware of the reason of the Azaan also that it is the call for the prayer for the Muslim guys. I used to feel that some music is being played and even though I have seen men going in group for prayers.

Now my day doesn’t ends if I don’t hear the Azaan at least once in a day whether I am here in UAE or in India. Either I will hear it or I will look at my watch for the prayer time. I have the feeling for the Azaan more than a Muslim and if I don’t hear it I will feel as if they didn’t call them for the prayers.

Now I follow the following so religiously more than a Muslim, because I know the importance of Azaan.

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As the Azaan is being heard, one must not indulge in any talk, or indulge in any other activities. Listen to the Azaan attentively and reply to it. I don’t know why we should not talk when the Azaan is being heard. I used to stop talking even if it was an international call or a call with a close friend. I assumed that it is because the other person who has to go for prayer has to listen the Azaan and that is the reason that they want everyone to be quite. I may be wrong or the reason for it might be something else also, but I follow it because a two year old son of Farooq used to mute the Television, saying that Baang is there, keep quite.

I really felt so amazing with their way of following the religion.

What is special about Ramadan ?

Ramadan holds a unique position in the hearts and minds of the people who follow Islam.. It is a special time of the year where the blessings of Allah are abundantly bestowed upon the believers.

 What do I know about Ramadan?

A festival celebrated by Muslims and we get a day-off from work. Is there anything I know? A special food as Briyani made on that day. Being a vegetarian, I was not worried about the Briyani also. Neither I had too many friends from Muslims are I was not aware to know much about Islam.

What is special about Ramadan ?

Ramadan holds a unique position in the hearts and minds of the people who follow Islam.. It is a special time of the year where the blessings of Allah are abundantly bestowed upon the believers.

Blessings, Mercy, Affection are the most important pillars of fasting in the month of Ramadan and let the spirit be with all of us.As this is a month of Ramadan, a holy month for Muslims… We will keep the momentum of Ramadan and the holiness of it in tight. I will be posting more articles only on Ramadan till end of Ramadan.

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Better be the head of a dog than the tail of a lion

It is always said that better to be a head of a dog than to be the tail of a lion. Many will not understand and few will not try to understand the essence of it. Some will try to be the tail of a dog without even knowing that they are the tails of a dog and will be thinking that they are the head of a Lion.

It is good to be a leader of a less prestigious group than to be a low profile subordinate in a more prestigious one.

Some of us are like whatever boss says we will do and we will be like a spy to the boss, but these people are useless to be called as human and they are unworthy and not to be trusted people.

These bosses are not even worth to be called as the tail of the lions, but few dogs will treat them as the head of the lion and go behind him waving its tails. whatever it is end of the day, that boss wills how his cunningness as a like a fox and there is no trust or faith or thankfulness in them.

Beware whether you hold the tail of the lion or the head of the dog, because there is a chance for us to survive when a dog bites or betrays but with the lion you have only one chance that you have to hold its tail forever or you are gone and it will eat you when you try to leave the tail.

Dog’s Tail can never be straightened

Dog’s Tail can never be straightened

We may try to straighten a dog’s tail; whatever you do, it will never become straight but always curved. It is usually renowned with the human’s when they do something mischievousness. Everyone around him/her will be in complete fear and they will say that whatever we do to this person, it is like a dog’s curved tail, which can never be straightened, because he will never change his behavior.

It is easy for everyone to say that dog’s tail can never be straightened, but why do we need to straighten the dog’s tail?? Is’nt it funny to straighten the dog’s tail? 

When we know that we can’t straighten the dog’s tail, we need to do the changes in ourselves not in the dog.

I read a story of Vivekananda about the dog’s curly tail which made me to feel that I have to say something about dog’s tail.

We must first know how to work without attachment, and then one will not be a devoted or dedicated or obsessive. We should know that this world is like a dog’s curly tail and will never get straightened. If there were no passionate in the world, it will make much more progress than it does now. It is a mistake to think that passion can make the progress in mankind.

On the other side, it is the key element creating hatred and anger, and causing people to fight with each other, and making them uncaring. We think that whatever we do or have is the best in the world, and what we do not do or own is of no value. So, always remember the instance of the curly tail of the dog and it will explain not to get in touch with the hatred and anger and to feel uncaring about others. It is easy to become uncaring but it is very difficult to stay caring for others when things go wrong.

When you practice caring even when things goes wrong, we might  feel that the dog’s tail can be straightened. Caring has to give a positive approach to the one who is receiving and who is giving, if it becomes negative in one’s mind, then it is going to create a problem and the dog’s tail will be curly only. I meant the pain will be more.

Sometimes, it is better not to straighten the tail than to straighten our heart and head. Dog’s tail can be straightened only when you draw a dog, not when you have a dog as pet. Dogs can be without tail, but not with the curl in their tail, it doesn’t look good for it 🙂

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The reason for the above question is not based on assumptions; it is based on experiences I am facing with this dirty world. Now a days guys are very open and freeky to question to a woman who is married/divorced or single to ask her can you live with me in a relationship ( this means like a wife but I can’t marry you).

Aren’t we giving the chance for the spouse to make mistakes by allowing them to live alone for the sake of economic development or for his career/professional growth?

I am not saying all guys are wrong, out of 90% of friends 1% would have tried the above question with me and I have all the rights to say this to the fellow females not to allow their husbands to stay away from them for any reason. It is their choice and even the female can go and live with anyone.

For economic conditions sake, they will do anything and they don’t want to keep the promise what the marriage says to them. Neither they are sharing their life’s joy and sorrow with each other. They want to share their happiness in terms of money not in terms of caring for each other with lovable, affectionate and caring ways.

Main reason for posting this article is not to hurt anyone’s feelings or to pin point anyone’s mistakes, but to say that it is world of rubbish people around us and what we need is what we have to decide and I don’t know what these friends of mine really feel as blessed or living a life of perfection. As they condemn others at their back.

Whether the relationship between a husband and wife are going on fantastic or not, if the husband is not living with a female, then the life of the female will undergo many critics in her life. Without doing any mistakes, the female has to go for Agni pariksha as like the Sita of Ramayana. Agni pariksha for Sita happened long long ago and the same continues for all the females, even though we call this world is changed, revolution, rebellions, technology etc., but nothing changes the minds of the men(Indian men).

Whether it is having doubt on his wife or calling a female to his bed it is by men only but the effect of it goes only for the female not for the men.

It is easy for a colleague to give filthy comment with a boss about a female who lives single after marriage because he knows that husband is not around and if the female is little closer or even if she talks casually with someone and avoids others for some personal reason, the guys take advantage to hurt the female by talking rubbish. It is easy for them to handle it in that way and to play with the weakness of a female.  the same comments he will not pass with the same female if the female is living with her husband, because the value of the marriage lies in that home where the guy lives and in the heart of the female.

A husband has to stay with the wife to make the love and romance of their life to exist till end of their life. “Love doesn’t sit in a heart like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made every day, made new.”

Female will get all the desired gifts with the money earned by her husband or by herself, but the precious gift of admiration can only be done by a husband. If that also has to be done by her colleagues and others then what is the need for this husband.

This distance provides two scenario’s in their life.

Love grows in the heart of the couples when the distance is for short-term (mostly with women)

Out of sight and out of mind (mostly with men) comes when the separation is meant for long-term or destined to be forever conditions. (most of the women also takes this as a chance to flirt with other men because why boys should have all the fun, let me also date with another lady’s husband)

Both men and women get engaged in their routine and for the fascinating life, they try to expose their positive sides to those who are around and start with flirting and if it works out , they get into an extra marital affairs.

In most of the cases the physical separation of husband and wives leads to have one or more affairs only whether it is for the pleasure or due to the pressure of the current atmosphere GOK (God only knows).

I believe such a separation for economic reasons, has to be avoided.

Is it the same case with all the couples? Certainly not, because the couples who has got kids and have spent their life for 4-6 years together, it varies with them. It is mostly dependent on the individuals and the love they have for each other. When it is for the welfare of the kids, I believe in true love and it will increase the love irrespective of the distance.

Above all these men will not prefer to leave their wife and kids for the sake of money, and they will try to bring them along with him or he will make a frequent trip to meet them. Those who are money minded and who prefers wife as luxury item doesn’t need to get married and they can make their luxury or the needs to satisfy them with the money what they earn than to spoil the other female’s life.

I wanted to wind up this content with a short and sweet note in a different way, but I have to thank those who provoked me to share the actual thought what was going on in my mind. Before talking about others, they have to think about themselves and they have to correct them. I tried to explain it to my friend based on my experience and not on others experiences.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.”

The real joy of marriage is being together, with each other……..being able to connect, then fight, then connect and cuddle providing the happiness of being in the arms of each other after the fight every now and then is what makes the marriages to survive.

Years of separation from each other, certainly deprives both men and women, the joy of being together……..and being in companionship. No letter connection, no email connection, no online chat connection can substitute the real togetherness.

If someone says we will do all these over phone and internet, then it is better to marry a photo than a human.

“What I love most about my home is with whom I share it with.”  – now I find these men and women share it with their ipad, laptop, black berry, smart phones and skypes not with the wife/kids/parents/friends. Even if we scream or shout at their ears, it will not enter into their head and heart, till the time they lose something valuable in their life.

If someone prefers to learn only they can learn otherwise Time will teach them a big lesson.

 

Vacational Husbands

Is it the economy playing a role or the freedom for female playing the role? What the “F” is happening??

Is it only money matters or something else?

The main reason for me to write about this is because of my colleagues wife was forced to talk with me and the way she was sharing her feelings about her husband was really shocking. Is it because of in security or because of her love, care, affection or expectations of care and affection from her husband or whether she suspects him or she suspects all those who work with him? Leaving her in home country and working in a different country has given bad name for him or for those ladies who work with him? It was really a sarcastic situations, but god has given the gift to handle it politely and diligently.

The strong reason I felt that I have to write about this is because the trend is growing rapidly and I have not seen these kinds of trends with my parents era or before that also. I have seen couples living together even when their economic condition badly force them to live separately. They wouldn’t live apart for any reason. It is not the matter of sex but it is part of their love and care for each other.

Especially in Tamilnadu, I have seen that men and women spending 3 to 4 hours in a day by train and going back to their home to live with their family. It will be either for the sake of the kids or for any reason, but they were not staying as single, leaving their responsibilities as husband/son/father/brother at home.

I know people who travel for their jobs during the week and return home on the weekends but living apart.

I am not against living single life for the sake of economic upliftment for the sake of family. But if it is by a brother/son for the sake of family to get his sisters married, or for the happiness of their parents, I certainly agree with them.

The couples whom I have come across in the recent times doesn’t have any such commitments and for the sake of building a Villa or to have a luxury flat for the wife, leaving the wife and living single life is not advisable for any man.

Whether buying a flat for a wife or living with her in a flat what makes a man happy matters most? Especially leaving a newly wedded wife and leaving the country or living for the sake of money – then there is no need for these two people to get united in the name of marriage.

If these guys leave the wives when the wife needs them the most and what if something goes wrong in her life? Who is responsible for the needs of the female? The guy can say that I have gone to make money for you, but what is the use of that money when she is no longer interested to live with you because you don’t have time for her personal and physical needs.

Being single is a great achievement for both of them on these conditions and it is really tough for both of them to live a single life after getting married. They need each other in their day-today routines. There will be many people at home to take care of the wife and the guy will be surrounded by many friends, but all these are not like the one who has to do everything for her/him.

She can take the help of her brother/sister for her basic needs, she can take help of the spouse brother/sisters for family needs, but what will she do for her physical needs which a spouse is supposed to do for her? She can ask her sister to accompany her to select a saree for her, but the beauty of wearing that saree has to be appreciated by the spouse not by the spouse’s brother. What is the fun of getting a new saree or anything with the money what the spouse sends from a far of country?

What is the best happiness for a female is being with the husband and the minutes what they spend together, whether it is to buy a Dior/CK perfume or a Gold Ornament or the potato or  a piece of meat for the next day curry with her husband makes the proudest moment for her.

The best moment for a husband is to gift something to his wife either as a surprise or as pre-planned but to see her happiness eyes shedding a tear with smiles. A sweet hug when he handover the gift to her. These husbands will say that they will hug their wives in Skype or will you arrange someone else for it?

Forget about gifts, to share a happy news that he/she got promotion or increment or an appreciation who will be the first one to come in to our mind, only spouse. What is the use of getting an increment or appreciation when you can’t share it at that moment with your spouse. You can wait for few hours if the person is in the same place to share it with him/her. But waiting to reach him through mobile as he will be busy in his office or she will be in a meeting, does it makes worth of your marriage?

She can do shopping with 100 people but the happiness lies when she sees the smile from her man and if a woman is ready to miss it for the sake of money, then it is really a worst gift what she can offer to her husband.

What if the guy starts living with other female or marries another female with whom he gets attracted with or for his physical needs?

“The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It’s focused attention.”

The reason for the above question is not based on assumptions; it is based on experiences I am facing with this dirty world. Now a days guys are very open and freaky to question to a woman who is married/divorced or single to ask her can you live with me in a relationship ( this means like a wife but I can’t marry you).

Aren’t we giving the chance for the spouse to make mistakes by allowing them to live alone for the sake of economic development or for his career/professional growth?

I am not saying all guys are wrong, out of 90% of friends 1% would have tried the above question with me and I have all the rights to say this to the fellow females not to allow their husbands to stay away from them for any reason. It is their choice and even the female can go and live with anyone.

For economic conditions sake, they will do anything and they don’t want to keep the promise what the marriage says to them. Neither they are sharing their life’s joy and sorrow with each other. They want to share their happiness in terms of money not in terms of caring for each other with lovable, affectionate and caring ways.

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Vacational Husbands…..

Vacation Husbands

I was very much interested to watch the movie Accidental Husband because of the actress Uma Thurman and the name of the movie made me inquisitive that I have to watch this. Nevertheless it was not a wonderful movie but an average was the comment I got from a friend when it was released and I was not interested to watch it in theatre.

While searching for this movie in the internet, I came across about the “New husbands”. This is a Tamil short film which was discussing about the married men and the changes that comes in the newly wedded men. How they behave, what do they in front and behind their wife.

I wished to write about the vacation husbands was the thing came to my mind a thought processing content was there quite some time but I didn’t write because many of my friends will feel bad. As it is the fact that many of them are vacation-al husbands. I am sorry my friends, but I have to share this because this is quite annoying as you guys dont understand the feelings of women who are behind you.

I’ve heard more and more about couples who live apart two different homes because of jobs. This was not the trend 30-35 years ago!

I really got inspiration to write this topic because of a woman who has given lot of impression in me with this way of life. She was married for quite long years now and spending her time with her husbands like the school kids celebrating their Quarterly holidays, Half yearly holidays, Christmas holidays and Annual leaves.

This is highly disgusting factor in any woman’s life and as a woman and I prefer to live a single life rather to live with this kind of vaction-al husband, killing the concept of marriage.

She is working in a country and her husband is working in a different country and she is waiting for him to come down and settle in the country where she is working. She will talk to him over phone on her convenience and he will pick the call on his convenience. Is it all about marriage? Marriage is all about sharing the happiness with each other and to feel the togetherness.

As a good observer, I realized that they will not move down from their place of work as he is comfortable working in that place and she is very much comfortable to work in her atmosphere. Both of them aren’t going to move down from their stand. I tried couple of times yelling/telling her to go and settle there but of no use. Well, end of the day it is her life what is the big deal for me?  It is not my cup of tea and I am not there to explain her, if it is her wish let her suffer or enjoy. I wondered, but didn’t say anything to the girl, because it makes no sense talking to her.

The main reason for me to write about this is because of my colleagues wife was forced to talk with me and the way she was sharing her feelings about her husband was really shocking. Is it because of in security or because of her love, care, affection or expectations of care and affection from her husband or whether she suspects him or she suspects all those who work with him? Leaving her in home country and working in a different country has given bad name for him or for those ladies who work with him?

What was going on in my mind was “is it the economy breaking the relationships or making the relationships”? What is the use of living 10 years separately as husband and wife? It is better to say that I am single or a divorcee than to say that my husband lives in UAE/UK/USA.

Is it the economy playing a role or the freedom for female playing the role? What the “F” is happening?? 

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