Anger

Anger is an emotion in any living being. It is a good emotion as long as it is instant. It is normal, usually healthy emotion. When it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Anger written in water

Anger in water is like the anger with a stranger or when something disturbs us instantly. When a person by mistake falls on us in a bus or someone spills a cup of coffee or when someone horns when we get struck in a traffic or when someone comments on the road we get anger but when the opponent says sorry, our anger will go like the fog on the grass after the sunshine.

Anger written in sands

Anger written in sands is not with the strangers, but it is within the known circle. A mother scolds daughter not to watch the TV and asking to study, instantly the daughter getting anger. Fight between two sisters for petty issues or when a friend scolds for unwanted reason or accusing for not doing some mistakes. This will lost in few days or in few weeks. It might not long for more than a month.

Anger written in a Rock

Anger written in Rock is not with the strangers and it is within the very closed circle. Some things which disturbs them mentally and they are unable to sort it out with the other person. Then it remains in the heart of the people. Some hurts are like touching the Ego’s of each other. Some cases where the brothers have some family disputes.

Some cases the anger will not last for even 30 years.  There are some people who will say I don’t want to see someone even at my death-bed or I will not forgive him for doing this at his death-bed also. It is because of the pain what was given by the other person.

In the first two cases, it will last soon and the anger written in a rock will kill the peace of both the parties the person who is in anger and the person who made them to get wild.

Controlling Anger

We normally use both conscious and unconscious practices to deal with our angry feelings.  The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming. Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive and not in aggressive manner is the strongest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behavior. Some-times it is very danger in this type of suppressing the anger because in few cases it isn’t allowed outward expression, the anger can turn inward against our self.

Unexpressed anger can create many problems. It can lead to extreme expressions of anger, such as getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships.

Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behavior, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.

Whatever be the anger, it is a good sign in human and it shows that we are human and without showing the negative emotion it is very difficult to live in this world. Make anger as positive and try to hold the anger written in water or in sand not in the Rock. Don’t hold it forever and live in pain.

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