Holding-Stronger-Happier

Holding on is being brave, but letting go and moving on is often what makes us stronger and happier.

Many of us used to say that we have to let go people who doesn’t like to be with us. Even I agree with it, sometimes people will go out of us, just because we allowed them to go. Often they will say that you didn’t try to hold me, so I left.
Definitely, I am supposed to leave you long time back, but I don’t want to regret in future or I don’t want to hear from you that you allowed me to go and you didn’t care when I wanted to leave you. Now I have not given that chance also to you to leave me. Because I was the only one who tried to hold you for so long time. Tell me in the below how many I have done with you and tried to hold you…

Here are the signs and we should not allow anyone to hurt us or to get hurt because of us. and it is the high time to let go:

BE WHO YOU ARE , Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. Don’t change who you are for anyone else.  It’s wiser to lose someone over BEING WHO YOU ARE, than to keep them by being someone you’re not.  I know I will not hold someone for long time when I feel that they are going to kill the originality of myself. I want to be as I AM and I can’t change my attitude of giving love, care, concern for anyone. It is an inborn attitude and even if I try not to do it, I can hold only for some time, and if I can’t give my helping hands when someone needs it or when I can’t give the love on the spot to someone who deserves it, that will give me a guilty feeling.

I can give up any of my bad qualities for others, but not my good qualities for anyone. Some of Passions are like Giving Love, Helping others, Working, Reading, Writing, Watching Movies, Biking, Cycling, Religion & Faith, Being Vegetarian are some of it which I will not change for anyone.

I am not a preacher, I am a follower. Whatever I read, I follow and Whatever I do, I do it from heart. Whether it is love or Hate.

WORDS are powerful but ACTIONS PROVES – When a person’s actions don’t match their words. Everybody deserves someone in their life to help them to look forward tomorrow. If someone needs you then give them your hand and make their today and tomorrow best. If someone has the opposite effect on you, because they are consistently inconsistent and their actions don’t match up with their words, we should know that it is time to let them go.  It’s always better to be alone than to be in bad company.  True friendship is a promise made in the heart – silent, unwritten, unbreakable by distance, and unchangeable by time.  Don’t listen to what people say; watch what they do.  Your true friends will slowly show themselves over time.

LOVE IN PAST- If someone says I gave the love to you truly in the past. Think of those time what I spent with you was real and now I am unable to give, better erase them from your mind and memory because they were never real and what they say today also will change because they know only to confuse people not to get convinced or be contented with what they have. up to me there is no love called as love in past or love in parts or love in portions..

Love is Always and forever… Even when you say someone you hate, that is also Love because your heart wants not to think about them, but mind will always keep them safely saying that it hates so as the heart can relax and feel cool. Ultimately the love from heart only makes them to hate from mind.

FORCING SOMEONE TO LOVE – You make problems for yourself forcing someone to love you. – Let us keep in mind that we can’t force anyone to love us.  We shouldn’t beg someone to stay when they want to leave.  That’s what love is all about – freedom.  However, the end of love is not the end of life.  It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson

REAL or FAKE DOUBTS  – If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it.  Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you.  Sometimes it takes a while to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.

INTIMATE FRIEND – Sometimes you might consider someone as close, but we should know how that other person feels about us. If an intimate relationship is based strictly on physical attraction will leave you and those who see the beauty of heart will be with you always. 

Being beautiful is more than how many people you can get to look at you, or how others perceive you at a single glance.  It’s about what you live for.  It’s about what defines you.  It’s about the depth of your heart, and what makes you unique.  It’s about being who you are and living out your life honestly.  It’s about those little chances that make you, you.  People who are only attracted to you because of your pretty face or nice body won’t stay by your side forever.  But the people who can see how beautiful your heart is will never leave you.

Don’t cry for the one who left you or who is not trying to hold you, because they were not to be destined in your life to enjoy the goodness of your heart. May be they entered your life by seeing the external beauty. If they are blessed with internal beauty, they would have seen the internal beauty of your heart and those who see it will never allow it to shed tears or break it into pieces.
BREAKING TRUST – Someone continuously breaks your trust. – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to – It is the faith that you have in the,.  When you completely trust a person, without any doubt, you’ll automatically get one of two results – A Good Human for life or a LESSON for life.  Either way there’s a positive outcome.  Either you confirm that this person cares about you, or you get the opportunity to weed them out of your life and make room for those who do.  In the end you’ll discover who’s fake, who’s true, and who would risk it all for you.  And trust me, some people will totally surprise you with their attitudes, looks….which you will never be able to feel whether it is real or fake and they will not allow you to do anything like neither they will love you nor they will allow you to leave them.

KNOW YOUR WORTH – Someone continuously overlooks your worth When you give yourself to someone who doesn’t respect you, you surrender pieces of your soul that you’ll never get back.  There comes a point when you have to let go and stop chasing some people.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll find a way to put you there.  Sometimes you just need to let go and accept the fact that they don’t care for you the way you care for them.  Let them leave your life quietly.  Letting go is oftentimes easier than holding on.  We think it’s too hard to let go, until we actually do.  Then we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I do this sooner?” I should have done this long time back at least by this time, I would have got peace and happiness back in my life.

SPEAK FROM MIND – Give a chance to speak your mind. – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it I tried to hold you for no reason and tried not to hurt you with my words and killed myself. It is better to speak up for our hearts so that we won’t have regrets.  Life is about making others happy but not at the cost of our life.  Life is about being honest and sharing your happiness with others. Yea I know her silence torn me in to pieces and I am still not in a place to rebuild myself. Neither she is ready to accept the love, nor to show the love. Neither she is ready to leave nor is she ready to be in. Main problem for me in the relationship was she was not ready to speak anything. SILENCE is Silver but not always and it will KILL the person who looks for the words or arguments from you.

SACRIFICE HAPPINESS – You are often forced to sacrifice your happiness in the sense that you will get hurt and you might not feel happy in getting hurt or in the sacrifice but you will be doing it. After some time, you will feel that you have that relationship in you because you were able to do the sacrifice, when we need to give up the relationship, we will feel more pain and it will lead to severe wreckage because the reason for our sacrifice is we want the relationship not thinking that we have to give up.

I love to give the happiness and make others to smile. But when I am unable to give that happiness to my other fellow-man or to my friends that means I am lacking something. When I am not happy, how can I give that to someone? I get love from one and I give it to the other. The other person doesn’t know to accept the love or to give it back. If I allow it to happen continuously, I will be losing the one because the love what I get from others, is not being given to them in the way they are giving it to me.
SELF RESPECT – Love is like a Savings Bank Account – If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative before you know it.  Know when to close the account.  It’s always better to be alone with dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect. Maintain your dignity in love, there is no love without faith, trust & care.

HATE YOURSELF – You truly dislike your current situation, routine, job, etc. – It’s better to be a failure at something you love than to succeed at doing something you hate.  Don’t let someone who gave up on their dreams talk to you out of going after yours.  The best thing you can do in life is follow your heart.  Take risks.  Don’t just make the safe and easy choices because you’re afraid of what might happen.  If you do, nothing will ever happen.  I tried making the changes but since I am true and loyal and I was not able to leave my company because I was on leave for 3 months and my company has paid me for all the 3 months. Even though it is of annual leave and medical leave, they were ready to pay me and not ask me to get out of the company.

LIVING IN THE PAST – You think more and catch yourself obsessing over and over, and living in the past. – I don’t like to cry and shed tears. I don’t like to look back and see what happened and who made me to shed tears. I do look back for those who made me of what I am today. I am grateful to them and I have to be thankful even to those who made me to shed tears. Otherwise I would not have come to this level because of which I came to know the real & fake people and the difference between good and bad.

NOT EASY It is not easy to come out but eventually we will overcome the heartache, and forget the reasons what made us to cry and who caused the pain.  Sooner we will realize that the secret to happiness and freedom is not about holding or control or revenge, but in letting things unfold naturally, and learning from your experiences over the course of time.  After all, what matters most is not the first, but the last chapter of your life, which unveils the details of how well you wrote your story.

FIRST FEELING is always first feeling and but we can’t stick on to it when it gives pain and when it hurts you more and what is the use of holding it? It is better to let it go and live peacefully than living like a dead person or thinking to kill ourselves.So let go of the past, set yourself free, and open your mind to the possibility of new relationships and priceless experiences.  Open your mind for new relationship only if you are comfortable to get the same hurt once again because it is not easy to get hurt again and again. A broken heart knows how painful it is for them to give pain to the other heart since the person who comes in your life has a new relation might not know it and even then they will hurt you knowingly or unknowingly.

HOPE- Start a new beginning And the one thing you should never let go of is hope.  Remember what you deserve and keep pushing forward.  Someday all the pieces will come together.  Unimaginably good things will happen in your life, even if everything doesn’t turn out exactly the way we expected. People will say that when we look back at the times that have passed, smile, and we will ask ourselves that , “How did I get through all of that?” But as far as my personal experience is concerned I have not tried to hold on anything in my life and I set everything to go… There is a chance for the person who hurt you to come back to you with a fresh heart and don’t feel that they will not change as Changes are inevitable and only thing which we can have hope is that change. Changes can happen in any hearts. Give room for the other person to change and to come to you. Don’t be in hurry to look for a new relation. We never know what is going in the other heart

TOUGH TIME- It is little tough this time to let it go because got more hurt and thought that the person is worth of giving the hurt to me, but holding it and taking more hurt and giving more hurt to the other person is going to be hell for both of us. When I want you to let it go, I feel that I should have done it long time back and the pain has made all the damages to  of me. this is what will happen when we hold with pain. It was just a time frame between life and death and I know that even this will pass away if I am alive. I  trust and faith in God. Above all he is the one wants me to let it go…. I will stand up and run again as like before, it might take some time, but I will be okay and I will not give up myself for silly reason.

2 thoughts on “Holding-Stronger-Happier

  1. Nice to read your blog and seems interesting and you have shown varieties in your writing… I love your contents of Love… You gone through lot of phases in life… Keep writing and wish you to have more love… as you have said precious love forever…..

    I really enjoyed your writing on the below… It is like how I have to be with my friends and relatives, a great eye-opener.

    SPEAK FROM MIND – Sometimes an argument saves a relationship, whereas silence breaks it. True Silence is not always silver, it will kill when we are in LOVE.

    BREAKING TRUST – Love means giving someone the chance to hurt you, but trusting them not to – It is the faith that you have in them- What a feeling… Many will not realize this and many will not give chance also to hurt us… because of the trust what we have given

    LOVE IN PAST- If someone says I gave the love to you truly in the past. – I strongly agree with you that they are not said to be as part of your life because they were never real and they will not be real. But it is very difficult to take it easily. I am really surprised how you have overcome this situation and how is it possible to get up and face the world again after feeling this kind of worst experience.

    Love is Always and forever… Even when you say someone you hate, that is also Love because your heart wants not to think about them, but mind will always keep them safely saying that it hates so as the heart can relax and feel cool. Ultimately the love from heart only makes them to hate from mind.

    Don’t cry for the one who left you or who is not trying to hold you, because they were not to be destined in your life to enjoy the goodness of your heart.

    Beautiful writing – Keep it up and glow with your writings – be a winner and be good and do good….

    • Hi,

      The feelings whatever I have given is daunting and it was on and on; deep inside the heart and I thought that I can’t survive and I need to overcome and it was really a hell when our love is real. All the words are from the heart and it will be real and will have some painful effects as well as pleasant feelings.

      It’s impossible to mistake one lady to blow off another for anything especially if you have real love for them, ideally i should not let it go even by this way but no other option for me.

      It was impossible for me to make sense that I was getting the worst of my life and it is not a simple thing, especially while living it.
      I convinced myself after several weeks, and I am not the only woman on this earth who would ever experienced this.
      Somehow everyone else in the world knew how to get to an ending with the one they love, and walk on top of it. For me getting over it is difficult and I am trying to vent out through my words.

      I am broken, dejected, lost control, lost myself because if the feelings I had(ve) were even kind of common, I would not have felt bad for them to go, I am feeling bad.

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