Archive | September 2012

11-August

Date: August 11th 2012

I never thought that I will get another chance to be with her, that too immediate after a next day… Consecutive two days and spending time together with her is not possible. Especially that was during the Ramadan time. Either she will be busy at home or some guests will be at home.

It was time for her to go on vacation and may be that gave us the chance to have the second continuous day doing her shopping.

I am so crazy of buying watches and in the last few years I stopped wearing watches as I don’t get time to see the watch and complete my work. We don’t end the day by looking at the watch. Usage of watches are not that much and most of the time sitting in front of laptop which shows the time. When we are away, we use our mobiles for looking the time.

Few months back when we went for some shopping, I told her that I will be buying my next watch only with her. I didn’t get the chance to buy the watch with her and I used to convince myself saying that anyway I am not using the watches now.

When we planned to start our shopping I told her to come to a nearby mall where we will start our shopping with a watch, then we will do rest of the shopping.

We went to the shop selected couple of watches and then we continued our shopping for her.A Brown color strapped one and another with a chain type which I selected on my own.

Once again, we went to the same restaurant where I used to go with my friends (TEAM). Even the waiter asked me, how come you are alone without your other friends. I just smiled and said, when am with this female, they will not be with me and when I am with them, I can’t be with her.

After dinner, we left and I reached my room, I took both the watches and kept it on my lap and was feeling like my life time dream was accomplished. I was looking at it for more than 10 minutes without even thinking about anything.

When she pinged me, I told her that I am looking at the watches and it looks great da… I told her strap one was very good (which was selected by her) and she said, the chain is also good, but when you selected it, I felt it is not good, but when you tried it in your hand, it was looking good. Let’s wait for your friends comments. Ofcourse they also said its good 🙂

When I inscribe the past moments, I don’t find something great or good in those watches but the time I have spent and the way she was selecting it was the best moments and I really enjoyed those moments. I can buy 100 watches more but the time what I have spent for these two are the wonderful moments, which I can’t buy with money.

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Friendship – Convenience

A Friendship of Convenience

There are many people who take friendship for their convenience; some what I hate people using other feelings for their benefits or for the time pass. Friendship is not for time pass. Friendship is of values and not for convenience…

Friends are indispensable and integral part of our life. We need them and we need friends in every stage of our life. They help us to cross the tough times and to celebrate the good times. I don’t know how people have friends for their conveniences. For few friends are like passing clouds.

In reality it requires a lot of hard work to keep up a healthy and strong relationship. When we are into the different stages of life, it requires a lot of energy, mindset and inner urge to support the friendship.

We need to divide the time between family, work and taking care of everything. That’s why it’s very important to realize about whom we choose as our friends.

I truly believe in giving without having expectations or something in return, but at the same time it is important to realize that there are some people who add value to our lives and others who tend to bring us down. We should know who add values to our life and who makes us down and it is highly required to avoid those who bring you down mentally.

In life we spend too much time chasing the people who don’t care and neglecting those who truly do and who deserve our time, attention and energy.

It is important to surround ourselves with people who uplift us. People who love and value us and inspire us to be better. The energy of the people around us affects us more than we know.

Only few friends are worth of your time. Other friendships just aren’t worth nurturing.

Friends that are easily available to all of us and we have because it’s easy to have them. They’re like the men who go to the same gym as you go or they are the parents of your kid’s friends or your immediate neighbor’s, some as your car pool friends, friends in trains, friends by chance in a flight and some as part of your colleague’s.

In very rare cases, these people actually become your real friends. But for these people you typically don’t want to devote a lot of time. It is nice to have them as acquaintances to help with car pool or for a walk and these people we can’t say them that they are the friends who will be there when our time really gets tough.

These friends can bring a smile in your face and they can give some pleasure and even we might feel that we enjoy spending time with these people since it’s convenient. But don’t get so caught up in these easy connections that you nurture them when you should be nurturing your deeper connections.

Major drawback with us is not knowing the right person and we devote lot of time for these friendships of conveniences and miss the real one’s. It is easier to get these kind of friends of convenience or time pass and we will become a joker in life by missing the one who cares and dedicates their time for us and we will miss the one who doesn’t even think about us.

By spending the time with these strangers or thinking about these strangers, we miss the one who is always there to do something for you. We know that someone is there we call at the last-minute when we board a plane or come back after a long journey.

We should know that someone is there to think about you and you dedicate your time for others who are not going to be with you when you really need them. We are going to depend on someone else who is going to take the burden out of us and who is going to motivate or console.

It is pretty good to call the one who longs for you and you’ve been friends for two or twenty years and it has to be in both the hearts and this is what you do for each other; you call her because you know that she will be waiting for your call and she calls you not to say that she is fine or to ask how are you, she does because she knows that you will be waiting for her call.

This call is not at their convenience and it will be from the heart to say that it thinks all the time about you at that point of time, I am sharing my thoughts with you. I don’t depend on you, but I truly deserve you.

You call her because you know that she can never say no to an opportunity to help and she can call you anytime knowing that you will never say no to her for anything. The problem is that she never lets you to forget that you are best one, whom she can trust. She doesn’t let you help her unless it is really required. She knows that you are her best believer/supporter and never takes you for granted.

Admit it; you’re hanging on to this friend because you know that she’ll do things for you even though you’re paying the price of feeling guilty about the friendship. True friends will do things for you when you need them and you’ll do things for them when they need it. It’s a fair exchange; not a competition to see who is the best believer/supporter.

As a matured person, we really have a limited amount of time and emotional energy to invest in friendships. Those friendships should be satisfying, supporting, caring, inspiring, withstanding and loving. It shouldn’t cause guilt or stress in your day-today life. The energy of the other person really matters to us and it affect us either positively or negatively.

Take some time to show your relationships and make sure that you are appreciating those who respect and genuinely care for you. Do little things to show those people that they mean a lot to you and you value their friendships.

Ideally it is our choice and we should know how to reevaluate what is the time you are investing in people who deserve it and those who don’t deserve it. You should never feel like someone treats you well only at their “convenience”.

10-August

Date: August 10th’2012

Place: Abu Dhabi

Time 8 PM

I don’t know how to begin but it is highly important and need to be captured as my sweet memories, as I feel now a days, my memory is getting old… need to save this forever and that’s why the need to record it has come. Even after twenty years, if I think about this day, it has to be in my heart as like the day it happened. I hope I will not forget this till the time I am giving treats to my friends/family.

Normally a get together with my team is like every day routine and having food outside is not a very rare occasion for us. We love our outing and we love our togetherness. This time it is totally different, when it is with someone very close and a lovable person, then it means a lot.

Lunch or dinner with friends is nothing new or important as we do it every day. With this special person we waited for an occasion. I think we had a couple of dinners before this, but this one is so special because she has to give it for some special reason. There were many other occasions for which this kanjoos has not given treat…  but this time, somewhat She (SAD) wanted to give the treat and from her words, I felt it is going to happen.

I was with my friends on 10th from morning till evening. As usual, my SAD was in dilemma, whether to come out or not. Finally we decided to have dinner together and I asked her to call me before leaving. We were supposed to meet around 7 and I was waiting for her call and didn’t get the call from her.

My Brother was saying that you are not going to have dinner with her, and today’s dinner is with us only. You better come with us instead of waiting for her call. I told him, if that is the case I will join you there but I will wait till the time she says it is not going to happen. I trust in her that she will come. Brother said, it’s almost 1 hour gone and I am sure you are not going for the dinner tonight. The same moment she said she is on the way and asked me to come to the venue.

We met and had dinner, what we had doesn’t make sense for me as the time spent together by us matters more than anything.

After dinner we wanted to do some shopping and we started hunting the shop. She wanted to buy a ring, so we went to a shop nearby to get the ring. Normally I don’t prefer to go with anyone especially when they want to buy gold, because the curiosity to buy the gold will make me to buy something and will make me to spend and finally will end up in sleepless nights.

When I entered the shop, I told myself that I have to control myself. I know for sure that I will not see anything because, we were looking for rings and getting a ring to my fingers is really a tough thing… unless I order the ring, I will not get it.

The more we control not to look for anything will make us to look for something, and I tried a couple of rings  and a ring was looking good and I felt I have to take it, which is usual urge in me for gold. Only one ring which was apt to my fingers and I felt it is good.  Still I was in a feeling to buy that or not, and she convinced me.

 

It took 30 minutes for her to select the ring, even though there were not many… Along with her ring, I asked the sales guy to bill the other ring as well.

To my surprise, my SAD said that it is a gift from me and I will be the one paying for it. I don’t prefer to take anything from youngsters and when she said it as a gift, I was not able to reject.

We had arguments and she said if you don’t like, then it’s okay but it was in my mind for some time.  I don’t want to hurt her feelings and I accepted it.

After paying the bill, we collected the rings, I told her, I will wear it next day as I used to feel saturday’s are auspicious. We were waiting for her ring to be altered. In the meantime she said friday is also auspicious and you can wear it today also….and the way she wore it in my fingers was awesome…..

It was really a great day for me because I spent nearly about 4 hours with her, which was the best feeling. Neither the treat nor the gift from her made me to feel so happy but the time what we have spent together means a lot to me. Those special moments needs to be captured irrespective of the happenings.

Note**** Thanks to my friend Anantha for taking the photographs, even before I ask him to take the photo’s, he voluntarily did it. Only you know the value and importance of it and what it means to me… Heartfelt thanks…

11-August Continues….